Kwakutheni ukuze le ndoda yayingazange iphefumle kuwe ngaphambili, yaqala ukuzivumela ukuba ithethe ngemibala ephakamileyo? Oku kunokuba zizizathu ezahlukeneyo.
Yulia Lansk, ingcali ekukhetheni isibini esifanelekileyo somtshato
5 Izizathu zokuba umntu avusele izwi:
I-1 yesizathu-ukupholisa
Oyena ukhethiweyo otshisayo waqhumisela kwiimvakalelo ezinamandla waqalisa ukuziva ngathi bahambe. Akasakuthanda njengangaphambili. Awusenakuxabiseka kuye, ke unokubeka esichengeni ubudlelwane buya kuyekisa.
2 Unobangela-uzinzo
Isigaba sexesha elithenjiweyo lepipi siphela kwaye uzinzo kulwalamano uqala, isigaba esigudileyo xa ubudlelwane buya kwinqanaba elitsha. Sele woyisiwe, uphendule umntu wakho ngokukhula, kwaye waphumla.
3 unobangela-ucaphukisa
Unokuziphatha ke ngabom ukubona indlela osabela ngayo kwimeko yoxinzelelo. Ukwenza isigqibo ngomtshato, indoda kufuneka ikufumane ukuze uzibonakalise kwiziganeko ezahlukeneyo.
4 unobangela-ukuziphindezela
Iingxabano zinokwenzeka kwiindawo ezityibilikayo zolwalamano olukumaxesha ahlukeneyo okuhlangana kwakho nendoda. Ezi ndawo kufuneka bazi ukuba zigqithise kwisigaba sokuhlawula ngokufanelekileyo, singavumeli iimpazamo. Ndiza kuqhubeka nokuxela ngakumbi malunga noku.
5 Unobangela-Umkhwa
Ngaphambili, ubungazi kwaye ukoyike iLizwi hayi ukuze ndingathethi oko, yayingeyona nto intle, yazibonisa kuphela kwelona cala libalaseleyo. Ngoku sele "eyakho", uqhelene kakhulu ukuba awunazintloni ngokupheleleyo ukuba ungafihli imeko yakho embi.
Ingxabano kulula ukuyitshabalalisa imanyano enkulu, kodwa ungayisongela kwaye uxhamle
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Imithetho eli-10 iphuma kwingxabano kunye neengxabano
1 Umgaqo: Bukela
Jonga le ndoda uhlaziye imeko yayo. Ukuba unemood engalunganga, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni na. Ufuna ukuya kumqolomba wakhe aze acinge? Okanye ngaba ulungele ukuncokola nawe kwaye wabelane ngengxaki? Ungaze unyanzelise incoko ukuba akayifuni.
2 Umthetho: Sukuthatha izenzo
Sukuthatha imvakalelo embi kwiakhawunti yakho. Izizathu zokuba umntu angacaphukiswa, esekelwe. Ukuba uya kusebenza kwimeko entle, kwaye abuyele emafini, enokuba kunokwenzeka, ezi zihlobo ezithile zeengxaki zeshishini okanye ukukhathalela. Ingacaphuka ngoogxa, abantu obaqhelileyo, phula imoto, ihlwayela intloko.
3 Umgaqo: hayi isipili
Abanye abantu basetyhini baqala ukuziphathela ngendlela efanayo nendoda yabo iziphatha. Babeka imaski yakhe kwaye bakwindlela efanayo, endaweni yokuba babe lilanga lakhe kwaye batyeshela intanda yakhe. Uhlile-badumba. Uthule ngenkotha-zenza okufanayo. Oku kukhokelela kwinye kuphela: Ibhola yekhephu iyakhula.
4 Umgaqo: Sukuphikisana
Ungawudlulisa uluvo lwakho ngaphandle kokudibana okuvulekileyo. Okokuqala, vumelana nomntu, uze wongeze ibinzana ngombono wakho. "Ewe, ulungile, kodwa naye ..." - emva koko usenze ngokuzolileyo mzisela ngokungxamayo. Emva kwemvume yakho, uya kuthatha amazwi akho ngokuzolileyo, kwaye ukuxhathisa kuya kuzalisa.
Hayi isibuko seqabane elibi lemozulu
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5 Umgaqo: Lumka
Rhoqo, abantu bazisa imbi yawo ngaphandle, ngaphandle kokufumana ngokulula kwabo ubathandayo. Indoda inemozulu embi, kunzima kuye ukuba azigcine ezandleni zakhe, kukhula, ixesha, alinakuphumla. Unokudibanisa yonke le nto kuwe, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba awunguye umamkeli onqwenelekayo.
6 Umgaqo: musa ukubonisa
Ukuba ukuphakama kwengxabano, akufuneki ungqine inqaku lakho elifanelekileyo. Lo ngumsebenzi ongenantsingiselo ngokupheleleyo, oya kukhokelela kwingxabano enkulu. Awuyi kuviwa, ayiyi kubamkela imbono yakho. Ungacingi ukuba ukuba uyayidlulisa uluvo lwakho ngakumbi, ngequbuliso uyagcoba naye kwaye uza kuyithatha.
7 Umgaqo: qonda
Ukuba ufuna ukuba uve-yiva wena nokunxibelelana kwakho. Zama ukuqonda ukuba indoda yakho ikuxelela ukuba kutheni ephethe imbambano kwelinye icala lezithintelo. Mbukele ukuba uyazi kakuhle iinjongo zakhe, nto leyo ephonononge umbono wayo kwaye ucinge iinjongo zalo. Oku kuya kubonisa intlonelo yakho ngeengcinga zakhe.
8 Umgaqo: utshintsho
Zonke izithembiso ezimbi ezinokuthi zivele kwimbambano, zama ukuguqulela kwelinye itshaneli kwaye utshintshe isibonda sayo, ukudluliselwa kweyona nto ilungileyo. Unokomeleza ungquzulwano, uphumle, ugalele ioyile emlilweni. Kodwa unokucima, uthoba, ukunciphisa iidigri zokusebenza kwakho.
9 Umgaqo: Ungakhutyekiswa
Akukho sidingo sokukhubeka ukuba indoda ibonakala kuwe, awuvanga okanye uthe cwaka. Okokuqala, ukuba uyaphikisana kwaye ungayamkeli umbono wakhe, kwinxalenye yakhe awuyivanga. Kwaye ukuba uthe cwaka - okanye "waya emqolombeni", okanye wagqiba kwelokuba ukuphikisana okuthe kratya kwakungekhe kwakhiwe kwaye kufanele kunqunyulwe.
10 Umgaqo: Musa ukuba mnyama
Akukho nto imbi ngakumbi kunokuphumelela ngexesha lokungqubana. Akukho sidingo sokusongela loo nto ukuba awuvumelani nawe, uya kwazisa izohlwayo ezithile. Ingcinezelo enjalo iphantsi kwaye ikhokelela ekuweni ngokupheleleyo naluphi na ulwalamano. Le yeyona blackmail yokwenene, kwaye akukho mntu uhlonitshwayo uya kubandezeleka ngolu hlobo.
Kodwa isiphango sihliselwe, uyekile ukungqubana. Mhlawumbi baphumile nje, bagqiba kwelokuba bayeke ngenxa yokuba bengafikanga kwimvumelwano kwaye banqumama. Yintoni elandelayo?
Sele iphumile kwingxabano, kwibhalansi enobungqinayo, buyela kwisigqibo semodeli yemeko
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I-3 amaBhunga indlela yokuziphatha emva kwengxabano
¶1. Umonde
Akukho mfuneko yokuba uzame ukuqhubeka nencoko kwakhona, uthetha nendoda, umbize ngencoko entsha. Linda. Kuya kufuneka uyinike ixesha lokucinga, lupholile, kwaye xa elungele ukuqhubeka nencoko, uya kuqala kuye. Kwaye mhlawumbi kwiimeko ezintle kakhulu kuwe. Okwangoku, akakulungelanga - ukuchukumisa kwakhe okungenantsingiselo.
№2. Imida
Kodwa wena wenyuka, iinkanuko zazola, izigqibo kwaye zifunyanwa kwimeko yokungqubana. Cazulula, njengoko indoda idlulile, kwaye ukuba indoda yakho ihlasele indawo yakho, yaphule imida yakho, iyimfuneko ukuba ichaze kwaye ungamthandi apho ungamkelekanga khona.
Inombolo 3. Impendulo
Sele iphumile kwingxabano, kwibhalansi enobungqinayo, ibuyele kwimozulu yemeko yemeko. Thetha ngayo ngendoda yakho, ukhetha umzuzu ofanelekileyo xa ulungile kuwe. Mcele ukuba athini impendulo? Uza kubona njani ukucaciswa kobudlelwane, indawo yokungqubana?
Njengoko ubona, unokufunga kwaye ubeke ubudlelwane bakho, ubandakanyeke, kwaye unokwenza izinto kwimithetho esisiseko yokungqubana kwaye ushiye kufanelekile, kwaye nkqu nawo ophumeleleyo.
Iingxabano, iingxabano kunye neengxabano-isayensi iphela! Kwaye amandla okufanele ukuba aphume - ubomi bobomi kunye nawe!
Mna, Yulia Lansk, ingcali ekukhetheni isibini esifanelekileyo somtshato, ndinqwenela ukuba ube neemeko ezimbalwa ezingathandekiyo ebomini bakho, makazaliswe ngokuzolileyo, iMisosiswano nothando!