Ni kangahe twumva gushidikanya kwabo, ubwoba, ubwoba? Ni kangahe dufata ubunararibonye bwacu, cyane cyane niba bidasobanutse? Uburyo busanzwe bwo gutekereza bwerekana ko byose "bibi" bigomba gutabwa mu mutwe. Ariko inzozi ntabwo zimenyerewe muburyo bwacu bwo kumenya kugirango wirinde ibyabaye. Ibitotsi birashobora kuvuga kubyerekeye, kimwe nabantu bose bazima, bakunze gushidikanya, gutinya cyangwa gutekereza niba bakomeza ikintu: kubaka umuryango, gukora umushinga cyangwa kwiga.
Dore urugero rwiza:
"Nagize inzozi. Manicure yanjye yicaye. Umugororwa arababaye cyane, yihebye. Avuga ati: "Sinzi icyo gukorana na Cyril (uyu ni umugabo we)?"
Umuntu yavuze ko we, ntabwo yari ameze. Arababara rero: niba yatandukanijwe, niba ugomba kubana. Namubwiye rwose ko bafite umuryango, umwana. Basanzwe hamwe. Kuki yumva umuntu? Ndamubwira nti: "Ubworoherane, cyangwa wowe hamwe na we, cyangwa utayifite. Uzakura he undi muntu witanze kandi wuje urukundo? "Mu nzozi, niko. Nubwo mubuzima ari umusinzi wibiyobyabwenge, adafite ibyo akunda imyaka mike. Ikintu cya mbere cyaje gutekereza ubwo nabyutse ni uko urukundo ari ugushidikanya kwanjye. "
Inzozi nziza! Intwari yacu ibona abashakanye badakuze mu nzozi, aho umubano ubabaza: umufatanyabikorwa ushingiye hamwe numufatanyabikorwa, ushidikanya, ushishikarizwa.
Birumvikana ko inzozi zacu zasobanuye neza isezerano ryo gusinzira: Urukundo ni igice cye ku buryo yanenze imyifatire idakuze ku mugabo we n'ubufatanye bwabo. Iki gice cyacyo, cyatengushye, kirahagarikwa kandi kimaze guhagarara gushora imari. Mugihe kimwe, iki gice ntabwo kibikora kugirango uhindure uko ibintu bimeze, ahubwo ni imibabaro gusa. Urundi ruhande rwubugingo bwe rumubwima, arasaba isano ishinzwe.
Gusinzira bigaragarira inzozi zacu kumwanya we watengushye kubufatanye. By the way, ntabwo ari amahirwe ko amashusho yatoranijwe atari ku mahirwe: mu bihe byashize, umusinzi n'umugore we ubabaye kandi bagashyira ingufu mu kuzamura imibereho yabo.
Birumvikana, muri rusange gushinja undi: umufatanyabikorwa - umutonzi wibiyobyabwenge, utizewe kandi ushingiye. Kubabara. Umuntu wese azabyumva. Muri icyo gihe, ku mugore, uyu mwanya w'uwahohotewe na Porokireri icyarimwe bifasha guhunga inshingano zabo bwite ku buzima bwabo. Mugihe asezeranye no gushinja no kunegura undi, imigambi ye irahari.
Ahari inzozi zinzozi zacu zirabigaragaza ko uyu ari iyi myanya yibintu: Gukosora umufatanyabikorwa, gukosora ko arushijeho gukunda, kwizerwa - biroroshye kuruta gukora ubuzima bwe bwinshi kandi bwishimye.
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Maria Zebeskova, umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Amahugurwa Yambere Yimiryango Yiterambere Yumuntu Marka Khazina