Ukurikije imibare, gutandukana nimwe mubintu biteye ubwoba byubuzima. Abantu banyuze mu maso yo gutandukana buhoro buhoro nubwoko ubu buryo bwo gushushanya, gusenyuka kw'ibitekerezo, gushikama no kubona ibintu bifatika kandi - ninde ufite - gutandukanya imirimo y'ababyeyi. Byongeye kandi, abagabo batandukanijwe banyuze mu gucirwaho iteka kwa bagenzi be. Icyiciro kitoroshye cyo gutandukana no kurekurwa bigomba kurangizwa rwose mumyaka 3.
Ibaruwa ikurikira yohereje umugore unyura mu gutandukana nyuma yubukwe burebure. Ni ngombwa kuvuga ko gutandukana bibabaza, bitera ubwoba adresse ye n'ibirego byerekana ko ibyago byose mu buzima bw'umuryango birimo. Iyi couple ifite umwana ukuze wabayeho ukundi imyaka myinshi.
Noneho: "Incuti yanjye yampaye ibahasha, tutibagiwe uwo ari we. Nabonye ko ukomoka ku wahoze ari umugabo, nko mu ibahasha hariya hari amafoto yanjye. Ifoto yafotoye yari nini, ariko amafoto yanjye ni 5 gusa, kandi amashusho asigaye ni ugutandukana nabi. Mbyuka ubwoba. "
Birumvikana ko gusinzira bishushanya paranoia no gutinya umugabo wa daisy kandi uburakari bwe bwerekanye kuri we n'umwana wabo. Iyo imyaka myinshi yabagore babayeho babangamiwe nubuzima cyangwa ubunyangamugayo, noneho ubwoba nk'ubwo bufite ishingiro rwose. Gusinzira bifasha snovidice kurekura imihangayiko no guhangayikishwa nabayeho mumyaka myinshi. Kandi muriki kibazo, ibitotsi birasobanutse kugirango bisobanure.
Ariko nanone, sinayoboye kubwimpanuka kurugero rwibi nzozi, nkuko ushobora gutekereza ku ngingo yo gutandukana no gutandukana. CO Creak, ariko guhindura umuco umuco ugereranije ninsanganyamatsiko yo gutandukana. Imyaka 100-50 irashize byari isoni nini kuruta ubu. Iyo abashakanye baza ku mwanzuro, icyo gukora ntaho bahuriye, noneho gutandukana ni amahirwe yo kwikuramo amasezerano aremereye.
Ariko, hariho impengamiro yo guhanura umufatanyabikorwa wawe wahoze: "Ari atyo, arankubita, ntabwo yatanze amafaranga, ntabwo yakoze." Kumva abahoze ari abafatanyabikorwa, urashobora gufata umutwe no kwihutira guhumuriza umuntu ubivuze. Ariko, ntundeke ngo ndeke. Hamwe naya mahano yose, abashakanye babanaga igihe runaka, rimwe na rimwe ni imyaka myinshi. Kandi hari ukuntu intama yera cyane, iruhande rw'uwo mugabo w'umugabo mubi, yashoboye kuyigabanya ndetse no kwihorera. Umubano wumuryango vuga ko imbyino yuzuye hagati yabafatanyabikorwa. Umugabo arakubita, ariko ku ruhande rw'umugore, inkunga yuzuye n'urukundo by'abana, uwo bashakanye ahahanwa no kwiyegurira no kwanga ababo. Cyangwa umugore arahinduka, ariko yishyurwa kugirango yicisha icyaha afite ubuvuzi bwihariye kandi apfa kumugabo we.
Kubwibyo, ndasaba kutareba amahano yerekeye umugabo wa Tweran, ariko uko umuryango we wagize, ndetse nuwa mbere mu mugore we, ndetse na bo ubwabo batera kwigaragaza cyane kandi babigaragaza cyane kandi babi .
Ntukishyire mu makosa: Abagore basinze cyangwa abanywa ibiyobyabwenge bakeneye umugabo nkuyu, kandi abagabo bakeneye umugore utari wo cyangwa umugore amwishingikirizaho.
Byongeye kandi, niba ukunda gutera no kunegura mugenzi wawe, baza ibibazo: Kuki ubikeneye muri ubu bushobozi; Nigute ushobora gukora ihohoterwa cyangwa iterabwoba mumibanire yawe?
Kandi kubwinzozi zacu, ibi nibibazo byingirakamaro. Ibi bizabigira inzira yo gutandukana cyane nubusabane nuwahoze ari umunyamateka kandi usukura.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin