Iyo kumva uhangayika bikangura muri twe no kumva ko uhangayitse byiyongera, mubisanzwe turashaka kubikuraho. Ariko ntuzigere usohokana neza ntuzagera kuri "tablet ya magic". Mugihe tutazamenya kubwimpamvu, ibikorwa byacu byose bizaba bitarenze.
Niba utaye ibintu bikomeye byo mu bwana igihe nari kubura Data (yapfuye mfite imyaka 3), hanyuma aziranye na mbere azira guhangayika no guhangayika yari mu myaka 11. Nahisemo gukora ibikorwa byubushakashatsi, guca amaguru hejuru yamavi kandi ... kongera kubirohama. Namaze umwaka mu bitaro, mubana bafite ubumuga. Niba kandi nagize amahirwe ko nagenda, ntibigeze babona mubitekerezo. Kusohoka mu bitaro, mfite imyaka 12 nahuye n'umwana we uremereye mama, aherekejwe no gukubitwa, ikinamico y'igice cy'umutungo, igaragara mu ijoro ryo kutuzenguruka no kujya mu mwiherero. .. kandi iki gihe cyijimye cyamaze umwaka wose! Kubwibyo, uko imyaka 14, nabaye "imitekerereze yumuhanga mu muryango", kandi muri 17 hafi ntabwo yanyuze muriyi nzira, yiyandikisha muri psychologiya. Ubuzima bwahisemo indi nzira, kandi muri you nyuma yimyaka 23 nshize nkorana nabagore ibihumbi icumi, nkoresha imirongo, amahugurwa, kuyobora amasomo kumurongo. Gufasha abagore kwisanga! Guhangayikishwa n'amaganya, cyane cyane ubu, shyira mu bikorwa byinshi ku buzima bw'abakobwa. Mbere ya byose, kuri sisitemu ya hormone.
Bikwiye kumvikana ko hari imihangayiko cyangwa guhangayika nkigisubizo kubibazo, kandi haribigaragaza nkibinyabuzima mumubiri biterwa nibikorwa byacu - kubujiji cyangwa kwirengagiza.
Niba tuvuga ibinyabuzima, noneho, reka tuvuge ko tumaranye shokora, ni guhangayikishwa n'umwijima, yohereza impuruza, kandi ubwonko bwo gutuza, bugaragaza umubare munini wa endorphine. Kandi turi beza! Kuva endorphine igabanya ububabare, ikureho ubwoba kandi bidushimisha gusa. Rero, hashyizweho umuzingi: Gutesha agaciro hanze ni ukugerageza kubibona / kunywa / kunywa umwotsi / - kwishima - Endorfina - Ibyishimo. Turanyerera muri uyu kwikuramo kwangiza. Urashobora kubivamo, gusa numvise uko ikora, ukabona uwasimbuye.
Ati: "Birakenewe kumva ko hari imihangayiko cyangwa guhangayika nk'igisubizo kuri uko ibintu bimeze, ariko haribigaragaza nkibinyabuzima mumubiri biterwa nibikorwa byacu"
Uburyo bwa kabiri bwo guhangayika no guhangayika nigisubizo cyiterabwoba ritaziguye. Kandi hano dukeneye ibikoresho, bifite akamaro kandi byizewe, byadufasha kwirinda ingaruka zangiza cyangwa imigambi mibisha.
Rero, ni ngombwa cyane kumva niba iterabwoba ari ukuri cyangwa bigaragara. Ukurikije ibi, birakenewe kwishyura umwanya wo gusobanukirwa gukora. Rimwe na rimwe, ukeneye igisubizo ako kanya. Kandi rimwe na rimwe, mugihe impuruza ikomeje hashingiwe ku iterabwoba riboneka, turanyerera muri izi ngororamubiri mbi "mu mutwe" amasaha, iminsi, amezi ... kandi rimwe na rimwe imyaka.
Guhangayikishwa ntabwo ari cortisol yiyongera gusa mumaraso, ariko nanone amababi yose ya hormone, harimo na adrenaline. Iyi nizo kandi inzitizi mbi zo mumutwe zakozwe nu gusubiramo mumutwe, niyihe gahunda ubwonko bwacu mugushiraho amasano yashyizweho neza atugarurira muri iki mibu.
Ndasaba kugerageza kwihanganira impuruza no guhangayikishwa nintambwe zikurikira:
Intambwe mbere Th ihora kumenya ibibera.
Intambwe ebyiri - gutinda. Igikoresho cyiza hano gipimwa cyane.
Ndasaba gushyira imwe mumikindo hepfo yinda kandi nkabyemeza neza, mugihe uhumeka, iyi palm isunitswe imbere. Kuberako etage yo munda yazamutse. Guhumeka cyane, usibye kuzura amaraso ya ogisijeni, nabyo bikora diafragm yacu, yaka mu masasu yacu ya adrenal, kandi duketwa massage nk'iryo bagabanya imisaruro. Iminota 5-10 yo guhumeka cyane nintangiriro nziza yo gukomeza inzira zikorwa ziva mubibazo byo guhangayika no guhangayika. Ifasha kandi kugabanya inshuro ubwonko bwacu bukora. Iyo duhangayitse, imiraba yubwonko ni ngufi, kandi inshuro zabo ziri hejuru. Mugihe dutangiye guhumeka cyane, buhoro buhoro uburebure bwiyongera, kandi inshuro ziragabanuka.
Intambwe ya gatatu - Gutekereza. Niba tuyihuza, urashobora no kwinjira muri leta yubwonko - kumva amahoro yimbitse. Mubisanzwe iyo duhangayitse kandi dutakambiye, tubura kumva umubiri. Turi ibitekerezo gusa. Ntacyo twumva. Ariko imirongo yibitekerezo irarohama mumutwe.
Niba tugerageje kumva umubiri wawe hamwe no guhumeka neza, gutema intoki kumaguru, nkinguge zikora, cyangwa ugashyira hamwe urutoki runini kandi rwimpande zose mu mpeta, Tingling cyangwa Ibindi byumviro mu mpana, tuzamura ibitekerezo biturutse ku mutego wo mu mutwe, biteye ubwoba no gutera imihangayiko, ku bijyanye no kwibanda, ubunararibonye butaziguye, ubusanzwe budahangayitse.
Byongeye kandi, ubufasha buhebuje buzaba amajwi adasanzwe yijwi, umurimo wo guhuza ubwonko uhereye ku masomo yanjye y'ubusa "mu mihangayiko mu minota 15."