Imigaqo licandelo elifanelekileyo kulo naliphi na isayensi. Ngaphandle kwazo, ngaphandle kwazo ngaphandle kokukhetha, ngekhe sikwazi ukufunda ulwimi lwakho, singakuqondi umthetho wobume behlabathi kwaye sifumanise ukuba kutheni umoya unokudibanisa idangatye lelo. Ngaba ikhona imithetho ... uthando? Ngapha koko, yena, njengegorha le-typin, i-evgenyy ntern, inokuthathwa njenge "yesayensi yenkanuko". Ngaba bafuna apho iimvakalelo zihlala zichitha khona, kwaye ingqondo yayithe cwaka? Nguwuphi umthetho ofanele ukhokelwe, kwaye yintoni - ukulibala ngonaphakade? Kwaye nokuba bayakwazi ukwandisa ubudala bemibutho yethu yothando? Sizama ukufumanisa.
Siva kuphela: "Uthando olungapheliyo, sinyanisekile kuye ...", "Uthando luhlala luhleli kwiminyaka emithathu!" - Ezi kunye nezinye iingxelo zenye yezona zihloko zibalulekileyo zentlalontle aziyeki namhlanje. Kusenokubonakala ngathi incinci kwaye inesidenge ukuba iphikisane nolwalamano oluninzi lwexesha elide ebomini bethu, xa iindibano kunye nokuthintelwa zilityelwe, kunye nomhla obizwe ngobusuku obunye obungaqwalaselwanga into eyoyikisayo. Kodwa izazinzulu ezizama ukufumana ifomumu yothando ngexesha elinye isizise iindaba ezilungileyo - yena, ngonaphakade, ukhona! Ngoku kuhlala kuqonda indlela yokwenza umanyano lwakho ukuba yindlela nje yokuba uthini "kwaye bahlala ixesha elide kwaye bonwabile."
Ixesha elihle
Ngalo lonke ixesha singena kwigumbi lokuthandana elinomtsalane le-boequeets, iipipi kwaye, kunjalo, iiglasi ezipinki, sinethemba lokuba eli xesha lifana, kwaye eli qabane liyinto yokuphila. Apha zinemithetho nemithetho eyayo ethi kamva idale iingxaki ezininzi. Eyona bhunga eliyingozi ", esilithabathayo kubisi lukamama - zibonakalise ngokwakho icala elilungileyo. Ingathi ibonakala imbi kukubonisa amandla ayo kumthandi? Uninzi, ngelishwa, musa ukuwubona umahluko phakathi kokumangalisa iqabane ngeempawu zabo ezinomtsalane, kwaye umdlalo ocacileyo ngemeko entle. Awuthandi ukupheka, kodwa uthi uyathanda, ungumbala osisiseko wezityalo, kodwa ucofa ngayo, awucwangcisi ukuba nabantwana, kodwa yenza ngathi abava lo mbuzo. Qonda ukuba le ndlela iya kukukhokelela phi? Kwaye ukuba wena nomsebenzi wakho bagqibe kwelokuba badlale umntu ofanelekileyo?
Kukho into enjalo njengokudandatheka kwenyanga yesithandathu. Kukuphela kwesiqingatha sokuqala ngonyaka wolwalamano abaqala ukuseta kwakhona iimaski, umgaqo ubonakala ubonakala ngathi awungobani. Kwaye sele ivela kumfazi we-pussy pussy, iqela elinesibindi liyangxama, kwaye kwindlu eqeshisayo - yintliziyo enzima. Ewe kunjalo, wena (kunye neqabane lakho, ukuba ukhe wadlala lo mdlalo nge-on onch) wothuka: uphi umntu ohleli phambi kwakho ngenxa yeDessert kwaye waqiqa ngeposi? Imvakalelo yokuphoxeka, imvakalelo yokuba ukhohlisiwe, ukungaqondi ukuba - ipesenti enkulu ye-Steam ijongene nonyaka wokuqala wolwalamano. Imbono eyoyikisayo eyoyikisayo kukuba abaninzi bahlala kwimibutho yabasebenzi, beqhubeka bengcatsha ubunjani babo kunye nokukhohlisa (kungenjalo awukwazi ukuthetha) kwiqabane lakho.
Imigaqo yendalo yonke yezigidi zezigidi ezibini zincinci kakhulu, kodwa zinjalo
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Yintoni omele uyenze ukungangenisi lo mgibe uqhelekileyo? Umgaqo othi gqi, kuvakala ngokulula: Yiba ngokwakho. Ewe kunjalo, kulula kakhulu kunokuba wenze, kuba siya kwazisa imiyalelo ecacileyo. Sukwenza nantoni na, nokuba kukwizitrato kwaye kuncinci kakhulu. Unganiki mbethe kwaye ungabi namJulit. Ukuba awufuni ukuphendula umbuzo ngokuthe ngqo, ke undixelele. Sukujongeka njengobumbano nomntu oza kuzonwabisa naye. Ukuba izimvo zakhe kunye nokufakelwa azimangalisi kakhulu ngomhla wokuqala, akunakwenzeka ukuba into iza kutshintsha kamva. Uthando lwaphikisana - mpixa, luthando, i-oda iwayini, hayi amanzi. Uthandabuza ukuba kufanelekile ukuthetha ngezihloko ezinzulu ngosuku lokuqala? Uya kuhlala unethuba lokuxoxa ngayo yonke into yesibini, kodwa ixesha lethu sesona sibonelelo sibaluleke kakhulu, kutheni ichithe kwimisitho yamaTshayina?
Uninzi luqhele ukuhamba kwimaski, luyoyika ukuzibonakalisa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, nto leyo engenakuhlangabezana nomthetho wokuba. Ukuba ungowawe, cingani kwaye ucinge ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ucelwe ngaphambi komtshato omtsha njengoko unjalo. Sukukholwa, kodwa olona hlobo luthi "owoyikekayo" - awusekho nje lo mntu. Ibhedi, akunjalo?
Ngokwahlukileyo, ndingathanda ukukhankanya isiganeko esibalulekileyo njengokuqhelana nabazali kunye nabahlobo bam. Apha umthetho uyafana. Sukuzama ukubona i-pai-ntombazana okanye inkwenkwe elungileyo. Yiba yinguqulelo yakho enesidima kakhulu- kwaye yonke into iya kuphuma.
Kwaye ngosizi kunye novuyo
Ixesha lokuqala lolwalamano lubalulekile, lisisekele imanyano yakho, kodwa nokuba kwenzeka, ukuze emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, yonke into inokuthi ilungiswe ecaleni kweenyanga ezintandathu. Okokuqala, zama ukufunda lo mntu sikweni kufutshane. Yijonge, mamela, cinga ngayo ngamazwi akhe, uqonde iminqweno kunye nemigaqo yakhe yokwenene. Kuyenzeka ukuba, unethamsanqa, kwaye emva kwemaski ziseti kwakhona, uya kuba ngulowo uzikukubaleyo. Kule meko, bobabini baya kuba nethuba elihle lokuba kunye. Khawufane ucinge ukuba unomatshini wexesha, dlala umhla wokuqala, kodwa sele ngokwemigaqo ichazwe apha ngasentla-zama ukuba ngokwakho kwaye kuphela.
Ukuba ixesha libeka yonke into endaweni yalo kwaye awuyibonanga "enye", kwaye umntu ongathandekiyo kuwe, akufuneki ubambelele kwimo "yobudlelwane" kwaye uzisole iinyanga ezilahlekileyo. Kungekudala uyamshiya lo mbutho, impilo engakumbi (kunye nengqondo, nangokomzimba) uya kusindisa.
Ke, nikunye, iinkanuko zokuqala zalala, kodwa ubomi obudibeneyo abukakwazi ukuxoka emagxeni akho. Isibini esizinzileyo eluthandweni, ngaphambi kweminyaka kunye neminyaka. Ukuze bakhanyise, abo bafuna ukuphinda bawuphinde, ukuba bangenzi buhlungu, akenzi buhlungu, kuya kufuneka usebenze. Nokuba nawe ngeqabane lakho ungqubana njengesiqingatha sesona sinye, oko akuthethi ukuba ubulungisa bakho buqinisekisa ubomi obude kwaye ngovuyo ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu.
Ngokuthetha ngokungqongqo, imithetho yendalo yonke yezigidi zababini izibini zincinci kakhulu, kodwa zinjalo. Kwaye okokuqala ngqina. Ayisiyo kuphela intembelo yokuba iqabane lakho aliyi kukutshintsha. Ekugqibeleni, abanye abantu abatshatayo bayakhanyela ukubaluleka kokuvukela komtshato, bahlala kwimitshato evulekileyo kwaye kwangaxeshanye bonwabile. Ukuthembela kwiqabane kukuzithemba ukuba kuyakufuphi nelona xesha linzima kwaye libalulekile ebomini bakho, liya kuba kwicala lakho, ukwenza izinto ezinomdla kuzo. Khohlwa ngentetho ethi "Trust, kodwa ujonge." Iitsheki, iimvavanyo, inkanuko-isizathu esingqinisisiweyo sokwenza olona lwalamano luhle noluzinzileyo. Landela umthetho "akabanjwa - hayi isela." Phila ngokungathi kunjalo ecaleni kwakho kakhulu kwaye uzinikele ngolungelelwano, kuba ukuba awuphambili kwinqanaba lokuqala lobudlelwane, kunjalo. Uthando luvelisa uthando, kwaye kunokuthethwa okufanayo malunga nokuthenjwa. Uthando ngaphandle kwentembeko kulifa njengentembelo ngaphandle kothando.
Uthando luvelisa uthando, kwaye kuya kuthiwa okufanayo malunga neTrust
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Umgaqo wesibini wendalo jikelele uvela okokuqala. Zonke iingxaki, iimbambano kunye nemibuzo malunga neManyano yakho, xoxa omnye komnye. Ungumqolo othembekileyo omnye komnye, kwaye akufuneki wenze ubunzima kwi-ajenda xa uhamba neentombi zeqela le-bachelorette. Ewe kunjalo, incoko entle malunga nabafazi okanye iimfihlakalo malunga namadoda - uhlobo lwanaphakade lokuhlala nabahlobo abasondeleyo, kodwa akufuneki unikezele ziimfihlo omnye komnye, ukhalaza okanye ukhawulezisa isiqingatha sakho. Into oyibambezelayo phambi kwabahlobo luphawu lwentlonipho kunye nonxibelelwano oluhlengahlengisiweyo phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Ngapha koko, ukuba ungaxoxa ngazo zonke izihloko ezigulayo kunye nemibuzo enengxaki neqabane, kutheni lenza omnye umntu?
Imida kunye nokubambelela kwabo ngokungqongqo kukuthi "yintombi". Nokuba ungathandana njani, nokuba udibanisa njani umphefumlo wakho, khumbula ukuba wena nonyuliweyo bakho ngabantu abangabekwanga omnye komnye, kodwa besenza ukhetho olululo. Kwaye unokwenza ukhetho olufanayo lokwahlukana. Uza kuhlala nantoni emva kokuqhekezwa? Zigcine ngokwakho, zigada iimfuno zakho kunye nemigaqo-ngaphandle kokuthanda, njengoko sikhumbula, ukuthanda ummelwane akunakwenzeka.
Kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula malunga nezinto onomdla kuzo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuzithoba kubudlelwane naphi na. Zimisele ngokwakho inqununu kunye namaxesha angafihlisiyo ahambelana nobomi bakho. Ayisijikanga isiciko sezinyo lezinyo- ngaba kubalulekile, ngaba iyakuthoba izindlu zakho zokuhlala kunye nokholo ebantwini? Okanye ngaba le jurback incinci ayifanelanga ingqalelo yakho? Ubugcisa bokulalanisa kubalulekile ukwahlulahlula kwabo bachaphazelekayo, ukusuka kumonde we-pathoigical apho kungafanelekanga khona, ukuzimela. Kuphela kuxa uxa wakumyala ngaxeshanye uye kwelinye, kunokwenzeka ukuba ugcine kwaye uphindaphinde into ekhoyo phakathi kwakho.
Umgaqo onxulumene nokuxabana uyaqondakala kwaye uyaqondakala - xa usebushushu wengxabano ofuna ukuchukumisa iqabane lakho, zulaza kwaye ulikhumbule ukuba ungakhe utshaba, kwaye oyithandayo Umntu ekulula ukuba aphikisane, makanike izinto ezibalulekileyo. Uya kudlula, kodwa amazwi athethwa ngomsindo, ndingakhumbula ixesha elide kwaye ndiyonakalisa umanyano lwemibutho yakho.
Enye yemithetho ebaluleke kakhulu kukutyala imali kusapho lwakho. Sisoloko simi kwimpilo esempilweni, kodwa siyanibongoza ukuba nikhumbule yonke into eqhelekileyo engenakufumaneka ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kwenu.
Ndishiywe ngasekunene kwakhe
Uthando lwanaphakade lukhona - le yinyani iqinisekiswe ngoochwephesha bengqondo. Kwingqondo yethu kukho i-plots ekwaziyo ukuvuselela uthando kumntu omnye iminyaka. Oku kuthetha ukuba unokuphinda uvule iqabane, kwaye akukho minyaka mithathu, xa kungumlilo wenkanuko oya kutshutshiswa, awuyonto imbi. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba iindlela zabantu azivumelani. Kuluntu lwethu, uqhawulo-mtshato alusaqwalaselwa njengento ehlazo kumfazi. Kwaye kulungile! Asifanele siqhubeke siqhubeke nobudlelwane bokuphila, kwaye simahla ukwenza ukhetho. Kubonakala ngathi kuphela kwezi meko kunokuba yimbonakalo ye-Steam, eya kuba kunye de kwangoyena mdala, kuba ayingxaki yabo, kwaye ingeyiyo ingcinezelo yeemeko zangaphandle.
Imithetho emithathu:
1. Ukunyaniseka. Eyona meko ibaluleke kakhulu yolonwabo kunye nokuvisisana kokubini kwesitayile solo kunye nomanyano kukunyaniseka, kuqala kubo bonke ngokunxulumene uqobo. Ngaphandle kwale nto, andiyi kufumana isiselo sothando. 2. Ukunyaniseka. Kwaye ngubani, okanye yintoni esimele siye sihlala sithembekile kulwalamano kunye nokukhula? Kuwe, ngemigaqo yakho, iminqweno yakho, kunye neenjongo zakho eziqhelekileyo, amaphupha kunye nezicwangciso. 3. Inkululeko. Ngaphandle kwemvakalelo yokuba yeyakhe "Ndi", ndizihlonipha, ndizithanda, kunzima ukucinga ukuba nembeko nothando omnye. Yixabise kwaye uyilondoloze inkululeko yakho, kuba yeyona nto iphambili kuzolile, ukuzithemba kunye nozinzo.
Kodwa emva kwemeko xa uthando ludlula, umdla kunye neminqweno yotshintsho, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba umanyano lwakho luphezulu. Ukugcina ubuso bomntu, impilo kunye nokuhlala kubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kunye neqabane, kuya kufuneka ulandele ngqo eminye imithetho. Nyaniseka kwaye uthathe isigqibo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba utyhile ngokusahluka ngenxa yemfesane - ekugqibeleni, kancinane, xa zizisola endaweni yothando. Akufanelanga ukuba uzame ukwenzakalisa umntu owukhethileyo, encokola ekugqibeleni, thetha ngenzondelelo. Ngoku ayisasebenzi, kwaye ixesha lencoko elalisele. Yiba nobubele kwaye uthintelwe.
Uthando, ulonwabo lusondele- le sisiphumo esingabi kakhulu kwimeko ephumeleleyo, umsebenzi omninzi, sebenza wena kunye nobudlelwane. Ngeliphandle, kodwa hayi indlela eyinyaniso ngayo! Iinyaniso ezilula-malunga novelwano, ukuzithemba, malunga nemida yakho - nantsi, imfihlo, encedisa ukuziva enamandla angapheliyo.
Ungangxama njani
Iimbambano ziyinxalenye yolwalamano omele ukuba lungazisebenzisi, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyilungiselele. Banokuba luhlobo lwendawo yokukhula, kodwa kuphela ukuba uyayazi indlela yokuxabana.
Ke: Nxibelelana nemiyalezo ye-I-imiyalezo. Ngexesha lokungqubana, thetha ngokukhethekileyo malunga neemvakalelo kunye namava akho, ukuqala kwamagama athi "Ndicinga ...", "Ndivakalelwa kukuba ..." ke uya kusasaza iqabane lakho yemeko, kwaye uhlaselo kunye nezityholo ziya kulahleka kwiingxelo.
Guqula "Undoyisile" kwi "Ndakhutyekiswa kakhulu xa ndabona ukuba ..." - indoda eva ingxelo yesibini yebinzana, ayivanga gadalala. Sukuya kubuntu, musa ukudlala umdlalo "kwaye wena ..."