Kuluntu lwethu, onjalo olo lwaphuhliswa, lunovelwano, ukuthatha abanye lenzululwazi, ukunyamezelana nokuqhubela phambili, kwasamkelwe ukuba senze uphawu lwemicimbi yethu yeMicimbi yeMicimbi. Ixabiso elikhulu, ubungakanani okanye ukungabikho kwabantwana kwaye, kunjalo, ubukho beqabane zizizathu zonke zokungasindwa. Ngokukodwa ukuba abantu balolole. Ngeli xesha, akukho patology ukuba wedwa. Sizama ukufumanisa ukuba ziphi iingcambu zesizungu, indlela yokwamkela, uthando kwaye woyise ukuba unqwenela.
Masiqale ngento yokuba ngamnye kuthi anombono wakhe oyena mntu unjalo. Uninzi lwazo, ukuthetha ngalo, sithetha umfazi okanye indoda ngaphandle kwesiqingatha. Okwangoku, isizungu esinjalo sahluke kakhulu kurhulumente, xa kungekho mntu ujikeleze wena ngokoqobo. Abantu - izidalwa zentlalo nakwezomphefumlo omnye ezizayo, yiya kwaye ihlazo, ihluthiwe i-nqaions, khumbula i-rubnindon yegama elifanayo. Ngethamsanqa, iimeko xa i-inzuzo eyoyikisayo yenzeka, kwithuba lanamhlanje aliboneleli: Kwimeko egxekayo, sihlala sinokufikelela kwi-Intanethi, inethiwekhi yentlalo, kwigama elithi uthandane, sifumane omnye umntu umntu onako. Ihluke ngokupheleleyo - sele ikhankanywe isizungu phakathi kwesihlwele, xa kukho abantu abaninzi, izalamane kunye nabahlobo abajikeleze umntu, kunye nomntu endithanda ukuba nekamva langoku kunye nekamva, hayi. Intetho namhlanje iya kumhamba.
Inyani
Ehlabathini, kukho abantu abaninzi ngakumbi kwaye abaninzi bakhulule kubudlelwane abangapheliyo abangapheliyo kwisikhundla sabo. Zincame ukuba ungomnye wabanethamsanqa onokuziphilela ngokwakho.
Ukulwa
Okokuqala, kunye nobunzima kunye nocalucalulo. Kunzima kakhulu ukwamkela isizungu sakho xa uluntu likhwaza: lubhabhe, luzalelwe abantwana! Zihloniphe kwaye ungavumelani kubungakanani be-semi-bumes, khumbula: khumbula: kufunda ixesha elide ukhetho, ukuba ngcono iqabane lakho liya kuba njalo.
Izenzo
Inyibilikene, ngaphandle kokubona nantoni na kwaye akukho mntu, yimbono yokuthandabuza kwaye ifanelekile ukuba lithandane. Ukulungiselela ukungasoyiki nokuba sisibini, okanye ilolo, fumana iSiseko sakho - iiklasi zenza umntu owonwabileyo.
Kutheni le nto isizungu sisoyika kwaye sikhathazeke? Imalunga nembali
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Entsimini ayisiyo ndoda
Kutheni le nto isizungu sisoyika kwaye sikhathazeke? Yiyo yonke imbali. Ookhokho bethu ekude kakhulu, abahlali kwaye bengomnye umxholo wokusinda. Omnye umzingeli akakwazanga ukuzalisa iMammoti, gcina umlilo emqolombeni kwaye ulungiselele kwisidlo sangokuhlwa senyama. Omnye umgcini wokugxila akakwazanga ukuzala kwaye ukhusele abantwana kwaye kwangaxeshanye fumanela ukutya. Naxa kunjalo bekucacile ukuba usapho, makungafani, esiqhelene nalo esiqhelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba sifumane imfuneko. Abantu bamanyanisa ukuba bafowunele intliziyo okanye umphefumlo, kodwa kwesi sidingo kwaye sinqwenela ukugcina ubomi babo. Isizungu ke, ekufungeni kwempucuko, sasihambelana nokufa.
Ixesha elingaphezulu, le meko iguqukile, kodwa ingengabo abafazi, ye-ALO. Indoda kwindoda yoosolusapho, enikwe amalungelo kunye namalungelo, inokufumana ngokulula imeko ye-bachelor, kuba uMbutho "ugubungele". Ukusuka kuloo nye, okanye kwisibini, phantse akukho nto yayixhomekeke. Imitshato yayingaphelelanga ngenxa yobutyebi babazali. Ngaphandle kokungqina lo mthetho. Kodwa nokuba lo mfana agqibe kwelokuba le ntsapho yayingeyiyo kuye, ugcina amalungelo ezinzuzo zosapho. Kungenjalo kanye le nto ingekakhathalelwa amantombazana, ngakumbi ngaphandle kwe-dowry. Yintoni enokwenzeka kumanenekazi achazwe kakuhle kuncwadi lwaseklasini, iRussia nelinye ilizwe.
Zonke zaqalisa ukutshintsha kufutshane nenkulungwane yamashumi amabini, ngokuqala kokukhululwa, ukuphuculwa kwentshukumo yabasetyhini kunye notshintsho kuluntu. Abafazi banelungelo lokusebenza, ivoti, badle ilifa - kwilizwi, ngokuthe ngcembe baba ngamalungu apheleleyo oluntu kwaye baqonde ukuba ulonwabo lwabo lungasoloko luxhomekeke ekubeni ikhona into ekufutshane na.
Namhlanje, imeko yakho - nokuba wena okanye ukhethe ilolo ngekratshi kwiPare-phantse akukho siphumo kumathemba akho. Kwaye ngoku, xa singadingeki ukuba siphile kwaye silwele ilungelo lokusebenza, lokuhamba kwaye sonwabe, sigcina ikhethe ngabo basala sodwa. Iinkulungwane ezindala, kwanembali yewaka leminyaka yezilwanyana zethu sasinika iseti ethandekayo yestereotypes enganyangekiyo. "Inye into kuthetha ukuba ayifanelanga nabani na, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho umlinganiswa ombi", "akafani," "" "" ewe, ufuna ukuzala - Ngaba uyawazi la mabinzana anuka apha apha, emva koko kuluntu lwethu oluphucukileyo? I-AM, kodwa sisimo sengqondo malunga nabantu abasondeleyo ukusuka kwelinye icala loluntu esenza imeko yemeko eyoyikisayo kwaye ingakhululekanga. Kwaye nanku umntu ongakulungelanga ubudlelwane, ufuna ukuzifumanela umntu ukuba angayikhuphe i-stigma eyoyikisayo, ithegi emnyama. Ngaba kufuneka nditsho ukuba kuyingozi kakhulu?
Namhlanje imeko yakho - nokuba wena okanye ukhethe ilolo lekratshi-phantse akukho mphumo kwiimbono zakho
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Inomboloe yokuqala
Ingcinezelo yezalamane kunye neendawo ezikulooda ezikufutshane ngamanye amaxesha zisityhafisa kwizenzo, esizisolayo ngazo. Phakathi kwezo, kunjalo, ukudalwa kosapho akukathandi ukuba ube kufutshane nentanda yakho, kodwa ngenxa yokuba yamkelwe njengento engeyonyani, "eyoyikisayo". Ngendlela, abantu abaninzi abangabafazi bangatshatanga nje kuphela kumnqweno wokutshata, kodwa naye wazala umntwana ukuze azale. Oku kuziphatha kwenza ukuba ngelishwa kunye nebhinqa, iqabane lakhe, nabantwana bakhe ababonakaliseyo ukuze banina. Omnye umzekelo oqaqambileyo ngabafowunelwa bokuqala, kungengenxa yothando lobutsha, kodwa ngenxa yokuba "ukuba andila, uya kufumana enye." Siyavuma ukunyamezela ingqumbo kunye nehlazo, ubundlobongela obuqhelekileyo bezengqondo, ukuba bangahlali kwimikhombano eyaphukileyo, ukuba ungatshatanga kwitreyila. " Amagama athukayo kwidilesi yabo bagqiba kwelokuba banesithukuthezi, banganginzisisanga nasenzondelelo. Njengoko sibona, ekuhleni okanye esibonakalayo, kodwa uluntu luchasa abo bangangxami ukufumana isibini okanye bakhawuleze kwinxalenye yesi sibini. Ungasimelana njani uluntu netyala lakhe elibekiweyo kwaye ufunde indlela onokuluthatha kwaye uyonwabele isizungu sakho?
Inqanaba lokuqala neliyintloko kukwazisa ngembali yayo kunye neengcambu zazo zonke ezo zinto uzihlangabezana nazo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ngokucacileyo apho iyona i-veloccance ukuba ihamba yedwa kunye nawe. Ngelishwa, inkcubeko yonxibelelwano kunye nomntu obaluleke kakhulu kwaye obalulekileyo ebomini bakho (nawe, kunjalo) usesahlala kwinqanaba eliphantsi kakhulu. Ingqwalaselo nothando lwabo bathathwa njenge-Egoecerism, kunye nokungavumi ukuzinikela kuye nabani na aze anikele umntu abo atshatileyo okanye umntu otshatileyo. Kwaye ke kufuneka eli nqanaba lokuphakamisa kwaye uligcine ukuphakama okufanelekileyo. Funda ukumamela kwaye uzive ngokwakho kunye neminqweno yakho. Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezintle kwaye zikukhuthaze. Qala kwaye ngaphandle kwemfesane, phosa izinto ozithandayo ongahambelaniyo. Funda ukuba nobuthathaka kunye nothando. Zive ukonwaba kulwazi ngesiqu sakho. Okungcono uziphathe, kokukhona abantu abafanelekileyo nabathandekayo baya kuba yinto ephambili kwindalo yakho.
Ungasimelana njani uluntu netyala lakhe elibekiweyo kwaye ufunde indlela onokuluthatha kwaye uyonwabele isizungu sakho?
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Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuba isizungu sakho asisiyo isizungu sakho esingesosibakala sokuba awunyanzelekanga (kwaye rhoqo le nto intle iphefumlelwe ngabantu abasondeleyo kuthi - nokukhetha kwakho. Khumbula iibhloko zembongi ye-Omar Khayama kwaye ubaphendule bonke uhlaselo kunye nezikhalazo: "Ke ukuze ubomi obulumkileyo buphila kakhulu. Imithetho emibini ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula ukuqala: Kungcono ukuba nendlala kunento endinayo. Kungcono ukuba ngcono kunaye nabani na. " Ingcinga enzulu nenobulumko ngefilosofi yaseMpuma iya kuhlala ihambelana.
Ukuzimela kunye nokukwazi ukubonelela ngeminqweno yabo kunye neemfuno zabo sisitshixo solonwabo nolonwabisayo, esiya kuba sisixhobo sobutyebi kunye nemeko yokufunda, hayi ubukho obubi. Ukuze ube nentembelo yokuba unokuba nomntu-abazali, izihlobo, abathandi, abathandi-zithetha ukuba bazifumanele indalo kunye nokugcinwa konxibelelwano olungeyomfuneko, indalo yabathengi. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uphile ngokwemikhosi yabo kwaye ithe, yima phezu kwemilenze kwaye ushiye ubudlelwane obubonisa nasiphi na isabelo sokuxhomekeka. Abafazi ababaziyo abo bacelomngeni, kuba "nditshatile," banokuwe kwisikhundla esingalunganga, nangona kunjalo, kunye namadoda.
Ukuba wenze yonke into esiyicebileyo ngasentla, kwaye uziva ungonwabisi kwisizungu sakho, khumbula abahlobo bakho! I-Bonds elungileyo, eyomeleleyo eqinileyo, abantu onokuthi uhlale bejika, bakhala, bonwabe, bolula igxalaba lakho, kukhuselo lwakho, kwenzeke ukuba kwenziwe hayi ukuba inye.
Ke, uyazi ukuba ungayibamba i-buzz kwisizungu sakho, uyayazi indlela yokuchitha ixesha yedwa kunye nawe, thanda kwaye uyixabisile wena nexesha lakho. Uyayiqonda ukuba iya kuba yintoni inyathelo elilandelayo? Impendulo inokuba ngumgca wobuchule bokuyila kolunye iklasiki: "Uthando lubaleka kwabo bamgxotha. Kwaye abo balekayo bayabaleka, babhabha entanyeni yakhe, nendlela athe tye ngayo. Ukuba ungena kubudlelwane kuyo nayiphi na indleko ayisiyo njongo yakho, njengommiselo, umntu ofanelekileyo uya kuvela ngokuzenzekelayo ebomini bakho ukuba uza kuba lula kwaye ukhululeke. Ngokubanzi, emva konyango, olona lwalamano lunemveliso lwenzeka ngesizungu, kuba ngoku uyalazi ixabiso, ngokunyaniseka kwaye unyanisekile kwaye ungavumi nokukhusela imida yakho, ungavumelani naliphi na iqabane, ukuba lalinjalo. Isizungu sesona sizungu esihle kakhulu sokubambisa abaxhaphazi kunye nee-daffodils, iiherrere kunye nabo bengazi ukuba bazivelwano kwaye banobubele.
Kwaye kuthekani ukuba umntu ofunekayo awuveli kwaye ungabonakali? Akukho nto. Akukho nto iyoyikisayo, akukho nto imbi, akukho mthetho ulwaphulo mthetho ongenzeki kuwe. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngoku unamava axabisekileyo kwaye aluncedo kokuhlala wedwa nawe, kwaye ngeli xesha akunyanzelwanga ukuba ulilandele inkosana, kodwa imizuzu kunye neeyure, ukuthumelelana kunye novavanyo , ufundisiso lwehlabathi kunye nabo. Mhlawumbi, sinokucebisa ukuba silolo wonke umntu odidekileyo, elahlekileyo kwaye engazi ukuba aphile njani. Unyango olungcono luza kunzima.
I-regina evstushenko
I-regina evtudhenko, umqeqeshi wobuqu:
-Umntu onesidima ngenqaku. UArthur wathi: "Uwedwa, wonke umntu uyazibona oko ikuthile, wathi," Umntu kufuneka abe nomdla kubo bodwa, oko kukuthi, kufanele ukuba ngokwakho. Yedwa uqoqosho alunyanzelekanga ukuba liphelelwe lithemba, kunyanzelekile ukuba ulisebenzise ixesha elinjalo ukuze uziphucuke, yandise imithambo yakho, fumana isifundo somphefumlo. Yonke into ilula-uyazithanda, kwaye uyakulibala malunga nesizungu, kwaye xa le nto ungoyena ulizulo, uya kuphila ngequbuliso ngabantu abanesidima. Ungayiloyisa Njani? Hlala apha. Kufuneka sihlale apha kwaye ngoku. Qalisa ukubonakalisa inyathelo lokuqala lonxibelelwano, kodwa khumbula ukuba ubuhlobo abubotshelelwa ngamini-nye. Phuhlisa. Funda ukugcina okuqinisekileyo kuyo nayiphi na imeko!
Amanyathelo amathathu (c) isizungu:
Nye. Sisusa uloyiko. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile, kodwa ihlala iyonakalisa imvakalelo eyonakalisayo nengakhiyo. Ukoyika isizungu, uwavala amathuba amaninzi.
2. Uthando Umnxibelelanisi wakhe ophambili oye ngokwakhe ngokwakhe. Ukuba yedwa kuthetha ukuba kufutshane. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukuze ukwazi ukuzizi.
3. Guqula indawo enetyhefu, Oko kukuxelela malunga neeyure ze-piking kwaye ubeka ezinye ii-stereotypes eziyingozi.