Izithuko ezimangalisayo yindlela yokwenzakalisa abanye besebenzisa amagama okanye ukuthula njengesixhobo. Ngokungafaniyo nogonyamelo lomzimba, izimbozo zomlomo azikhokeleli kwi-qubbs yamalungu, amaqhekeza phantsi kwamehlo okanye ezinye izinto ezenzakalisayo. Nangona kunjalo, ihlamisa impatho kwimo yakho yengqondo kwaye ihlala ikhokelela ekoyikeni, ilahlekile okanye uxinzelelo. Eyona ndlela ichanekileyo yokuphelisa isithukuthezi ngamazwi kukuphelisa umntu owonileyo ngonaphakade. Kodwa koku kufuneka ukwazi ukwazisa ubundlobongela, kwaye nasemva kokuba uchonge ingxaki, izinto zangaphandle, ezinje ngeengxaki zemali, zinokwenza ukuba kube nzima ukukususa ngokupheleleyo kwimeko. Ukuba ngenxa yaso nasiphi na isizathu sokuba ungayi kushenxisa umoni, indlela yakho kuphela yokuphelisa imiphumo ebi yogonyamelo. Nazi amanqanaba ama-4 anokukunceda ukuba uhlale kwingqondo elungileyo:
Ubudlelwane bufanele ukuba wonwabe ngakumbi, kwaye ungabulali impilo yengqondo
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Funda ukuqaphela ubundlobongela
Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqonda ukuphathwa gadalala kwayo. Izithuko ezimangalisayo zinokuthatha iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Ezona ntlobo zichongiweyo ngokulula zothuselo ngomlomo zibandakanya amagama abonakalayo kunye nokuqhambuka kwengqumbo egqithisileyo (umzekelo, isikhalo okanye isigculelo). Iifom ezinzima ngakumbi zokuqonda, zibandakanya ukuhlazeka, ukugculelwa, ukugxeka, ukudideka, ukugxeka okungafanelekanga kunye nokuhlaselwa okungafanelekanga kunye nokuhlaselwa. Yintoni impawu zazo zonke iifom zokuthuka ngomlomo, ke le nto amagama okanye ukusetyenziswa kwabo kusetyenziselwa ukulawula omnye umntu, kubangela ukuba ingonakalisi yeemvakalelo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ubulixhoba lokuthuka komlomo, ubukhulu becala, usenayo - intuition kunqabile ukuxoka. Ukuba amagama omsonto yakho (okanye ukungabikho kwabo) kuhlala kukwenzakalisa, ngokuqinisekileyo ngokusebenzisa gwenxa ngokuziphatha. Ukuba uhlala uneentloni ngamagqabaza eqabane, kusenokwenzeka ukuba usebudlelwaneni bendalo ekhubekisayo.
Phendula isigqibo
Emva kokuba ufunde ngogonyamelo, inyathelo elilandelayo iya kuba lizame ukutshintsha imeko ngokwazisa umntu osonileyo ukuba uyakuthuthuzela ngamazwi. Ukuziphatha kwaba bantu kumatyala anqabileyo kunokusekelwa kukungazi okugqithisileyo, kwaye incoko elula iya kunceda ekupheliseni ukuthuka. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, le ndlela ilula ayisebenzi. Iphethini efanayo ihlala ingenakwenzeka ukuba yaphule, ukuthetha nje ngengxaki. Ukuba uye waba yinto yokuthuka, musa ukuqhubeka nomxholo wentla. Ungamameli kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungazami ukuchaza umxhaphazi lowo kutheni engafanele enze into ayenzayo, okanye kutheni esenza impazamo. Ukuba kukho into enye onokuthi uqiniseke ngayo, yile nto ungayivuyisi i-theam yomlomo.
Endaweni yokuzama ukusebenzisa ingcinga ngakuye, mxelele izwi elinzima ukumisa izenzo zakhe. Amagama "Yima!" Kufuneka kwanele. Olunye ukhetho kukuyalela amagama ngokuxhatshazwa ngaphandle kokukhankanya umxholo. Ukuba umntu owonileyo ukhangela igama lesidlaliso, umzekelo, ungaphendula uthi: Ukuba akukho nto isebenzayo, musa ukulibazisa kwaye ushiye igumbi, ukuzikhetha kulo mntu.
Chitha ixesha kude nomfundi wakho
Ukuba awukwazi ukukhanyisa ukuze uhlukane nomntu owonileyo, fumana iindlela zokuhlangabezana nazo. Sebenza ukuze uzimele umntu owonileyo, kwaye uqhubeke uphendula ngamandla kwimeko nganye yogonyamelo. Ukukhusela impilo yakho nezempilo yakho, chitha ixesha kude nomfundi ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Thatha inja ende, thatha abantwana epakini, cela umhlobo ukuba ahlangane nawe kwi-cafe, tyelela usapho okanye enze imiyalelo. Okanye zenze ezinye zezo projekthi ekufuneka uzenze.
Sukuthatha ityala lomsonto
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Sukugcina ifihlakalo
Kuba izimbombo zomlomo aziyishiyi indlela ebonakalayo ebonakalayo, abanye kunokuba nzima ukuqonda ukuba bayaqhubeka kubudlelwane bakho. Izigculo ezimangalisayo zihlala zenza ukuthuka iminyango evaliweyo. Ukongeza, zihlala zinomtsalane kwaye zihlala zihlonitshwa kakhulu, apho abanye bengazange balindele ukubakho. Kuba ungabi nobungqina obubonakalayo bogonyamelo, usoyika ukuthemba abanye. Ungathandabuza ukuba abanye baya kukukholelwa. Usenokungazi nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na. Usenokuba ucinga ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuwe, hayi ngomoni wakho. Ungavumeli nasiphi na esi sizathu sikuphazamisa ukuba wazise abanye abantu ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Abantu obathembayo baya kuba kwicala lakho. Abayi kukuthandabuza okanye bacinge ukuba ungumthombo wengxaki.