Ubuncinci kanye ebomini, ngamnye wethu wamamela ibali, njengoko umhlobo wakhe waphula intliziyo yendoda yakhe emthandayo, okanye waba liNgqina kwisitayile sesibini esitshatileyo. Kutheni le nto abanye bexabana kwaye bahlukane nobunzima, kwaye abanye abantu bafumana umntu ofanelekileyo kwizimvu nje ezimbalwa? Akukho kuphando lwenzululwazi ngesi sihloko, ke kuhlala ukuphikisana kuphela kwesakhelo se-psychology. Bhala amagqabantshintshi ukuba uyavumelana nendawo yethu okanye unembono eyahlukileyo.
Yeka ukhululekile
Eyona ngxaki iphambili yamantombazana ilele kumnqweno wokuhlengahlengisa umntu othandekayo. Ubhala ukuba ufuna ukudibana nawe ngokuhlwa, sele uvumile kwisidlo sangokuhlwa nomhlobo? SUKUFUNA UKUZE UZE UZE UZE: Ke lo mfo uza kuhamba, kwaye aphulukane nentombi yakho. Kwindawo yokuqala kuya kufuneka ube nezilangazelelo zakho, njengaye - owabo, kodwa uqhelekile ngoko. Ukuba uhlala ubingelela izicwangciso ngenxa yeentlanganiso, ekugqibeleni, uya kuhlala kwi-queugh ophukileyo- awuyi kwakha umsebenzi, kodwa uya kuba sikhoboka, kodwa uya kuba ulikhoboka layo. Khuthaza umntu omthandayo ukuze udibanise nezicwangciso zakho eziqhelekileyo. Umzekelo, unokuhlala kunye kwaye usebenze, endaweni yokujonga okungenamsebenzi kolu ngcelele lulandelayo, okanye hamba kunye ukuya emsebenzini kwindawo yokuzivocavoca.
Chitha ixesha elidibeneyo ngenzuzo
Thanda inkangeleko yakho
Khohlwa amabinzana obuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwiifilimu ezifana "ungandijongeli, andipeyinti" okanye "lixesha lokuba uhlale ekutyeni." Kuphela nguwe kuphela ogqiba kwelokuba ufuna ukukhangela, hayi inkwenkwe yakho, mama, kunye nabani na! Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukhuli kolu mbala okanye ngombala weenwele, hamba uye kutshintsha yonke into engahambelani. Umntu onothando akasayi kukhathalela ukukuhlazisa ngesigqibo sobuqu. Ewe, kwaye ukudakumba kwamehlo okubonakalisa kwakhe esipilini kuya kukwenza uzive iimvakalelo zakho. Okukhona uyithandayo, kokukhona uyakuthanda kakhulu - yonke into ilula!
Qala ixesha lakho lasimahla.
Umntu ngamnye kufuneka abe nexesha kunye nendawo. Kucacile ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu onokuthi afumane indawo yokuthenga indlu ngamagumbi aliqela aphantsi kweeofisi, amagumbi okuhlamba ahlukeneyo kunye namagumbi okuhlamba kunye nokunxiba. Kodwa unokuhlala ufumana imveliso yokuba nexesha lokuba yedwa kwiingcinga kunye nemicimbi yakho. Ukuba awuhlali kunye, musa ukukhawuleza ukukhwela: Uya kuhlala unomntu kude, kodwa indlu iya kuhlala ingumhlanga, apho ungaphumla khona kwindalo yabanye abantu kwaye ugxile emsebenzini wakho. Kwaye ukuba uhlala kunye, ungaze umnqamle ukuba ahambe abatyelele abahlobo, okanye ahambe ngokuhamba okwahlukileyo. Ukwahlula okwethutyana kuyakuchaphazela kwaye kuye.
Hambisa into oyithandayo
Fumana into yokuzonwabisa eya kukudlulisela kwaye unike amandla afanelekileyo. Ingayimidlalo kunye nokuzoba, ukucula okanye ukubumba kodongwe. Zama izinto ezahlukeneyo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uza kufezekisa injongo yakho - ukufumana eli shishini. Yikholelwe, ibalulekile! Ukuzenzela, uya kuphazanyiswa kukucinezela iingxaki, phuhlisa kwaye utye oqinisekileyo. Emva kweeseshoni ezinjalo kumfo, uya kubuyela kwimeko enkulu. Kwaye hayi ubudlelwane obuqinileyo?
Jonga kwiikona ezimnyama zomphefumlo wakhe
Sukuthi cwaka xa kukho into oza kuyithetha
Akwaziwa, owaba ngumbhali wentsomi, ngokungathi amadoda athe cwaka, akafuni zincoko. Kuwo wonke umntu uhlala enkwenkwana enamabali akhe - bonwabile kwaye elusizi. Akufuneki uthathe inxaxheba kwindima yengqondo kwaye usombulule iingxaki zakhe, kodwa unokuhlala uphulaphule kwaye uxhasa. Xa wena ukhalaza ngosuku lwakho oluthandayo okanye ixandelelana nomhlobo, mbuze ukuba uziva njani? Kuya kufuneka ufunde uvelwano: ukubona xa ecaphukile, ezama ukunceda ukujongana nengxaki, ukuba ufuna ukukuvulela. Kobunye otshintshiselwano ngamandla, ufunda ukuqondana kwaye ufumane izitshixo kwiingcango ezivaliweyo. Emva kokwakha ukuzithemba, uzinika iqabane elithembekileyo- okokuqala, kwaye ke umthandi. Uyavuma?