Nigute ushobora kumenya niba ufite urukundo rwishingikirije
Ni ibihe byiyumvo bigaragara ku byatekereje ko umuntu ukunda ashobora kuzimira? Kandi hamwe nibitekerezo, ni iki cyangwa ari iki cyangwa akadutsinda? Niba usobanukiwe nibyo ubona muguhagararira abo mudahuje igitsina cyumunywanyi, ushaka kuzenguruka; umubyeyi, ushaka kurira muri estist; Umwana wubaha kugirango ugenzure, noneho urashobora kuvuga kubyerekeye urukundo rwawe.
Biyobora iki
Bigenda bite ku muntu, twizeye ko ubuzima butumvikana niba nta "kintu cy'urukundo" kiri hafi? Hariho kumva ko ufite ubusa bwimbere, kuba hasi, ibyiringiro, ubwoba ...
Olga Romaman
Nigute wabikuramo
Intambwe yambere: Menya ko ushingiye. Niba mubisobanuro byurukundo kwishingikiriza, wiga - bafashe intambwe yambere yo gukuraho uburwayi bwabo.
Intambwe ya kabiri: ubushobozi bwo kumva. Niba hari icyifuzo cyo kumva uburakari, akababaro, ubwoba, kwicira urubanza, ububabare - ntukabirwanya. Gukenera undi muntu arakomeye cyane. Twizera ko ubwacu ko bishobora kuba bibi iyo umukunzi ari umugome, utemereke ibyiyumvo ashobora guciraho iteka. Kuba yaratuye mubyakubayeho, urambika ubwanjye.
Intambwe ya gatatu: Kwiyitaho. Kuva mu bwana, duharanira kuzuza ibisabwa byashyizweho hagamijwe kubona urukundo rwababyeyi kandi ntakintu na kimwe kizima. Igihe kirenze, amabwiriza yo kubashyiraho hanze yihindukirira ijwi ryimbere. Icyifuzo cyo gukwiriye urukundo twagize mugihe "TAYnt" mumibanire numufatanyabikorwa. Igikorwa cyawe nukwibuka mumyaka yishuri. Guhobera umwana mu ishusho yawe, umwiteho, urukundo. Kora uyu mwitozo buri munsi - uzabona ko kwisi zishimishije cyane, usibye ikintu wahaye imitekerereze.
Intambwe ya kane: kwihesha agaciro no kubaha wenyine. Gukora ku ntambwe ibanza, uzagereranya rwose imbaraga zawe. Uzorohera kuvuga ku byiyumvo wagize, ukurikize imyizerere yacu, urengere uko ubibona. Umwanya w'ingenzi: Reba, wishimire ibyo wagezeho, kumwenyura ubikuye ku mutima no kubesha ku bantu.
Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze ya psychologue Mikhail Litwak yanditse kubyerekeye ubushakashatsi bweguriwe guhitamo umufatanyabikorwa nuwo mwashakanye. Mu bushakashatsi, abagore basabye guhitamo ibisobanuro by'urukundo bakunda byinshi. Amahitamo atatu yatanzwe agira ati: "Sinshobora kubaho ntari kumwe nawe," reka ntituzigera nkubabaza. " Dukurikije ibyavuye mu bagore 75%, amahitamo "sinshobora kubaho utari kumwe nawe."
Litvak yavuze ko ibisobanuro nkibi murukundo ari umwihariko wumwana wimboshye cyangwa umusinzi. Muri icyo gihe, kwemezwa n'ukuri, byuzuye, "Reka dukureho ubuzima bukaze hamwe" - ntamuntu numwe wabagize uruhare mu myigire ntabwo yakunze.
Kubwibyo, mbere yo gutangaza "imperuka yisi idafite uwo ukunda," Tekereza ko ucungwa - urukundo cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge.