Ukujoyina unxibelelwano lwexesha elincinci ngaphandle kokuzibophelela, ke indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane bexesha elide oluzinzileyo bunzima kakhulu. Unokuba neengxaki zombini kunye noloyiko lwabantwana kunye neengxaki okwangoku eziza kuzenza buthathaka. Ukuba sele udibene nomntu wakho omthandayo, zama ukusebenzisana kunye. Kwaye abo bangekazifumana luthando, siya kusinceda.
"Undiqhekeze Intliziyo"
Ukusinda kwisigulana nje kwisigulana ngentanda, uya kulumkela - oku kuchazwa kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge le meko kwaye uqonde ukuba iinoveli ezimbalwa ezingafikelelekiyo azithethi ukuba awusoze udibane nomntu wakho. Musa ukoyika ukufumana iimvakalelo ezingalunganga, ngenxa yobomi obulungileyo obungenakuqulatha. Kungcono ukufunda okhethiweyo ngenyameko kwaye ufunde imiqondiso eyingozi ebonisa i-preche yayo engazinzanga, eya kukhokelela ekuthandeni. Umsantsa nomntu owodwa awuyi kukuzisela iintlungu ezininzi, kuba ukwahlukana, kuya kwenzeka, kuya kwenzeka, kuya kwenzeka, kuya kwenzeka, kuya kwenzeka emva kwencoko ecacileyo kwithoni ezolileyo kunye nesigqibo esidibeneyo, indlela yokuphila ngayo.
Uloyiko lwakho ukusuka kwixesha elidlulileyo lokuphazamiseka okwangoku
Ukuba awunamava amabi kubudlelwane obudlulileyo, yenza ukubekwa phambili kwimicimbi:
Zeziphi izigqibo ezibalulekileyo endaye ndamkela kolu lwalamano?
Ngaba bendinyamezele into endicaphukisayo okanye ndicaphukise, ngenxa yolondolozo?
Ngaba ndilungiselele i-hysteria okanye ndicaphukise iingqumbo zokutsala umdla wamadoda kuthi?
Ndazifihla iimvakalelo zam zokwenyani ukuba liqabane elifanelekileyo?
Ndinike ngaphezulu, kodwa andizivanga?
Ukuphendula "ewe" ubuncinci umbuzo omnye, kuya kufuneka usebenzele isihloko ngokwakho okanye uqhagamshelane nengcali yengqondo eya kuthi incede ivale.
"Andifuni kuqhela kuye"
Okukhona rhoqo kwaye ixesha elide unxibelelana nomntu, kokukhona kanye ngakumbi. Amantombazana amaninzi ayoyika ukuwa uthandana nalo mfo bade babone amanyathelo okuqala kuye-kubonakala ngathi ukuba indoda ihamba nabo ngesondo kuphela. Ukuba ucinga njalo, kufuneka usebenze ngokuzithemba. Amadoda abona bantu banye bakoyikayo ukuba balahlwe ngumntu onokuthi abonakale ngokukhawuleza, nangona befihlela imaski " inomdla kakhulu. Yiya kwindoda enentliziyo evulekileyo kwaye ufumane iimvakalelo ezifanayo ezivela kuye - yixabise ngalo mzuzu, hayi ithemba lokutshata ngempumelelo. Rhoqo imihla embalwa enomntu onomdla uya kuba lubaluleke ngakumbi kuphuhliso lwakho kunobudlelwane obude kunye nendoda eyonwabisayo engenanto yokwabelana nawe.
Nxibelelana nabantu abohlukeneyo kwaye wandise amava akho obomi
"Ndifuna ukufumana inketho ngokulula"
Ngesizathu esithile, amantombazana akholelwa ukuba amadoda amnandi ajonge abafazi kubo - ngokuqinisekileyo amantombazana aphezulu aphezulu anonwele olude. Ndikholelwe, ngokufuthi le ndoda ayicingi nokuba ihle kangakanani - ngaba uhlala ucinga ngenkangeleko yakho? Badibana, kodwa, musa ukulibala, niphele nengqondo. Umzobo, umbala weenwele kunye nombala wamehlo unokutshintshwa: unokuhlala uzama ukubonakala komnqweno wakho. Kodwa ingqondo elungileyo ayinikwanga bonke - ukuyikhulisa kwabaninzi. Ukuhamba, funda iincwadi ezisemgangathweni eziphezulu, jonga iimuvi, yiya kwimiboniso nakwiindawo zokutyela ze-cuisine yokwahluka, nxibelelana nabantu abavela kwilizwe lakho kunye nabaphambukeli. Emva koko uya kutsala umntu onokubakho kunye namava obomi akho kunye noluhlu olubanzi, kwaye lungabi lubukhulu beebhokisi.