Iholide sele impumlo. Uninzi lwethu luvuya: UNyaka oMtsha-useto kwakhona yonke imitha, iveki yokuphuma, ekugqibeleni. Kwaye eli thuba lokuvuya kwaye lonwabe, olubaluleke kakhulu kwixesha elinzima. Kuyinyani, nangalo lonke unyaka omtsha owuthandayo kwaye akukho kwiKrisimesi ayithandayo inokuziswa kwizimanga ezingathandekiyo: Ngokweentsuku, inani lezihloko zezigulana, i-antideppressing. Siyintoni isizathu? Siyayiqonda indlela yokuphila ngayo iMarathon kunye nokugcina impilo yomzimba nengqondo.
Kusapho lwethu, i-bustle ihlala iqala kwiinyanga ezimbini ezinesiqingatha ngaphambi kobusuku obuqaqambileyo kwaye yema kuphela entwasahlobo. Kwaye ukuza kuthi ga ngoku: phakathi kwe-Okthobha, izihlobo ezininzi zibhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa lukaMama, emva koko yam, emva kokuba uEtatolika ekrisimesi eza, ngenxa yesizathu esithile sizukisiwe. Ke unyaka omtsha ngokwawo, emva koko iKrisimesi, unyaka omtsha wakudala. Ekupheleni kukaJanuwari, utat'orhulumente, umntakwabo, ekuqaleni kukaFebruwari - uTata notatomzana, ngelo xesha uMakhulu, ngo-Februwari 23, ndayazi ukususela ebuntwaneni Yintoni "iMithemithi". Kwi-Kindergarten, andiyekanga ukukrwitshi, iglu kwaye nditsale ubugcisa, ekhaya - ukufundisa imibongo kunye neyure yokufumana i-cullpit yombhiyozo, ukudlala i-thespit yombhiyozo, ukudlala intabalala yekhephu okanye i-faiden yekhephu okanye I-squirrel. Kubonakala ngathi siphila kuthotho oluphezulu lweziganeko ezibalulekileyo.
Ukuba iingxaki ezizayo zibangela uvuyo oluhle, kodwa i-alamu ithetha ixesha lokumisa kwaye limamele
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Ungabuza ukuba yintoni engeyiyo apha? Isibakala sokuba ubukho kwimodi yeholide esisigxina ngandlel 'ixhamli, mna ndasifundwe kufutshane neminyaka engamashumi amathathu. Ngaphambi koko, ndenza ngandlel 'ithile kufutshane nokuwa, emva koko incopho yexhala lenzekile kumhla omtsha, bonke ubusika bendikwimeko yoxinzelelo, ndibuyela kwithoni eqhelekileyo kunye nokusebenza kakuhle kwixesha lokufudumala. Kwabonakala ngathi iwayini iphela yabandayo, imihla emifutshane, ubusuku obude ... kwaye ndakuba ndithathe kwaye ndifumene amanqaku "kwimibhiyozo yosapho. Ndivuyisile umama, kodwa andizange ndihoye usuku lwam lokuzalwa, ndadibana noNyaka oMtsha ePajamas, ngekhe ndenze iiholide khange ndiphume nabahlobo. ELizwini, ndayibona ithile imeko yesiqhelo kwaye - malunga nommangaliso! "Nge-2 kaFebruwari, xa wonke umntu uva ubunzima kwi-Avitaminosis kunye nokubanda, ukuva okungaqhelekanga ukuba ne-bodic kwaye kusempilweni (kwaye kungabonakali kangako kwisiqingatha seeholide zosapho, kodwa ke).
Emva kwexesha ndadibana nomxholo wokudibana kakhulu (eguqulelwe ngokusuka kwisiNgesi "Zininzi kakhulu tusovok"). Ijika zombini imnandi ngokukhawuleza, kwaye i-ecstasy, kwaye iholide engapheliyo inokuba "kakhulu." Le "lukhulu" ichaphazela imeko yenkqubo yethu yovalo, enganikeli bokwenyani ukonwabela imicimbi endele. Kuyavela, ngelize, siyazisola ukuba usuku lokuzalwa (njengenye imihla ebalulekileyo) "Kanye ngonyaka"?
Nangona kunjalo, "iintsuku zekhalenda ezibomvu" iba ngumthombo we-neuroses kungekuphela kwabo bake bakhulule. Ngaba ukhe uzibuze ukuba abantu abasondeleyo balusizi kukubhiyozela iziganeko ezinqwenelekayo zodwa, ngelixa usapho-lubaleka ecaleni kwabathandekayo babo. Nangona kunjalo, imihla ngemihla enokubakho, ebalulekileyo ibangelwa yingubo yangasevandleni, imisebenzi yokulungiselela itafile, ukuzonwabisa kweendwendwe, ukucoca ... kwigama, nganye inembali enokuthi Yogqume ulonwabo oluncinci kunye nokulindela ummangaliso. Ungasebenza njani ukuze ungaphulukani nawe kwaye ugcine ukukwazi ukumangaliswa
kwaye wonwabe?
Umhlaba awuyi kuwa ukuba uyayeka ugqatso lwe-infhicine online, ethi bonke kufuneka bahlolwe kunyaka omtsha ongenguye u-Eva ngaphandle kokukhetha
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Liphi ixesha lokuyeka?
-Ukuba, endaweni yolindelo lovuyo, uziva ngathi ilifu lendudumo likufike kuwe, kwaye iingxaki ezizayo azizange zivuseleke, kodwa i-alamu ithetha ukuba iholide ezayo iya kuba luvavanyo kuwe. Mhlawumbi kulo nyaka iyavakala ukubaleka imnandi kwaye ive ngokwakho?
-Ukuba unokucinga kuphela ngendlela ebibanjelwe ngayo uNyaka oMtsha woNyaka, chitha iintsuku kunye neeveki, ukukhetha iimpahla ezizayo, kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kwenziwa kwaye i-hairstyle ithathelwe phantsi, ikhuphe kwizalamane zakho kunye Abahlobo, 'abangathethiyo ngokwesicwangciso " Imvakalelo yokunyuka okungaphezulu, ilinde i-is ilinde i-IC iyure, xa kunokwenzeka, ekugqibeleni, yibani nemihlali, ibonisa ukuba uva ubunzima bexesha elikhoyo apha.
-Ukuba nje awufuni mbhiyozo, ukuba akukho meko, amandla kunye nomnqweno, akukho nto imbi! Umhlaba awuyi kuwa ukuba uyayeka ugqatso olungenasiphelo, nto leyo, ngaphandle kokukhetha, kufuneka amava oNyaka oMtsha. Ndikholelwe, akuyi kubakho xesha lingcono kuneholide yangaphambi kweholide ukuze uzinike esona sipho sibaluleke kakhulu - ukukwazi ukushiya wonke umntu "kuyimfuneko" kwaye wenze le nto uyifunayo.
Ezintathu "hayi"
1. Musa ukulinda. Endaweni yoko, linda ngengqondo - elo cebiso linika oochwephesha bengqondo kuye wonke umntu ofuna ukukhawulezisa ukuza kweholide. Sukuyifumana ithemba elikhulu kakhulu lonyaka omtsha, kungenjalo ubeka emngciphekweni wokuphoxeka. Khohlwa ngebinzana elithi "Indlela Yokudibana, uya kuchitha."
2. Musa ukulungiselela. Ukucotha ezantsi, ukuvumela onke amashishini kunye nezicwangciso ze-samoe-ayibikho nobuchule, kunye nobugcisa! Kwiminyaka yolawulo olupheleleyo, xa sihlala 'siqhubeka' kwipensile "yonke into encinci, ngamanye amaxesha kufanelekile ukuba sizilungiselele imeko kwaye" silungiselele imibhiyozo.
3. Musa ukulungisa. Yenza isipho kubantu obathandayo kunye nemveli- ungazami ukubakhokela kwiminqweno kunye neminqweno yokonwaba njengoko bafuna. Yiba yindwendwe elinombulelo: Ukuba ubumenyiwe kwitheko elinengxolo, akufuneki ukuba ukhukhule ukuba unentloko ebuhlungu ekukhokeleni kunye nezibane eziqaqambileyo.
Yamkelwe
Ngamnye kuthi unokufumana "ukuthinjwa ngenkolelo", xa sisizathu esithile, i-nostalgia, usizi, ukulangazelela kunye nokudakumba kuthathelwa endaweni yovuyo kunye nolonwabo. Kwaye nokuba umcimbi ngokwakhe wadlula kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo, emva kokuba uziva ungakhathali, usizi, uxinzelelo.
Masiqale ngento yokuba ihlala ilula ukuba ilula ukuya kwi "Tist" ephezulu "okanye ziyihoye iiholide kwilizwe lethu zihlala zingenasiphelo. Tsibela "iyure emnandi" unokufumana isizathu esivakalayo, kungenjalo awuyi kuqondwa.
Kodwa uyavuma, olu luxanduva olukhulu - ukulungiselela ukuze ngomhla omisiweyo ungakuphakamisi, ungabi nomsindo, ungadinwa. Sasithambisa ukuchitha ubusuku ukusukela nge-31 kaDisemba ukuya ku-1 kaJanuwari 1, ukuze wonke unyaka olandelayo uphumelele, siziva sinengcinezelo enkulu kwimithombo yeendaba kunye nabahlobo bethu.
Intombi yam rita minyaka le ibilungele imibhiyozo yasebusika. Waqala ukukhetha izipho ngenyanga ngaphambi konyaka omtsha, ngononophelo kwaye ufundisise i-Intanethi, yonke imihla emva komsebenzi, ukuya kwimihla yevenkile kunye ne-boutique efuna izipho ezilungileyo. Intsapho yonke yanyanzelwa ukuba idale ubugcisa kunye ne-Trinethi, eyayidinisa igumbi. Iveki ngaphambi kokuba "iyure ye-x" eqhuba ukucocwa jikelele, enxibe umthi weKrisimesi, owadideka ngelungelo lokushicilela Usuku olungaphambi kweholide laqala ukulungisa itafile eyayinezitya ezilishumi, ingekho ngaphantsi. Iinketho ezimbini ze-chill, iinketho ezintathu zoOlivier (kubandakanya iikeyiki zomhlaza), iikeyiki zomhlaza), i-carles yekhaya, ishushu ... ihamba kwi-sharner, inxibe i-a isinxibo (ngokwemfuneko kwimibala yokuza konyaka). Emva kwendwendwe ezanelisayo kunye namalungu osapho adiniweyo azaliswe ngumthendeleko kwaye aqhubeke nokutya, intombi yahlala phantsi esihlalweni kwaye yalala kuyo kude kuse. Ekuqaleni kosuku olutsha lonyaka omtsha, iRita yayisele imi ecaleni kwentlawulelo nesepha yeentaba zeentaba. Ndityelele kathathu okanye kathathu kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndibukele umfanekiso ofanayo. Kumbuzo: "Ngoba?" "Wandimangalisa izandla zakhe:" Ewe, kuba yamkelwe ... iholide. "
Ibali elinye liphelelwe lusapho lwethu. Okokuqala, umakhulu, emva koko lowo umama yayingaloo nto, ababesisusa kunyaka omtsha emagxeni abo, bengavumeli ezinzulwini zobusuku. Kwaye xa kanye le misebenzi yawa emagxeni am, ndifumana nje "ukubandezeleka" kwi-interia. Kunye nokucinga. Ngaba ndifuna ukubhiyozela? Ngaba ndidinga yonke le nto imnandi: Inani lokupheka, ukuqhuba ngamalungu osapho angayiphulamisi imiyalelo yam, ethatha inyama ye-oveni, opholileyo, andikhange ucinge ngeholide.
Kwaye oku: Xa sikhula, umlingo uhlala usasazwa. Kucacile ukuba ulungelelwano olufanelekileyo, ukunyanga okumnandi, ukuhlasela umthi weKrisimesi kunye nezipho ezinqwenelekayo phantsi kwayo ayizizo iimpawu zombhiyozo, kodwa imisebenzi efuna izisombululo. Kwaye endaweni yolindelo lwabantwana lommangaliso, sifumana umthwalo oxanduva, iiholide zijika zibe yingubo.
Ukuthintela oku, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba kuwe iholide yokwenyani. Phawula izithethe kunye nemikhwa yokuba watshintshelwa kwizalamane zakudala. Babalulekile kwaye baxabisekile, kodwa akufuneki bathathe indawo yakho yokwenyani. Zama ukuqonda ukuba ungathanda ukuchitha njani namhlanje. Ibiya kuba yintoni isipho? Yintoni eyayiza kuvuya, ukuthoba, ukwaneliseka? Zilungiselele inyani yokuba iziganeko zokuqala ezizakuqala ziya ... ungakhathaleli. Le yindalo: Kuya kufuneka uthathe ikhefu ukuze ufumane iminqweno.
Imvakalelo yokunyuka okungaphezulu, ukulinda okungathandekiyo kwilixa le-x, xa linokuthi ekugqibeleni livuye, libonisa ukuba unesifo sokulinda ubomi
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Ndisebenza "ukusuka kwindawo echaseneyo": ndenze uluhlu lwezinto endiza kuyenza ngaphambi konyaka omtsha nakwiholide. Wajika wachukumisa. Ihlala ngaphandle kokuba inyukele ebhedini, ithathe i-olivier ethengiweyo (ukupheka yayikukwiphepha lam "loluhlu"), jonga uthotho kunye nokulala. Ndiyenzile. Ukufuna i-pajamas entle necolileyo, ibeka impahla entsha yangaphantsi, ndalala ebhedini ndinomdlalo weTV owuthandayo kwaye andivukanga ngokuhlwa. Mhlawumbi ndingayibiza le holide yenye yezona zibalaseleyo ebomini. Nangona kunjalo, kunyaka olandelayo bendifuna ukuya kutyelelo- kwaye ndalandela iminqweno yam. Kwaye emva koko ndeza kum i-Insight ebalulekileyo: Iholide kuxa unokwazi ukwenza into endiyifunayo.
Ukususela kwimihla ngemihla
... Kodwa imbasa, njengoko uyazi, amacala omabini. Hayi indlela yokuba ngayo ukuba uhlala ubhiyozela yonke imicimbi enqwenelekayo njengoko ufuna, kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha ushiya eli xesha lonyaka kunokuba? Iingcali zengqondo, njengamagqabaza okuphelileyo. Kuyavela ukuba ukukhanya kulangazelela imibuliso, idabi lezinto, imihla yokugqibela yokuzalwa kunye neminye imicimbi ebalulekileyo (ukuba badlula, njengoko uthanda) - le yimeko yethu yendalo. Siphila kwihlabathi lokuthelekisa, ngokuthelekisa imihla ngemihla ngeempelaveki, iiholide kunye nabasebenzi madoda, iintsuku ngobusuku, ekugqibeleni. Ukuba ukhumbule itheko kunye nephupha malunga nokuqhubeka kwesidlo, kodwa kwangaxeshanye uqhubeke uqhubeka enyanisweni, thatha kunye novuyo kwaye uyaqondakala kwaye uqhelekile kwaye uqondakale kwaye uqondakale kwaye kuyinyani kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba iiveki kunye neenyanga zidlulile njengenkungu, ngelixa ulinde "usuku lwe-IKK", le sele sisisizathu sokucinga.
I-Psychotherapists ijongana nale phenomenon rhoqo: Uninzi lwabathengi babo aluphindi ubomi obutofotofo phakathi kweziganeko ezibalulekileyo, kodwa bukho nje ngolwesiHlanu, xa bephinda bakwazi ukucwangcisa ubusuku obumnandi nabahlobo okanye baqhubeke neqela le unyaka. Emva konyaka omtsha waqala ukulinda, baqala ukulinda iKrisimesi, emva koko bathule ngolindelo ngoFebruwari 23 ... Igama eliphambili lalapha "laziwa". Ingxaki yabantu abathanda kakhulu iiholide kukuba abakwazi ukufumana amaxesha onwabileyo ngobomi bemihla ngemihla. Kodwa emva kwako konke, ezi zinto zangaphambili ebomini bethu zininzi kakhulu! Kwaye yintoni evela? Yintoni esiyiqeqesha kangangeentsuku ezininzi eziqhelekileyo ngokungathi ivimba amandla okuzonwabisa kude kube ngumbhiyozo olandelayo.
Akukho nto iyothusayo ukuba abo babandezelekileyo sele bekhankanyiwe ngam nge-syndrome eninzi kakhulu bajongana nenyani. Bangathi kwi-hangover ende yeshumi elinesihlanu, ukudubula enokuthi idosi elandelayo yeholide.
Ziphose zonke izimvo zakho zangaphambili malunga no-Evaw no-Evaw noNyaka oMtsha kunye neHolide elandelayo. Jonga umva kwaye uveze okwenzekayo apha kwaye ngoku!
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Ukuba uqaphele urhulumente onjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ubuyele kwangoku kwaye ufunde ukuhlala nawe kunye nabanye apha ngoku. Ekuqaleni kunokuba nzima kakhulu, nokuba sebuhlungu. Unokuba nesithukuthezi kunye nokungakhathali, ukungakhathali emsebenzini kunye nabahlobo. Ndikhumbula indlela umhlobo wam, iqabane elinomsebenzi weqela, laqonda ukuba bonke ubomi bakhe babunamatheko aqinileyo ", njengoko wayevakaliswa, kwaye iintsuku ezinodaka, iintsuku eziphakathi kwabo. Xa kwenzeka ukuba yenzeka, ithuba lokuya ehlabathini alizange lishiywe, kwaye kwakufuneka ajongane nobomi benene. UXa uthi: "Ndiyathanda ukuya emgodini," utshilo. Sidibene emva kwezaphulelo zokuqala ze-pandemic zaya kuhla. UVlad wayechwayitile kwaye echwayitile, wavakalisa ngathi ubuyile kwiindwendwe okanye wawubhiyozela umhla wakhe wokuzalwa. "Ndibhadule ndaya kwimosi emthendeleko endiyiqala ukuzicwangcisa mna ngeholide. Yonke imihla".
Umhlobo wam, ngaphandle kokuqonda, wasebenzisa ithuba lokulwamkela, nto leyo etsala ngaphandle kwe "hump" enkosi. Ulula kwaye unesibeleko. Eyona nto iphambili kuye kukuba, ngaphandle kokulinda izizathu ezisemthethweni, iimpelaveki ezimiselweyo okanye imihla ebalulekileyo, zisenzele kanye ngalo mhla. Ndiphefumlelwe yibali eliqhelekileyo, ndagqiba kwelokuba ndilinge. Kangangenyanga, "nje" nje "wasiyalela isidlo esimnandi esivela kwiindawo zokutsalela, sithenge izinto ezimnandi, zazifumana ukuba zifunwe kwi-tensen bahlamba ... kwaye uyazi ukuba yintoni? I-neurosis yoNyaka oMtsha (enye enokuba "andiyi kuba nexesha, andizukukwazi ukulungisa itafile, izipho zam, yonke into inyamalale!"), Ngokundibonisa mna.
Iingcali zengqondo Qaphela ukuba amandla okubamba iholide ukuze abashiye baphumle, bahlaziywe, baphuculwe ngovuyo kunye nemikhosi yokuhlala, yenye yeempawu zokuqola. Ziphose zonke izimvo zakho zangaphambili malunga no-Evaw no-Evaw noNyaka oMtsha kunye neHolide elandelayo. Jonga umva kwaye uveze okwenzekayo apha kwaye ngoku! Yonwabela i-bustle kunye nokupheka ngeenxa zonke, ukungalibali ukumamela kwaye uzive ngokwakho. Ewe, kunjalo, ukuza nawe!