Isu tinowanzozvibvunza kana akandida kana kuti kwete? Zvakaringana kurarama hupenyu hwangu here? Isu tese tinogara tichifunga nezverudo, kufungidzira nezve hukama hwakakwana uye hope kuti tizive izvi ndizvo chaizvo kunzwa kwacho munyika. Magariro emunharaunda ari kuimba nemifananidzo yakawanda uye mifananidzo ine masaini akanaka kuti rudo rwechokwadi uye chii chinofanira kunge chiri murume kana mukadzi chaiye kana mukadzi akanaka. Uye nguva dzose patinoisa pandinoverenga chinhu chandinoverenga chinhu chiri pedyo kana chinonakidza. Musoro worudo unogara uripo mukukurukurirana kwedu neshamwari, padyo nevanoshanda navo. Hongu ... Hazvina mhosva kuti takadii, asi kunzwa uku kunoita basa rakakosha muhupenyu hwedu. Mumwe munhu anoguta nehuwandu uye hunhu hwerudo muhupenyu hwake, mumwe munhu haasi. Mune ruremekedzo dzakasiyana, rudo runotora fomu rake. Wese munhu ane rudo rwavo. Ini ndoda kupa imwe yemaonero anonakidza pane rudo rupi uye zvazvinoitika. American Psychologist Robert Sternberg inopa inotevera rudo fomula. Mukufunga kwake, inosanganisira matatu zvikamu: kushamwaridzana, kuda uye chikwereti.
Pasi pehukama hunonzwisiswa sekunzwa kuswededzwa nemunhu, paunogona kupa zviitiko zvake zvepedyo, uchigovana mufaro nekusuwa, izvo zvinonzi uchitaura nemweya. Kunzwa kwemufaro uye kudziya kubva pakutaurirana nemumwe, pfungwa yekubatira zvakare kuratidzwa kwehukama. Iyi ndiyo chinhu chemanzwiro cherudo.
Kuda ndeyekuti hazvina kuoma sei kufungidzira, nezvebonde, manzwirii, chishuvo chekushamwaridzana. Ichi ndicho chinhu chinokurudzira cherudo.
Chikwereti (kana kuvimbika) zvinoratidzwa mukuzvipira kunoenderana nevanhu mukuwirirana. Izvi ndezvesarudzo yekuda kuenderera mberi uye kuenderera mberi nehukama, kana kwete. Chikwereti chinhu chinoziva cherudo.
Iyo yakakodzera sarudzo iyo munhu wese anotsauka ndeye - yakakwana rudo, iyo inosanganisira zvese izvi zvitatu zvikamu. Asi izvi zvinoitika kwete nguva dzose.
Zvemashoko akasimba, maviri chete akakwana. Zvichienderana nepfungwa iyi, matatu marudzi erudo anogona kusiyaniswa:
Romantic = kudanana + kushamwaridzana. Vakabatana vanonzwa kukwezva kwepabonde uye kubatidzana kwepamoyo kune mumwe nemumwe.
Rocky = chikwereti + shungu.
Hushamwari = kushamwaridzana + chikwereti (kuzvitsaurira). Mukukosha, hukama hwakawanda hwekugara nenguva dzinoshandurwa kuita fomu iri.
Chimwe chezvinhu hazvina kukwana kuvaka hukama hwakareba uye hwakasimba, asi chimwe chinhu chinogona kushandira kunze. Ehe, hazvizotidzi rudo ruzere, asi zvakadaro ...
Chokwadi munhu wese akasangana nenyangariro yenguva dzose yechinhu chemurume kana musikana. Kune kupisa, kufarira, kunzwa kuti iwe uri "uri muMweya", asi hapana kukwezva kwebonde, shungu, zvakanaka, uye chishuwo chekuzvisarudzira futi. Izvi zvinoitika kana hukama hwave huripo muukama. Zviri nyore kufungidzira kuti ndezvekushamwaridzana.
Uye zvinoitika kuti pakutanga kutarisa, kune chishuvo chinopenga, chinoda, icho chinobva chaitwa, kana kuti mushure menguva yapera. Panguva imwe chete, hapana kutaura kwepfungwa uye, chokwadi, kuzvipira. Kwete kwenguva refu, asi zvakare sarudzo iyo mune mamwe mamiriro anobatsira. Ndizvowo iye akapenya, asi pfupi pfupi yekuda.
Rudo Rwakatsanangurwa - Kana vanhu vakabatanidza chete pfungwa yechikwereti. Izvi zvinowanzoitika muhukama hwehukama apo vanhu vakarasikirwa nekukwezva kwepamoyo uye kwemuviri kune mumwe nemumwe. Kunyangwe mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, apo, semuenzaniso, vanhu vanoroora pakuverenga kana kuti kwete mukuda kwavo, chimiro chakadai cherudo chinogona kuve chekutanga kutanga kwekukura kwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama hwehukama.
Saka muhukama hwakasiyana, rudo runotora fomu rakasiyana. Uye zvisinei chaizvo. Chero chimwe chezvinhu zvinogona kuvandudzwa. Chinhu chikuru ndechekuti hukama hwaive hwakavimbika, uye nevanobatana nemanzwiro emumwe neumwe.