Ibiruhuko bimaze kuzuru. Benshi muritwe arishima: Umwaka mushya - Ongeraho metero zose, zeru, icyumweru cyibiruhuko, amaherezo, amaherezo. Kandi amahirwe yo kwishima no kwinezeza, ni ngombwa cyane mugihe kitoroshye. Nibyo, ndetse numwaka mushya wurushya kandi nta Noheri nkeya ushobora gushyikirizwa ibintu bitunguranye: ukurikije imibare itunguranye: hashize imibare, nyuma yiminsi ikiruhuko, umubare wubujurire bwabarwayi bakuramo. Impamvu niyihe? Twumva uburyo bwo kurokoka marathon y'ibirori kandi tugakomeza ubuzima bwumubiri nubwenge.
Mu muryango wacu, busle yahoraga yatangiraga mumezi abiri nigice mbere yijoro ryakunzwe ahagarara gusa mu mpeshyi gusa. Kandi kugeza ubu: Hagati mu hagati y'Ukwakira, bene nyinshi bizihiza isabukuru y'amavuko ya nyina, ubwo nanjye, Evatolika Gatolika ije, iyo niyo mpamvu nyiricyubahiro aribahwa cyane. Noneho umwaka mushya ubwayo, hanyuma Noheri, umwaka mushya. Mu mpera za Mutarama, sogokuru, musaza, mu ntangiriro za Gashyantare - Papa na nyirakuru bizihiza umunsi w'ubukwe, hanyuma ba nyina na Garafu, 8 Werurwe ... muri make, nzi kuva mu bwana "Irushanwa ry'ibirori" ni iki. Mu kigo cy'interankunga, ntabwo naretse gushushanya, gushushanya no gushushanya ubukorikori, mu rugo - kwigisha ibisigo n'indirimbo kugira ngo binjire ku ntebe y'umunsi wagenwe, kugira ngo bakire nyirabayazana cyangwa igisimba. Byasaga naho kuri njye tuba mu ruhererekane rutagira iherezo rwibyabaye.
Niba ibibazo biri imbere bitera umunezero ushimishije, ariko impuruza bivuze ko igihe kirageze cyo guhagarara no kumva ubwawe
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Urashobora kubaza ibibi hano? Kuba ibaho muburyo buhoraho bwibiruhuko byangiriyeho, nanjye ubwanjye nize hafi yimyaka mirongo itatu. Mbere y'ibyo, hari ukuntu narunze amaso hafi yo kugwa, noneho impinga yo guhangayika yabaye mu mwaka mushya, igihe cy'itumba byose nari mfise imihangayiko, nsubira mu majwi asanzwe ndetse no gukora neza hafi shampiyona. Noneho byasaga nkaho divayi yose yubukonje, iminsi mike, ijoro rirerire ... kandi rimwe nafataga n "" amanota "yo kwizihiza umuryango. Nashimye mama, ariko nirengagije isabukuru yanjye, nahuye n'umwaka mushya muri Pajamas, nta na rimwe mu biruhuko ntabwo yasohotse hamwe n'inshuti. Mw'ijambo, hunze byirengagije ibintu bisanzwe na - kubyerekeye igitangaza! Ati: "Hagati muri Gashyantare, igihe abantu bose bababazwa na Avaminese n'imbeho, bumva ko badasanzwe ari bodike kandi bafite ubuzima bwiza (kandi gato nyirabayazana ku buryo atagaragaye ku kiruhuko cy'ibiruhuko, ariko noneho).
Nyuma nahuye nigitekerezo cyo kugeragezwa cyane (cyahinduwe kuva icyongereza "cyane Tusovok"). Biragaragara ko bishimishije byihuse, kandi birashimishije, kandi ibiruhuko bitagira iherezo birashobora kuba "byinshi." Iyi "cyane" igira ingaruka kumiterere yacu yimitsi, ntabwo itanga rwose kwishimira ibyabaye kera. Biragaragara, kubusa, turacuza ko isabukuru y'amavuko (nk'andi matariki y'ingenzi) "rimwe gusa n'umwaka"?
Ariko, "iminsi itukura" ihinduka isoko ya neurose ntabwo kubajyanye gusa. Wigeze wibaza ko abantu bonyine bababajwe no kwizihiza ibintu bikomeye byonyine hamwe nabo, mugihe umuryango-wiruka iruhande rwabakunzi babo. Ariko, ku matariki yari afite mu muryango, amatariki y'ingenzi agomba kubera kwinezeza mugihe bishimiye ibitugu, inshingano zo gutegura imbonerahamwe, imyidagaduro y'abashyitsi, isuku ... mu ijambo ryayo ishobora gutwikira umunezero no gutegereza igitangaza. Uburyo bwo gukora kugirango utatakaza kandi uzigame ubushobozi bwo gutungurwa
Kandi wishimishe?
Isi ntizasenyuka niba uhagaritse isiganwa rishimishije, ibyo byose bigomba kugeragezwa kumwaka mushya udasanzwe
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Igihe kigeze cyo guhagarara ryari?
- Niba, aho gutegereza kwishimye, wumva ko igicu kiba inkuba kizaza kuri wewe, nibibazo biri imbere bitera kurambura neza, ariko impuruza bivuze ko ibiruhuko biri imbere bizaba ari ikiruhuko kuri wewe. Ahari uyu mwaka ushimangira gusimbuka kwishimisha gakondo no kwitwita?
- Niba ushobora gutekereza gusa uko Eva y'umwaka mushya ikorwa, kumara iminsi n'ibyumweru, bahitamo imyambaro n'ibikoresho byo gufata no gufatanya no gutanyagura bene wanyu kandi Inshuti, "Ntikazikurikiza gahunda" Ibyiyumvo byo kuzamuka gukabije, bidasubirwaho gutegereza isaha, iyo bishoboka, amaherezo, shimishwa, byerekana ko ubabayeho ubuzima butegereje kandi utazi kwishima muriki gihe none.
- Niba udashaka gusa ibirori, niba nta mwuka, imbaraga n'icyifuzo, ntakintu kibi! Isi ntizasenyuka niba uhagaritse isiganwa ryinshi ryinshi, zitari zidasanzwe, zigomba kwibonera umwaka mushya. Nyizera, ntihazabaho igihe cyiza kuruta igihe cyibiruhuko cyo kwiha impano yingenzi - ubushobozi bwo kureka buri wese "bikenewe" no gukora ibyo ushaka.
Bitatu by'ingenzi "ntabwo"
1. Ntutegereze. Ahubwo, tegereza ufite ibitekerezo - Impanuro iha abantu bose ba psychologue kubantu bashaka kwihutisha kuza mu biruhuko. Ntukande ibyiringiro binini cyane kubanyeshuri bashya, bitabaye ibyo uhura nabyo gutenguha. Wibagirwe imvugo "uburyo bwo guhura, uzakoresha."
2. Ntutegure. Buhoro buhoro, urekura buri bucuruzi na gahunda ya Samonek - Ntabwo bifite ubuhanga, nubuhanzi! Mu gihe cyo kugenzura buruse, mugihe duhora "dukomeza ikaramu" buri kintu gito, rimwe na rimwe birakwiye kureka uko ibintu bimeze kandi "amanota" kugirango yitegure kwizihiza.
3. Ntukibone. Gira impano kubakunzi bawe na kavukire - ntugerageze kubiyobora mubyifuzo no kwifuza kugirango wishimishe uko bashaka. Ba umushyitsi ushimira: Niba watumiwe mu birori byumvikana, ntugomba kwinubira ko ufite umutwe kuva induru no gutaka.
Byemewe rero
Buri wese muri twe ashobora gufatwa mu bunyage "ibirori", igihe runaka kubwimpamvu runaka, nostalgia, umubabaro, kwifuza no kwifuza no kwiheba byafashwe aho kwishima no kwinezeza. Kandi nubwo ibyabaye ubwabyo byanyuze kurwego bukwiye, nyuma yacyo ushobora kumva ucitse intege, umubabaro, kwiheba.
Reka dutangire neza ko akenshi byoroshye guhagarara mugihe "ibihe byo hejuru" cyangwa kwirengagiza iminsi mikuru mugihugu cyacu akenshi bitera isoni. Simbuka "isaha yishimishije" ushobora gusa kubwimpamvu ifatika gusa, bitabaye ibyo ntuzasobanuka.
Ariko urabyemera, iyi ninshingano nini - kwitegura kugirango umunsi wagenwe utakuzamura, ntukarakare, nturambiwe. Twebwe twarashize tumara kuva ku ya 31 Ukuboza kugeza ku ya 1 Ukuboza, kugira ngo umwaka wose ukurikire wagenze neza, twumva igitutu kinini mu bitangazamakuru ndetse n'abacu n'incuti zacu.
Umukunzi wanjye Rita Buri mwaka yariteguye cyane kwizihiza imbeho. Yatangiye guhitamo impano ukwezi mbere yumwaka mushya, witonze kandi muburyo bwo kwiga interineti, burimunsi nyuma yakazi, kujya mu bigo byubutunzi, kujya mu bigosha hamwe no gushaka impano nziza. Umuryango wose wahatiwe gukora ubukorikori n'amakamyo, byahise bishushanya inzu. Icyumweru kibanziriza "isaha ya X" yakoze isuku rusange, yambaye igiti cya Noheri, cyari gishushanyijeho uburenganzira (inyandiko ye, mubisanzwe) ibikinisho. Umunsi ubanziriza ibiruhuko utangira gutegura ameza yari agizwe nisahani icumi, nta gake. Amahitamo abiri yo gukonjesha, amahitamo atatu kuri Olivier (harimo numwimerere, hamwe na caker ya kanseri), abapfumu bakorewe, bishyushye ... yiruka muri douche, yerekeza mu mutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye umutwe, yambaye a imyambarire (byanze bikunze mu mabara yo kuza k'umwaka). Nyuma y'abashyitsi banyuzwe hamwe n'abagize umuryango muto unaniwe bari buzuye ibirungoro bikomeza kurya, umukobwa mukundana yicara ku ntebe asinzira muri yo kugeza mu gitondo. Mu museke w'umwaka mushya w'umwaka mushya, RITA yari asanzwe ahagaze kurohama n'isabune y'imisozi y'ibiryo. Namusuye inshuro ebyiri cyangwa eshatu kandi igihe cyose narebye ifoto imwe. Ku kibazo: "Kubera iki?" "Yatsindiye amaboko atunguranye ati:" Nibyo, kuko byemewe ... ibiruhuko. "
Inkuru imwe yagenze mu muryango wacu. Ubwa mbere, nyirakuru, nyina yari iyo lokomotiki yadusunikiye mu mwaka mushya ku bitugu, ntabwo yemerera saa sita z'ijoro. Kandi iyo mirimo yanjye yaguye ku bitugu, ndagira "guhura na". Kandi tekereza. Noneho ndashaka kwishimira? Nkeneye ibi birashimishije: umubare munini wo guteka, gutwara abantu benshi batumva amabwiriza yanjye, bafata inyama zitanura, champagne, zidakonje cyane ... Ntabwo rwose tekereza rwose.
Kandi mubyukuri: iyo dukuriye, ubumaji burahungabana. Biragaragara ko gahunda itunganye, igiti kiryoshye, igiti cya Noheri kirakabije n'impano zimaze igihe kinini munsi ntabwo ari ibintu biranga kwizihiza, ahubwo ni imirimo isaba ibisubizo. Kandi aho kugirango abana bategereje igitangaza, tubona umutwaro winshingano, ibiruhuko bihinduka umwanda.
Kugira ngo wirinde ibi, ni ngombwa kuri wewe kukwumva ko kuri wewe ibiruhuko nyabyo. Shyira akamenyetso ku migenzo n'ingeso wimuriwe kuri benewabo bakuze. Ni ngombwa kandi bafite agaciro, ariko ntibagomba gusimbuza moteri yawe. Gerageza kumva uburyo wifuza kumara uyu munsi. Impano kuri wewe? Ni iki cyizere, utuje, kunyurwa? Witegure kuba ibyabaye byambere uzashaka gusa ... wirengagize. Ibi nibisanzwe: Ugomba gufata agace kugirango umenye ibyifuzo.
Ibyiyumvo byo kuzamuka gukabije, bidasubirwaho gutegereza isaha ya x, mugihe amaherezo bikishima, byerekana ko urwaye ibimenyetso byubuzima butegereje
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Nabajije "kuva mubinyuranye na": Nakoze urutonde rwibyo ntangira ngobone mbere yumwaka mushya no mubiruhuko. Yaje gushimisha cyane. Yagumye keretse kuzamuka mu buriri, gufata olivier yaguze hamwe na we (guteka kwari mu "urutonde rwanjye"), reba urukurikirane no gusinzira. Nabikoze. Gushakisha pajama nziza kandi heza, kurambika imyenda mishya, naryamye mu buriri mfite ikiganiro gikunzwe na tv kandi nticyabyutse nimugoroba. Ahari nshobora guhamagara iyo minsi mikuru imwe mubyiza mubuzima. Ariko, umwaka utaha nashakaga kujya gusura - kandi nakurikije ibyifuzo byanjye. Hanyuma naje aho ndi ubushishozi: umunsi mukuru nigihe ushobora gukora ibyo nshaka.
Kuva ku munsi ku munsi
... ariko umudari, nkuko mubizi, impande zombi. Nigute ushobora kuba niba uhora wizihiza ibintu byose bikomeye nkuko ubishaka, ariko igihe cyose uvuye muri iki gihe kuruta? Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze, nkuko bisanzwe, tanga ibitekerezo binesha. Biragaragara ko mucyo bifuza kuramutsa, intambara ya chimes, iminsi y'amavuko n'ibindi bintu by'ingenzi (iyo birengana, nkuko ubishaka) - Iyi ni Leta isanzwe yacu. Tuba mw'isi yo kugereranya, duhora tugereranya iminsi y'icyumweru muri wikendi, iminsi mikuru hamwe na marato y'abakozi, iminsi nijoro, amaherezo. Niba wibutse ibirori n'inzozi kubyerekeye gukomeza ibirori, ariko icyarimwe ukomeje kubaho mubyukuri, gufata no kwishimira kandi birumvikana kandi nibisanzwe. Ariko niba ibyumweru by'amezi birangiye nko mu gihu, mugihe utegereje "umunsi wa Ik", iyi nimpamvu yo gutekereza.
Imitekerereze ya psychotherapiste kenshi: benshi mubakiriya babo ntabwo babaho ubuzima bwuzuye hagati yibyabaye, ariko babaho kuva kuwa gatanu kugeza kuwa gatanu, iyo bongeye gushobora gutegura umugoroba ushimishije hamwe ninshuti cyangwa kujya mubirori bya umwaka. Umwaka mushya watangiye, batangira gutegereza Noheri, hanyuma uceceke mu gutegereza ku ya 23 Gashyantare ... Ijambo ryibanze hano "rikonje". Ikibazo cyabantu bakunda iminsi mikuru nuko badashobora kubona ibihe bishimishije mubuzima bwa buri munsi. Ariko nyuma ya byose, ibyo bintu byose mubuzima bwacu ni byinshi cyane! Kandi ni iki gisohoka? Ibyo dusiba iminsi myinshi isanzwe nkaho guhagarika ubushobozi bwo kwinezeza kugeza kwizihiza ubutaha.
Ntakintu gitangaje kuba abababaye bavugwa nanjye kuri syndrome yishyaka ryinshi birababaje cyane nukuri. Bameze nkaho muri Hangover ndende cumi nagatanu, kurasa bishobora gukora igipimo gikurikira cyibiruhuko.
Tera ibitekerezo byawe byose uko byose ukomoka mumwaka mushya hamwe nibiruhuko byakurikiyeho. Areba inyuma kandi uhishure ibibera hano hamwe ubu!
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Niba wabonye leta nkiyi, ni ngombwa gusubira kuri iki gihe kandi wige kugumana nawe hamwe nabandi hano nubu. Ubwa mbere birashobora kuba bigoye cyane, ndetse birababaje. Urashobora kuba kurambirwa no kutitabira inda, kutitaho akazi ninshuti. Ndibuka ukuntu inshuti yanjye ya Vlad yagiranye, yamenye ko ubuzima bwe bwose bwakomeye "ibirori," nk'uko yabigaragaje, ndetse n'iminsi y'ibyondo, igicucu. Iyo katontine ibaye, amahirwe yo kujya mu isi ntiyagumye, kandi yagombaga guhura n'ubuzima nyabwo. Yiyemereye ati: "Nkunda kujya mu rwobo hari ukuntu." Twahuye nyuma yuko icyorezo cya mbere cya Pandemic kigiye kugabanuka. Vlad yarishimye kandi yishimye, yumvikanye nkaho amaze kugaruka avuye mu bashyitsi cyangwa yizihiza isabukuru ye. Ati: "Nayobye cyane mu miterere yo gukora ibirori natangiye gutegura iminsi mikuru. Burimunsi ".
Mugenzi wanjye, adasobanukiwe, yifashishije ikaze, ikuramo ibyo imbere muri "urwobo" tubikesha kwishimisha. Ari byoroshye kandi geniant. Intangiriro kuri we nuko, udategereje impamvu zemewe, byateganijwe muri wikendi cyangwa amatariki yingenzi, nyamuneka nkuwo munsi wuwo munsi. Byahumetswe ninkuru imenyerewe, nahisemo kugerageza. Ukwezi, "gusa" byategetse ifunguro ryiza muri resitora, ryaguze ibintu bito bishimishije, biyemerera gushakishwa kwiyuhagira ... kandi uzi iki? Umwaka mushya mu mwaka mushya (umwe ku "Sinzabona umwanya, sinzashobora gutegura ameza, sinzashobora gutegura ameza, sinzashobora gutegura ameza, ntabwo nzashobora gutegura ameza, sinzongera gutegura.
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze yabo Menya ko ubushobozi bwo gukora ibiruhuko kugira ngo abasiga baruhutse, bashya, yuzuye umunezero n'ingabo kubaho, ni kimwe mu bimenyetso byo gukura. Tera ibitekerezo byawe byose uko byose ukomoka mumwaka mushya hamwe nibiruhuko byakurikiyeho. Areba inyuma kandi uhishure ibibera hano hamwe ubu! Ishimire urusaku no guteka hirya no hino, utibagiwe kumva no kumva ubwawe. Kandi, byumvikane, hamwe nukuzaza!