Umubano mwiza bisaba imirimo ikomeye kuruhande rwabafatanyabikorwa. Hariho ibihe mugihe ari ngombwa gufata umwanzuro utoroshye, urwanya inyuma yibibazo bisanzwe bitagisa nkimbaraga. Turimo kuvuga kubyerekeye ubuhemu.
Akenshi mugihe umufatanyabikorwa ahindura kimwe cya kabiri, bombi bagomba kuryozwa byombi, ariko ntabwo abashakanye bose babizi, batangira gushinja abantu ibyabaye. Byongeye kandi, nta bugambanyi gusa, ahubwo ni umuco, butari bworoshye kumenya, kuko nta nama ihari.
Ubuhemu?
Ibintu byose biroroshye - ndetse no kuba wenyine hamwe numukunzi wawe, umugabo "uhari mu bicu", uhora utekereza ku ngingo yo kurohama, mu nzira, abafatanyabikorwa ntabwo ari bo. Ibi birashobora kwitwa inzogera yo gutandukana mugice cya kabiri: Nkibisanzwe, ubuhemu bwumuco bubanzirizwa numubiri.
Ariko tuvuge iki ku bugambanyi bw'umubiri?
Nkuko tumaze kuvuga, ubugambanyi bwumubiri ni ibisubizo byumvikana byimyitwarire, kuko igitsina kitagira ibyiyumvo, niba umuntu asanzwe afite umufatanyabikorwa, ntibikunze kubaho kuruhande. Kenshi na kenshi hari ibyiyumvo byurukundo, nkuko bishoboka guhitamo kubugamba gusa kugirango tureke amarangamutima akomeye.
Birashoboka kugarura umubano nyuma yubugambanyi?
Kubwamahirwe, abafatanyabikorwa benshi bashutswe ntibashobora kwemera ubuhemu bw'igice cyabo cya kabiri, cyane cyane niba aba bombi bari mu mibanire kuva kera. Ariko bibaho kandi ko abafatanyabikorwa bazi neza ko mubyukuri ibyiyumvo byimbitse ari uko umuntu utazi ntiyashoboraga kubatsemba, agatangira gukora ku mibanire nimbaraga ebyiri, ariya umwe mubafatanyaga intege nke. Buri rubanza ni umuntu ku giti cye, bityo ntibishoboka kuvuga wizeye uko umuntu runaka azabyitwaramo.
Ikintu cya mbere kizakorwa nyuma yuko umufatanyabikorwa yemeye "icyaha", hitamo niba uzakomeza umubano. Niba wafashe icyemezo cyo gushyigikira ubumwe, ibuka ko ejo hazaza ukeneye kugerageza kutavuga igice kidashimishije, nta na kimwe bisimbura umufatanyabikorwa. Guhora wibuka intege nke z'imigozi yabo ntacyo bizatera uretse kurakara, kandi bizaganisha ku guhagarika burundu.
Abahanga mu mitekerereze yumutima batekereza iki?
Abahanga mu bya prechololololololololololololololololololololololololow, burigihe hariho amahirwe yo kugarura umubano nyuma yubugambanyi, ariko akazi ko gukira kwabo bizagorana, ibi ugomba kwitegura. Abahanga basaba babiri kutihatira imyanzuro yihuta - Ntugafate ibyemezo bikomeye bijyanye nigihe kizaza, nubwo bayobowe namarangamutima akomeye. Iha umwanya wo gutuza. Bibaye ngombwa, hamagara psychologue uzabona muburyo nawe, ni ubuhe buryo bwo kwimura abantu bawe cyane mubibazo byawe. Wibuke ko gutandukana mugihe cyo ubuhemu atari inyuma ya byose biteganijwe, ariko byatanzwe ko abafatanyabikorwa bombi biteguye guhinduka.