Bitandukanye nikibazo umugeni mbere yubukwe arinda umunezero, igihe umukunzi we azaba umugabo wemewe, gushyingirwa nikibazo runaka, guhindura inshingano, guhindura inshingano. Umuntu wese arimo kwitegura ubukwe, kandi umugeni ahatirwa kwibagirwa impuruza zabo, guceceka bucece. Kandi ibi ntibisobanura ko atishimye. Gusa ntabwo ari ahantu henshi mubukwe bwubukwe kugirango tuvuge kubyerekeye gushidikanya, ubwoba no guhangayika.
Kubwibyo, ibyo byose byaguye kumukobwa mu nzozi, hari ukuntu bahangana nubunararibonye, hari ukuntu babibona.
Noneho, inzozi z'umwe mubasomyi bacu, zizashyingiranwa vuba:
"Mpagamye mu nzu ishaje cyane, nanjye hamwe n'abantu. Umwe muri bo yavuze ko umukwe wanjye yakundaga, ariko ubu ntakiriho, bavuga ko yavuganye n'umugabo rwihishwa, kandi uyu mugabo yari afite urujijo, nari mu rujijo, nyuma yaho Nakurikiye ibisigazwa by'ikamyo. Kubwa mbere nashakaga kwica icyuma, ntera icyuma, ariko ntiyaransutseho, ndahunga. Ibikurikira, igice kijyanye nabashakanye bageze mu zabukuru. Umugore yagarutse avuye muri gereza cyangwa aho atuye, ahura n'umugabo we, kandi bari beza hamwe, bishimye, kandi hano uyu mugore yicwa nijoro. Gloombes ... Inzozi zose ni imvi yijimye, twilight. Hanyuma, umusaza na we yica umuhanda ku muhanda, umugore we arakomeza. "
Tekereza rero mesanezz. Intwari yacu iherereye mu nzu ya nyirakuru. Ibikurikira bikurikira urukurikirane rw'urupfu rw'umwe mu bashakanye bageze mu zabukuru. Duhereye kuri iyi minisitiri, ndashobora gutekereza ko nubwo wacumbike. Nkaho mu nzozi, asimbuka imyaka ibarirwa muri za mirongo ko aje kubaho, agahinduka "nyirakuru", umwe mu nzu ye arakomeza, avumbura ko mugenzi we akunda umuntu keretse we.
Niba usubiramo muri make inzozi - ivuga ko umwe mubashakanye atazaba vuba cyangwa nyuma y'urukundo, nubwo bizarangira gute. Kandi umubano urarengana.
Iyo urubyiruko ruhuye gusa, ntibishora muri ibi bitekerezo. Ariko gushyingirwa ni ikindi. Nubwo utabitekerezaho, tuzi ahantu hose mubugingo ko kuruhande rwuyu muntu akeneye guhura nubusaza, hanyuma urupfu.
Insanganyamatsiko yo gupfa no gusezera ni imwe mu baremereye cyane. Umwanditsi uzwi cyane na psychotherapiste Irwin Yal avuga ko ubwoba bukomeye mubugingo bwacu ari ubwoba bwurupfu. Birahari cyane mubuto, kandi ufite imyaka biragaragara. Ntishobora gutsindwa no kwirengagiza. Hamwe naho hari abantu bose badafite ibintu bidasanzwe. Ugomba kwiga uburyo bwo kubana na we, kumenya ko bitazigera biba abacu ndetse nabakunzi benshi, abo twimenyekanisha kandi ubuzima bwacu.
Intwari yacu ihura numushinga nkumuryango we nkumuryango. Kandi ibi ni ubuzima, harimo iherezo rye.
Birashoboka ko ubifashijwemo ninzozi nkizo, zihanganye na myoza nimpungenge byanze bikunze mubusabane bwigihe kirekire.
Urashobora gusaba intwari mubwenge kandi ureba witonze ku nzozi zawe ubu - bamufasha guhangayikishwa n'ibihuriye n'igicucu, ingingo zidafitanye isano n'ubukwe bwe, harimo n'uko umugabo we uzaza yakundaga umuntu uretse we. Kandi ntibigikosowe.
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Maria Zebekova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yiterambere ryumuntu wubucuruzi Marka Hazin.