Umntu ongakhathaliyo ngokwasemzimbeni ngumntu ongenalo uvelwano kwintanda yentanda yakhe, akanakukwazi ukuthathela ingqalelo enye indawo yokujonga ubudlelwane phakathi kolwalamano lwangaphakathi kwaye uhlala enganyangeki ukuba usondele nabani. Le ndoda ivakalelwa kukuba yenza le nto ayifunayo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nokuba ezi ntshukumo kunye namagama zichaphazela njani ubudlelwane.
Ukukhathalela imeko yeemvakalelo yenye kubalulekile
Ezi meko zivakaliswa kulwalamano lonxibelelwano, kodwa zihlala zifihlakele ebomini. Umntu onobuqili uyakuqonda ukuba imbeko kunye nenkxalabo yakhe kwabanye yenza igama elihle. Nangona kunjalo, emva kweengcango ezivaliweyo, xa kungekho "iziphumo" zokwenyani, lo mntu uhlala ebonisa ukungabikho kovelwano nokuphepha iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Ukungangqinelani phakathi kwenkcazo-ntetho yoluntu kunye neempawu zayo zokwenyani zinokuba zinkulu. Ukuba unamava ubuchule, ungayiqondi ukuba kutheni eyedwa wakho uyedwa, kwaye nawe omnye, funda le nto.
Abakhohlisi abanobuchule
Ngelishwa, ukungakhathali ngokweemvakalelo kulula ukufihla kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, kuba kubonakalaliswa ngamazwi - indawo apho wonke umntu anokubangela abanye ngobuchule. Esebenzisa ukuphambuka, ukunciphisa kunye nokugwetywa, umntu ongakhathaliyo ngokweemvakalelo uyagatya iimvakalelo zomntu endimthandayo aze azithethelele. Unokuthintela ngokulula ukungonwabi kuxanduva lweemvakalelo.
Iimpawu zomntu onenkathamo zibandakanya:
1. Isakhono sokubona umbono wembono yomntu othandekayo, nokuba yahlukile kuye.
2. Ukwazi ukuzihlaziya kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwimbambano.
3. Uvavanyo lokuguqula ngokunyaniseka emva kwempazamo.
4. Ngokweemvakalelo kwaye usazi ngokunxulumene nabanye.
5. Inokuba sengozini, chonga kwaye uxoxe ngeemvakalelo ezinzima.
6. Sizisa uxolo ngokunyaniseka ngempazamo.
Njengomlilo namanzi
Abantu abanobuchule ngokweemvakalelo banokusombulula ingxabano kuba banokunamathela kwenye indawo, babonakalise kwaye bathathe inxaxheba kwimbambano. Ukongeza, kuba babonakaliswa luvelwano, bahlala beziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo. Emva kwesenzo sokuzingca okanye impazamo, bahlala beziva ukuzisola, bacela uxolo kwaye bazama ukulungisa umsantsa kubudlelwane. Kwelinye icala, icala elingakhathaliyo ngokweemvakalelo libonisa iimvakalelo zabo kwaye alikwazi ukunamathela kwenye inqaku. Isigqibo sengxabano siphantse singenakwenzeka ngenxa yokuqiniseka komntu kwinto yokuba uhlala elungile.
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Yonke into ayiyonto nje
Umntu onoxanduva lomntu ngumntu onoxanduva lokuxhasa ulwalamano olusempilweni nolwalamano olusondeleyo nabanye abantu ababelana ngexabiso elifanayo. Ukusonjululwa kwengxabano, ukungqinelana ngokunxulumene nolunye ulwaneliseko nobudlelwane kubaluleke kakhulu ekuvumela umntu ukuba anyamekele kwaye aqonde abanye. Oku akuthethi ukuba umntu okrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo akasayi kuba nokuzimela okanye akazenzi iimpazamo, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba unokwenza isenzo sokuzingca, ukuzama ukucacisa iintlungu ezibangele ukuba ziyintlungu zibekwe. Ukulungiswa kweempazamo kubudlelwane buxhasa ukusondelelana, uvuyo kunye nentembeko- ungaphoswa amaxesha.