Birumvikana ko benshi muritwe turi abanebwe kandi tukemera byibuze rimwe na rimwe turuhukira, ikindi kintu, niba leta ya flegmati iheruka, yibasira urwego rwose rwubuzima. Leta iyo dushobora guhindura uko ibintu bimeze, ariko ntidushaka, byitwa abatishoboye. Phenomenon yo gutabara yize yafunguwe numutekerereze ya psychologue Inkomoko y'Abanyamerika Martin Seligman hagati mu kinyejana gishize.
Uyu munsi, muri ubu buryo, abantu b'imyaka iyo ari yo yose babaho: kuva abana ba rubyiruko bato rugana abayobozi bakomeye b'isosiyete nini. Mubisanzwe, iyi leta yose inyura muburyo butandukanye, ikintu cyonyine kibahuza byose ni ukubura icyifuzo cyo guhindura ikintu mubuzima bwe, nubwo byagora kubaho. Amagambo asanzwe ushobora kumva ava kuri "utishoboye":
- "Abandi barashoboye, kandi sinabigeraho."
- "Ntabwo nshobora guhangana n'umutwaro nk'uwo."
- "Ndacyumva merewe nabi."
- "Meze neza uko ari".
Mu buryo bumwe, ibitagira utize bifitanye isano no kwihesha agaciro bike: Birasa nkaho ari umuntu ko intsinzi ye yose ari ibintu byera, ariko kunanirwa rwose kumutimanama we. Ntabwo bitangaje kuba imibereho yuburyo nubu buryo iragabanuka cyane. Ariko hari uburyo bwo gufasha gutsinda kubura icyifuzo cyikintu cyo guharanira? Tuzareba kure.
Shakisha isano hagati y'ibikorwa n'ingaruka
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Menya ko hariho isano hagati y'ibikorwa n'ingaruka
Nkuko twabivuze, "umuntu utishoboye" yizeye ko ibyo yatsinze byose ari amahirwe asekeje. Ibi ni bibi rwose. Ibikorwa byacu byose bifite ingaruka - zombi kandi nziza. Hamwe nakazi keza, uko byagenda kose, uzaza ibisubizo byiza kuruta niba ukora mubyinshi. Intsinzi ntibishoboka niba udashyizeho imbaraga. Kubwibyo, igihe cyose ugeze ku bisubizo byiza, suzuma ibyo wakoze kugirango ugere ku ntsinzi. Buhoro buhoro, mubitekerezo byawe bizakemurwa igitekerezo cy'uko ibikorwa byacu bigize ingaruka, kandi ntabwo buri gihe ari bibi.
Fata kunanirwa
Ntabwo aribeshya numuntu ntacyo ukora, ibyo birashoboka ko wumva inshuro zirenze imwe. Ni ngombwa kumva ko utaguye utazagera kuntego zawe, nibisanzwe kandi bizahoraho. Inzira yoroshye yo kureka ibindi bikorwa, abahitanywe no gutsindwa kwambere. Ntukemere ko ugenda mu burambe bubi - urabona intego, noneho ugomba kwimukira muntambwe zito, ariko ntuhinduke.
Tekereza neza
Nibyo, tuzi ko iki gitekerezo kigerageza kukwegera kuri buri cyumba - umutoza, ariko rwose bifasha rwose kwibonera gutsindwa no kudahagarara aho. Nibyo, kugirango uhindure ubwenge ukanze ntibishoboka, ariko urashobora guhindura buhoro buhoro ibintu byawe bisanzwe. Nkumukoresha wingirakamaro, gerageza guhagarika ibitekerezo bibi buri gihe ikintu kitari kuri gahunda. Vuba cyane, uzabona ko byoroshye kuvura ibihe birakajwe gusa no kwitiranya.