Ikibazo nyamukuru nahuye nakazi kumarangamutima nimyitwarire itaziguye, idasobanutse kandi ya viscous yabantu yagaragaye mubucuti nibiryo. Iyi ngingo irashimishije kandi ishimishije, yuzuye imitego ninzitizi, bityo ntibishoboka kubigabanyamo kwiyangiza gusa ibitekerezo bimwe. Mu gace k'ibi no mu ruhare, "abvenness" mu biryo ni imibabaro mugaragaza bidasanzwe. Abaguzi bahangayitse ntibishimye.
Ububabare bwiza
Nibintu bike byo kurohama mask yubunyangamugayo, intsinzi yo hanze, ubwiza budasubirwaho, ubutunzi, ubwigenge ndetse bukabije ndetse no kwihesha agaciro umwimerere, nkuko ububabare bwifashe neza burabagirana cyane kandi buteye isoni. Ubwiyongere bwanduye munsi yizina "imibabaro" ifite urugero rudasanzwe. Reba hirya no hino. Reba mu ndorerwamo, kandi rwose uzavumbura ibimenyetso bye.
Gukenera urukundo nibyingenzi byibanze, kandi kubwibyo dufite intege nke cyane. Urukundo rukoresha abantu twishingikirizaho. Nyuma, twe, abanyeshuri bafite impano, koresha manipulation imwe muburyo bunoze kubantu batubishingikirije. Ibitabo byinshi byiza byanditswe kubyerekeye imiterere yimikino nkiyi. Fata nk'urugero, "manipulator ya" manipulator "ya shost, cyangwa" abantu bakina imikino n'imikino abantu bakina "E. Bern.
Ibura ihishura kwiheba amarangamutima. Byakozwe numva ko mubuzima bwanjye mugihe kitoroshye ntanumwe kuri njye. Ndi jyenyine kandi nkeneye inkunga. Nkeneye urukundo, uruhare, kwitaho, kubura mu buryo busanzwe.
Ntibishoboka ko wenyine, ukurikirana urukundo dukunda kwiheba kandi tunatandukanya ubwacu. Kurokoka uko dushoboye. Umuntu arimo guta amafaranga yo gushaka amafaranga, umuntu afata umuntu cyangwa akora umubiri we, umuntu yiruka ku guhaha, yatewe no kubara byose. Kandi umuntu uhiga abafatanyabikorwa kubera urukundo, neza, cyangwa ku mibonano mpuzabitsina gusa. Niba inzira nkizo zizuzuza urukundo ntirukora, urashobora kwiyambaza inzoga, ibiyobyabwenge, gukina urusimbi cyangwa, amaherezo, indwara zirwaye! Hariho inzira nyinshi, ariko tuzatura muri iki gihe ibiryo bihebye.
Kuki ibiryo? Nibyo, kuko iki aricyo gikoresho cyoroshye gikora kunyurwa ako kanya. Ibiryo byari bihari mugihe tubuze ababyeyi hafi. Ibiryo ntibyahagurukaga ntibitwadusiga, nk'uko Data yabigenje. Ibiryo ntibyababaje akababaro n'ibibazo. Ntiyavuze "oya." Ntiyatsinze. Ibiryo ntabwo byari byasinze. Buri gihe byarahari, kabone niyo byaba ari bike kandi bigarukira. Yari aryoshye. Ubushyuhe iyo twahagaritse, dukonje mubushyuhe. Ibiryo byahindutse inshuti magara, ihora hafi. Birashoboka cyane ko bisa nurukundo twakunze kubura. Ariko, ibiryo ntibyabaye umusimbura wuzuye. Yakomeje guhaguruka, bidashoboka guhinga inzara zizwi cyane.
Sweetie ntarira
MILI, nk'izina rye, ahubwo Milovoid. Nuzuye kubice byayo, kandi mu gikapu cye cyiza habaho ibinyoma, shokora, kuki nziza cyangwa waffelka. Areba kumeza rusange twateraniraga kugirango arusheho gutunganya, kandi atenguringurijwe amaboko - "rwose ntamuntu numwe watekereje kuzana ikintu cyiza-cyiza." Mila akungahaye, afite umwuga w'indobanure, umugabo n'abakuze abana bigenga. Ariko muri ako kanya asa n'umukobwa muto urujijo. Inkomoko yo gutenguha, urujijo no gukandamizwa mu munwa wo hasi uryamye mu bwana bwibagiwe. Igihe papa we mwiza yapfuye giturumbuka, basigara bonyine bafite akababaro kabo n'uduhinda kabo kato kandi wuzuye ibyiringiro byacitse. Kuva icyo gihe, ibihimbano byagaragaye mubuzima bwabo. Ibijumba byinshi. Ntibyashobokaga kurira no kubabaza: umunwa wahagurukiye indi bombo. Uyu munsi, ntamuntu utangaje kurira no kwerekana akababaro kazuye - bigira ubwe, kuba umugore ukuze. Ibiryo bibitswe mumufuka bituma habaho guhangayikishwa numukobwa ukuje. Iyo, niba bibabaje. Kandi birababaje ubu aribyo byose igihe cyose, cyane cyane ko abana barahaguruka bava munzu. Kandi uko ibintu byerekana utabinya ibitekerezo byigihe kirekire byo gutinda gutakaza kavukire kandi bikundwa - Papa.
Abaguzi batitayeho baramenyereye gukoresha ibiryo nkurukundo, bitagishobora kumenya ibikenewe. Ntabwo twishimiye ubwana neza nkuko twabikeneye. Kandi kuba abantu bakuru, ntidushobora kumenya no kwishyura indishyi zurukundo. "Pizza ni mpandeshatu ryonyine nkeneye ubu," abaguzi batitayeho bazakubwira. Muburyo bwabo bafite ukuri. Ariko ibitekerezo nimyitwarire nkibi ntibikora neza mugihe kirekire.
Nshuti yanjye, inkingi, usekeje cyane. Ndamureba kandi ndamureba: umunwa we uhora wimuka kubyina bihekenya. Arya igihe cyose. Byose. Ndetse no kumenyana bwa mbere ni: "Muraho, nitwa Agniška. Byiza cyane. Hari icyo urya? " Kumwuga, ni umukinnyi wa psychotherapiste. Ivuga kubyerekeye ubwana bwe hamwe nubusabane na mama. Urugero, Mama aramubwira ati: "Fata byose, genda hari pata." Ari: "Ariko sinshaka kurya pasta, ubu ndashaka gushushanya!" Mama, ntanubwo yimuka afite ijisho: "Urashaka Pasta. Nzi neza! " Agneshka imyaka 40. Mama akomeje kuvugana muburyo busanzwe, nubwo wenyine no mu kindi gihugu. Ari wenyine, aba munzu ntoya yakuwe i Yerusalemu, agerageza kubona imitako yakozwe murugo. Ibiryo nikintu cyonyine mubuzima bwe kibaho. Kandi ntiwumve, inzozi zo guta ibiro.
Ibipimo byacu biterwa niki?
Imyitwarire y'ibiryo idahwitse ni ukugaragaza imyizerere yashinze imizi iti "Ntabwo turi beza bihagije kudukunda nkatwe."
Urundi rugero. Umugore 45. Nibyiza cyane kuburyo iyo bigaragara ko ari ibyiyumvo biteye ubwoba. Ndetse noroheje, ariko muri rusange no kuzamuka mu isura. Yaretse kurya kandi imyaka itari mike, kubera ko umugabo we yamusize. Ntiyigeze amenya guteka. Umugabo mubuzima bwe niyaguze, yiteguye kandi agaburirwa. Ihame, yahinduye ababyeyi be kwita ku mugabo we. Bamenyereye cyane ku buryo buturuka mu nkono yamenetse, yagumye nta soko y'urukundo mu kwigaragaza kwayo byose. Abana bakuze bakabaho bayo. Ari wenyine, ayobora amasomo yoga. Kuri we, jya kuri supermarket, fata igare, hitamo ibiryo, uyishyure, uzane murugo, uhagaze kuri Slab ni umurimo wumwuka utihanganirwa. Ndatanga uru rugero ntabwo ari uguseka. Arababara rwose. Kandi muburyo bwayo bukwiye, burashobora kumvikana. Niba ibiryo ari urukundo, nta rukundo mubuzima bwe. Kandi nubwo imyaka ingahe, niba koko tutize kwiyitaho.
Imibabaro ishingiye ku myizerere ishimishije itaduha yo kurenga ibitekerezo bisanzwe kuri bo. Ibyo ntibikekwa, tubaho ubuzima bwamahanga kubintu byabandi. Muri iyi leta, nubwo umuntu kandi tukadukunda mubyukuri, tubishaka tubisunika, kuko urwo rukundo rudateganijwe ruzabuza rwose kwihesha agaciro.
Ibipimo byumubiri wacu biterwa n'imyizerere iboneka kubyerekeye urukundo, ku gaciro kabo, ku mahirwe yacu. N'ubundi kandi, abifashisha ibiryo, nko gukiza imibabaro n'irungu, icyarimwe barota kugabanya ibiro, guhinduka no gusenya igice cy 'umubiri wabo kandi wizeye ko bashoboye guhindura ikintu mubuzima. Ariko kugerageza gutya. Ntibishoboka kureka imirire igenwa mumarangamutima utiriwe ukomeza kubabara, aho gutoroka bikorwa no kurya.
Igihe cyose tutakinguye, arirwo rwimyitwarire yibiryo bibi, nta mpinduka zikomeye mubuzima zirashobora kuba imvugo. Kwifuza guhindura umubiri wabo nibyiza byaba ukumenya icyabikoze! Menya umubiri wawe, wige guhamagarwa no kunguka ubumenyi bwo kumwumva. Hanyuma, amaherezo, fata ibyoyo. Umubiri wacu urihariye kuko ufite ibitekerezo byayo. Ihindura gutekereza no kwihesha agaciro hafi.
Iyi ngingo rwose izagutera gutenguha, kuko itazarangizwa ningingo gakondo 10 zifite ingwate (mugihe cyo kwicira urubanza kandi zishishikaye) amaherezo ukimenyereye kandi ushake amakimbirane ashimishije. Hamwe n'impuhwe zose zo gushaka kubaho neza n'amakimbirane, ku giti cyanjye, hamwe n'ibindi nk'ibi, hariho kwishyiriraho itandukaniro n'imbima. Nizera ko ubuzima ahubwo bushimishije adventure. Maya Plessetskaya yavuze uburyo bworoshye bwo kubungabunga ifishi - "Ntukarye." Ushaka guhagarika guswera? Kanguka ubuzima! Witondere. Subiza ubuzima bwawe. Gufatwa neza no kuniha. Simvuze ko ukeneye kureka izi ngamba. Gusa barazitiriye igihe kirekire kandi ntibaguha ikintu gishya kuri wewe! Igihe kirageze cyo gutangara wenyine. Gerageza muburyo butandukanye. Kuramo firigo amaherezo. Ongera ugaragaze ibitero kuri aderesi, ntabwo biri mumubiri wawe. Kugaragaza, aho kwihisha. Kandi ngaho, urareba, ibiryo bizaba ifunguro gusa, mubyukuri ni.
EV hazin ni umutego, umuvuzi wumuhanzi, inzobere muri psychologiya yintungamubiri. Kuyobora amahugurwa yo gukura kugiti cyawe mu kigo cya Mariya Hazin