Uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukungalumeli nje ulwalamano oluhle nabazali, kodwa kwaba ngabahlobo. Ewe kunjalo, kulungile, xa kuqinisekile ukuba ukuqonda, kodwa oochwephesha bengqondo bayazithemba, kukho izihloko ezininzi ezingafanelekanga ezingachaphazelekanga ekunxibelelaneni nezalamane ezisondeleyo. Ukwaphula lo mthetho, uqhekeza unxibelelwano olukhoyo kuphela phakathi kwakho nabazali.
Ingxoxo ngobomi obusondeleyo
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba esona sihloko singalunganga kwintlanganiso. Nokuba sisondele ngakumbi kubuhlobo bakho nabazali, ingxoxo yezinye, inani lamaqabane kunye nayo yonke into enjalo kumoya onjalo iya kuba yinto engalunganga kakhulu kwaye ayifanelekanga.
Oku kuyasebenza nakubazali: abantwana bakho abangoyena mntu ugxininisiweyo xa kuziwa ngesondo, ngcono ubuze icebiso elingumhlobo / umhlobo okwisiphango sahluke ngokupheleleyo kwindiza eyahlukileyo yonxibelelwano.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokulinganayo nomntwana, kufuneka incoko malunga nempilo yezempilo, kuba akukho mntu akasayi kuphinda angabi. Kubalulekile ukuba umxelele umntu okwishumi elivisayo malunga nokuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ukhuselekile kwaye zeziphi iziphumo ezinokubakho kwisondo esingakhuselekanga. Ezo ncoko kufuneka zenziwe ngokuxhomekeka ekubonakaleni komdla kumntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo kubantu besini esichaseneyo, ngokufuthi olu lulutsha oluneminyaka eli-14 ubudala.
Abantwana beve yonke into: sukuthetha phambi kwabo ezinye izalamane
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Ingxoxo yamanye amalungu osapho kwiqhosha elibi
Oku akufanelanga, ngakumbi ukugweba abantwana bakho, nokuba benze into, umbono wakho, ubudenge kwaye ayinangqondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo abazali bakho baya kulunga ukuva ukugxekwa ngokuchasene nabazukulwana babo. Musa ukuvumela amagqabantshintshi angesozimvo kwaye ubhekisene nezihlobo ezisondeleyo phambi kwabantwana abancinci abasasaza yonke into evayo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ulungele ukungqubana okuvulekileyo nabazali abaya kumxelela umntwana ngokungathobeki malunga nembono yakho kubo.
Khangela ngokukhalaza
Wonke umntu ufuna ukufumana inkxaso ngexesha elinzima, kodwa faka ukuhamba kwezikhalazo ezihlala kwaye uziguqulele kwisiko lemihla ngemihla kwitheyibhile yesidlo sangokuhlwa-hayi olona luvo lufanelekileyo. I-good akufuneki iguqukele kumkhwa. Kungcono ukucela iBhunga kuMama okanye nguPoe, ukungaqeqesheni ithoni engathethekiyo, umzekelo: "Endleleni zonke iziqendu, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukhwele" okanye "umhlobo akakwazi ukuba ukhetha njani amadoda, kodwa kuba ... ". Musa ukuyithwalela indlu yomsindo.
Abazali ngokwabo baya kukucela ukuba ucebise ukuba kukho imfuneko
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Nika iingcebiso ezingeyomfuneko
Uninzi lwabazali ubuncinci kunawe kabini, ngenxa yoko iingcebiso ezingabuzi, azifuneki, ingaqondakali xa uqala ukugxeka indlela yokuziphatha konyoko okanye utata wakho. Khumbula ukuba icebiso lilungile xa kufuneka njalo.
Abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuba ngumhlobo kubazali babo
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Iingxoxo ezishushu kwinkolo, ezopolitiko kunye nemiba engeyiyo impendulo
Zonke ezi zihloko zibangela ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kungekuphela ngoogxa kunye nabahlobo, kodwa banokuba "yi-Apple ye-Apple" nakwintsapho echumileyo. Abazali bakho ngabantu abafanayo njengabo bonke oye baxoxa ngaphambili, masithi, unyulo kwilizwe elinye lasebudlelweni, ungacingi ukuba kulindelwe ukuba kukhona omnye umntu okrexezayo. Ukuthintela isitayile, musa ukujongana nengxoxo, ukuba ubona impendulo engeyiyo kumazwi akho, kungcono ukuguqulela incoko kwesinye isihloko.