Vuba aha, ndagenda mbona amabaruwa yabasomyi bafite icyifuzo cyo gusobanura ibisobanuro byinzozi kubakunzi bahoze cyangwa abagabo. Umubano warangiye, rimwe na rimwe hashize imyaka, kandi ingaruka zasigaye.
Inzozi zacu ziragerageza guhangana nizi ngaruka, nubwo akenshi mumitwe yandika abategarugori bambaza ko niba uwahoze ari umukunzi arota, noneho birashoboka ko bivuze ko ndacyabikunda?
Ntabwo ari ngombwa. Inzozi zacu ninzira yubunararibonye twunze ubumwe, ihujwe. Iyo umubano urangiye, ibintu bitombora biradusuka kuburyo ubu tugomba kwihanganira ubu bunararibonye wenyine. Dufashijwe ninzozi, twifasha "gukora", gukwirakwiza imbaraga nubutunzi muburyo bushya.
Kurugero, dore ibaruwa yumugore wanditse kubyerekeye igitabo, cyararangiye, ariko ingaruka aho iryamye, yagumye.
Ati: "Sinigeze mfata umwanzuro wo kuvuga igihe cyose cyarangiye hagati yacu umubano utatera imbere. Byari byoroshye kandi bisanzwe, ndetse natekereje ko kwizerwa. Ariko umunsi umwe nagize gutinda. Ukuntu iyi minsi mike yahinduye ubuzima bwanjye! Nabonye neza ko ntashaka abana nuyu muntu, kuko abana bazatwandikira ubuziraherezo. Amaganya yagaragaye ko ari ibinyoma, ntabwo nari ntwite, ariko nababajwe nuko iyi minsi mike ntashaka ko umwana atashakaga umwana. I! Ndasenga abana kandi nhora bifuza ibyanjye. Kandi mu buryo butunguranye, naje kubona ko ntashakaga kwifatanije n'uyu mugabo. Twaratandukanye, birakabije, tunezereye, sinicuza. Nyuma yimyaka myinshi, ndota inzozi mbona, uwo nacyabyaye umwana. Ndabivuga ku mugabo wanjye, ndavuga norohewe. Mu nzozi, ishusho yahoze ari umukunzi wanjye. Kandi kubera impamvu runaka ndamususuruye cyane, nubwo mu buzima bwanjye sinabitekerejeho imyaka itari mike, mbere yo gusinzira, kandi rimwe na rimwe na rimwe na rimwe nibuka bikomeye, ndi umwijima mwinshi mu buzima bwanjye. "
Birashoboka, inzozi zerekana ko turota ko agishaka guhangana nikibazo kitoroshye kuri we. Kubera uru rubanza no gutinda, yavumbuye ikuzimu yose hagati yabo, kubura ibyiringiro byubatswe byari bimaze kubora hamwe na bo bakundwa. Muri ako kanya, kwibeshya kwe kuri we byasenyutse, hafi ye, ku bana bushoboka, ejo hazaza. Kandi nkaho agerageza kubwira ibitotsi, ko byose babikoze neza, ko ibintu byose bigomba kuba: umuryango, abana. Noneho, iyo ibintu byose bimeze neza, arashobora kureba nubushyuhe bwigihe cyahise. Noneho ntabwo afite ubwoba bw'ejo hazaza, ariko arahamye. Kandi igihe cyarushagaho kwirwanaho, arashobora no kwibuka ko wibuka ibyo byanga, ubushishozi, nububabare, abifashijwemo, abifashijwemo na bo yahisemo gukora umubano w'urukundo aho abana bazaba gukomeza. Nibyo, ubushakashatsi buri mubuzima bwa buri wese. Kandi ibihe bibabaza cyane birashobora rimwe na rimwe kuba swivel cyane mugihe babikora.
Cyangwa hano ni urugero. Uyu mugore ntabwo yari amaze igihe kinini atabana. Nkaho gutandukana, byari biherekejwe numubare munini w'amabanga atandukanye, ukuri kubabaza, amaherezo arabwirana, ibyemezo byinshi byafashwe, kugabana umutungo no kubaka ubuzima butandukanye.
Kandi inzozi ze ni: "Nahisemo inzu yizewe. Ndebye mu nzu mu ntore, inzu ikomeye. Nzizihiza amahitamo utizewe kandi aragushimishije. Ndareba gusa ibize byizewe kandi igihe kirekire. Ndabimenya, ndagira inama, hashingira. Amazu, aho abaturanyi bahindura buri myaka 4, ntundeke. Ndareba amazu nitonze kandi igihe kirekire. "
Izi nzozi zidafite imvugo ngereranyo igaragaza ko inzozi zishaka uburyo bwo gukora urufatiro rukomeye. Birashoboka ko imibare 4 igira agaciro. Ahari cyane yarubatse, kandi ahari iyi shusho ntabwo ari igihe rusange cyubumwe bwayo, ariko mugihe ubumwe bwayo bwabashyigikiye rwose.
Mu nzozi, arashaka kandi arema ishingiro ryizewe kuri we, atari mu wundi muntu, ahubwo yubaka inkunga muri we.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin