Igihe niteguraga amahugurwa yanyuma yo kwiga mumahanga, kuko ibyo natangaje nabonye ibitabo byinshi, mu Burusiya nabanyamahanga, biyeguriye ikibazo cya ba se n'abana bava mucyari cyo kwiga mu wundi mujyi.
Ibikoresho bivuga Icyongereza byagabanije ibintu mu bice 2: Inama Njyanama z'abanyeshuri bashya "uburyo bwo kubaho mu kigo" n'isaba ababyeyi gutsinda syndrome "ubusa". Gutekereza ku ngingo "Ese abana bazaba biteguye kuva mu rugo rw'ababyeyi" ntibatekereje. Ariko ikibazo nkicyo cyahangayikishijwe numutungo uvuga. Ababyeyi mumwanya wa nyuma-muri Soviet ntabwo buri gihe biteguye kurekura umwana wabo. Mugihe cyakazi muri gahunda yabanyeshuri, twahuye nuburyo butandukanye bwubwoba bwababyeyi.
× 1. Umwana ntabwo yiteguye kubaho kwigenga - ntabwo nzabona ibiryo, ntazaza kwiga. Twari dufite inkuru yishimye mugihe gari ya moshi hamwe nusaba haje iminota 15 mbere ya gahunda, kandi umuyobozi winama ntiyabonye umunyeshuri uzaza kuri platifomu. Isaha yakurikiyeho yuzuyemo chime ifite ubwoba: Umukozi - Ibiro - nyina w'umuhungu - biro mu mujyi wabo. Umubare wa terefone wibyabaye ubwabyo wazimye. Nyuma yigihe gito, usaba wasangaga muri kaminuza, aho yageze mu ituje, abaza umuhanda mubenegihugu. Mama yari mu gihugu mbere yo kunywa, yari yizeye ko adashobora kwigenga mu bwigenge. Mubyukuri, abana bahanganye nubuzima, nubwo hariho imanza zidasanzwe.
× 2. Umwana ntazashobora kwiga mugihugu cyabandi (umujyi wundi, mu rurimi rw'undi). Mubyukuri, moteri ni ikintu gikomeye. Umuntu washishikarije ubuzima bwe bwose agira ingaruka kumutimanama cyangwa gutinya ababyeyi, ashobora kumva uburyo butunguranye bwo gusobanukirwa siyanse aho bishimishije rwose. Ntamuntu uhagaze hamwe nikiboko, ntamuntu utanga "muribi kugeza ubu," ntamuntu ushyira urugero rwa Masha kuva mu bwinjiriro bwa "A" uvuye mu muryango uturanye, kandi umunyeshuri yicaye mu isomero ry'iminsi n'amajoro . Ntugomba kwambura abana amahirwe yo kugerageza muri kaminuza nziza rwose.
× 3. Ababyeyi batinya kwitandukanya abana, kurengerera. Birakwiye kwibaza, ni iki mutinya gutakaza? Amarangamutima ntabwo arikintu gishobora kuzimira amezi atandatu. Mubisanzwe ababyeyi rwose batinya gutakaza ubushobozi. Twagize urugero igihe Data yasangaga umukobwa we umukobwa we, na we ubwe yafashe umuturanyi kubera kubaho, buri kwezi ubwe yari afite amafaranga nyirubwite, asiga umukobwa we kwishyura gusa kuri terefone na interineti. Amagambo yanjye muri uwo mwuka niho niba ashaka kwigisha umukobwa ubuzima bwigenga mu mahanga, agomba kumuha ibiganiro ku mishyikirano yahitanye na ba nyirubwite no gukodesha ubukode, nuko atuza. Ntabwo byumvikana, bisa nanjye, kwitotombera urubyaro rwabana no kwanga gukora ingufu kandi tugava mukarere keza. Nubwo, nta mpaka, ituje. Kandi kubyerekeye hafi - aho habaye umubano ususurutse kandi wa hafi, nta kaga kabaho kubatakaza, ahubwo, ariko, abana batangiye gushima ubuvuzi, urukundo no gutera inkunga ababyeyi birakomeye, kuba kure.
× 4. Nigute ntariyo (tutayifite)? Mubisanzwe iyi yo gutinya ikurikirana ba nyina. Hano ndasaba guhindukirira umurimo munini wuburengerazuba bwa psytchologiste yuburengerazuba. Syndrome yo "ubusa" yize hamwe no mu ngingo zose zishoboka. Umwanzuro hano nimwe - menya isomo hanyuma urekure umwana mubuzima bwe. Abagiraneza, siporo, kwishimisha, kwita kuri satelimite yubuzima - ntibishoboka gukora ikintu cyose mugihe kinini mugihe abana barazamutse, kandi ku busaza buracyari kure. Urashobora kwitondera wowe ubwawe ugakora ibyo wakoresheje mu buryo bukabije bwabuze igihe n'imbaraga, aho kugenzura bitagenzurwa (reba × × 3).
Ntukabuze abana amahirwe yo kugerageza muri kaminuza nziza rwose
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× 5. Abana bazagenda, bazinjira mundi muco n'imitekerereze, kandi tuzavugana nindimi zitandukanye. Byaba byiza hano ari inyangamugayo nawe. Turimo tuvugana nabo mu ndimi zitandukanye. Abana bacu bamenye iPhone kare kare kuruta inyuguti, bona isi yose nkigihugu kimenyekana, menya indimi 2-3 mumyaka 17. Turashaka ibi cyangwa bidashaka, baratandukanye kandi batekereza ukundi. Mu bihe biri imbere ntahantu h'u myuburo twigeze gushaka, hari ibyo bibujijwe hamwe nububasha byatubujije kubaho nkuko ubishaka. Ariko hazabaho izindi ngorane nibibazo. Turagerageza kubishiraho kumuhengeri, cyangwa kugerageza kumva ibibera kumuhengeri wabo.
× 6. Igabanijwe murugo umwana azagwa muburyo bubi. Nkaho dushaka kurinda umwana mubi, umwana wacu azahura nawe vuba cyangwa nyuma yuruhande rwubuzima twagerageje kubihisha. Kubaho kwe bizasinda cyangwa gufata ibiyobyabwenge. Azabona abahengutsi n'abanyeshuri birengagijwe. Birashoboka cyane, azagwa munzira yumukobwa wimyitwarire yumucyo kandi yanduye ku ntoki. Ariko ibyo twamwigishije byose imyaka 17, ko yinjiye mumuryango bizamufasha guhitamo. Ikintu nyamukuru nuburyo dushobora gufasha umwana wawe hano ni ukumwizera.
× 7. Mu bundi buzima bwa kure bwabana, ntituzagira ahantu. "Ngaho, mu nkombe ya kure" ntituzakwiye cyane ku bumenyi bwacu bw'ubuzima n'inama. Ubunararibonye nububasha mubihe bikomeye. Ni iki dushobora kumenya ku buzima mu mujyi wa Kaminuza muri Californiya cyangwa mu kigo cy'ubushakashatsi kuri icyo kirwa muri Noruveje? Ntabwo ntanganira ububiko, nta musaruro umusatsi, ntituzigisha imikoranire n'umugabo wawe, niba ari abayapani, cyangwa n'ababyeyi b'umugore we, niba bakomoka mu Buhinde. Hariho isano iri hagati ... ariko dukeneye abana ntabwo ari inama nibyifuzo. Ntibazabyumva. Turabakeneye, nko muminsi yambere, kubwinkunga idasubirwaho. Kugira ngo ube hafi. Ntugire icyo utangaho ibitekerezo, ntusuzume ibyo wabigenewe, ntusuzume ibikorwa byabo. Gusa ube hafi.
Nagize uburambe buhebuje igihe nageraga ku mwana w'umuhungu wanjye, tumaze kubona urufunguzo rwa posita munsi y'igitambaro, nyamuneka ntutanga ibisobanuro kuri Bardak. " Urufunguzo rwari mu mwanya, kandi ijambo "Bardak" hafi ibibaye mu nzu. Birahagije kuvuga ko nasanze ibimenyetso byimbyo byateguwe na njye muhagera mbere. Kandi biratangaje kubona ko bigoye kuguma mubihe bikomeye. Nkuko nashakaga kuvuga ku ngingo, isuku, gukomeza kugira isuku. Ariko kubera ko ntamuntu wansabye kwerekana ibitekerezo kuri ibi, kandi muburyo bunyuranye - bagaragaje ko byaba byiza ubigumanye nawe. Umuntu ukuze ubwe yahisemo kubeho, icyo wamara umwanya kandi wabonye amafaranga. Natekereje kandi mpitamo gusukura gusa. Bucece. Sinashoboraga kubikora, nta muntu wabajije kandi sintegereje, umuhungu azishima nkaho ntanze ubwonko bwanjye. Ariko nicuza umwana, hamwe nakazi ke, kwiga no guhugura no gufata icyemezo cyo kumushimisha. Byari urugendo runini mumibanire yacu. Nabonye ko byari bimeze, kimwe nibindi byinshi, ntabwo ari ubucuruzi bwanjye. Niba ntararize, niba nta mbaraga n'ibikorwa muri iki cyerekezo, niba inama zanjye zitambajije kandi ntibireba kugiti cyanjye, ntabwo ari ubucuruzi bwanjye.
Ndabona ababyeyi batandukanye. Bamwe baragerageza kubaho ubuzima kubana babo: bahitemo umwihariko wo kwiga, umujyi, inzu ndetse ninshuti. Bamwe barekurwa mu koga kubuntu kandi rimwe na rimwe bakagira igitekerezo gifite intege nke kubyo icyorezo kibaho. Abandi babyeyi ntibazi ko umwana wabo atigeze yiga ku nyungu, ku nyungu, hari kaminuza zemerera kwanduza gufata cyangwa gutabarwa. Kandi zimwe mu kuri nukuri zigerageza kubona uburenganzira bwururimi rusanzwe kugirango urebe ishusho yose. Twese dukunda abana babo, uko dushoboye, kandi tubifurije ibyiza. Birakenewe gusa kwibuka ko ubwoba bwacu bwose, guhakana bose no kudashaka no kudashaka kurenga ibitekerezo bisanzwe bibagiraho ingaruka, abana bacu bakunda. Ibisubizo byacu muri iki gihe bigira ingaruka mubuzima bwabo nyuma yimyaka myinshi, imyaka myinshi, mugihe tutazaba. Bazabana n'umutwe, aho gukomeza imbere. Turabishaka kuri bo?
Ekaterina Mikhalevich, rwiyemezamirimo, umuyobozi w'inyigisho mpuzamahanga z'abanyeshuri