Muri sosiyete yacu, impuhwe nk'izo, impuhwe, ubuhanga, mu bumenyi, kugira ngo uhangane n'abandi, kwihanganira no gutera imbere, na we ufata icyemezo cyo gutekereza ku mpamvu zidakwiriye igitekerezo cya "cyiza". Umubyibuho ukabije, ubwinshi cyangwa kubura abana kandi, byanze bikunze, kuboneka kwa mugenzi wawe arimpamvu zose zo kudutererana. Cyane kubona abantu bafite irungu. Hagati aho, nta pathologiya yo kuba wenyine. Turimo kugerageza kumenya aho imizi yubusa, uburyo bwo kubyemera, gukunda no gutsinda niba ubishaka.
Reka dutangire neza ko buri wese muri twe afite igitekerezo cye cyumuntu uwo ari wenyine. Akenshi, tuyivugaho, turashaka kuvuga umugore cyangwa umugabo udafite "igice cya kabiri." Hagati aho, irungu nk'iryo riratandukanye cyane na Leta, iyo nta muntu ukikije. Abantu - Ibiremwa byimibereho kandi nta bugingo bumwe bukurikira buje, genda umusazi kandi wangiritse, hamwe nibidasanzwe (Ibuka Robinson Cruise ukomoka ku gicuruzwa cyizina rimwe). Kubwamahirwe, ibihe mugihe insumying zibaho, isi ya none ntabwo itanga: Mugihe gitunguranye, burigihe tubona interineti, imiyoboro rusange, Intumwa - Intumwa - Shakisha Guhuza undi umuntu urashobora. Biratandukanye rwose - bimaze kuvuga irungu muri rubanda, mugihe hari abo tuziranye benshi, abavandimwe ninshuti zose nifuza gusangira ubu nigihe kizaza, oya. Imvugo uyumunsi izamugendera kuri we.
Ukuri
Mw'isi, hariho abantu benshi kandi benshi ntaho bafite mu mibanire batibabaye mumwanya wabo. Ndashimira wowe ubwawe niba uri umwe mubagize amahirwe ashobora kubaho wenyine.
Kurwana
Mbere ya byose, hamwe nibibazo no kwinuba. Biragoye cyane kwakira irungu ryawe mugihe societe induru: ihuzwa, byarana abana! Wubahe kandi utemeranya kuri kimwe cya kabiri kugirango ugereranye, ibuka: igihe kirekire wiga ibyo ukunda, umukunzi wawe azaba meza.
Ibikorwa
Gushonga, nta kintu na kimwe kibona kandi nta muntu, nigitekerezo cyo gushidikanya kandi kibereye gusa urukundo rutangaje. Kugirango utatinya haba muri couple, cyangwa irungu, shakisha umusingi wawe - amasomo akugira umuntu wishimye.
KUKI muri rusange ubututsi bukatutera ubwoba kandi biduhangayikishije? Byose bijyanye n'amateka
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Mu murima ntabwo ari umurwanyi
KUKI muri rusange ubututsi bukatutera ubwoba kandi biduhangayikishije? Byose bijyanye n'amateka. Ku bakurambere bacu ba kure-ba kure, abaturage kandi kuba ba mugenzi wabo bari urufunguzo rwo kubaho. Umuhigi umwe ntashobora kuzuza mamoth, komeza umuriro mu buvumo kandi witegure mu ifunguro ryamabuye. Umukiriya umwe wibanze ntashobora kubyara no kurengera abana kandi icyarimwe usanga ibiryo. None Noneho byaragaragaye ko umuryango, reka atari kimwe, ibyo tumenyereye, birakenewe. Abantu bunze ubumwe bwo guhamagarira umutima cyangwa ubugingo, ariko kubwibyo bakeneye cyane kandi bifuza kubungabunga ubuzima bwabo. Irungu noneho, mu buseke bw'umuco, byari kimwe n'urupfu.
Igihe kirenze, ibintu byarahindutse, ariko ntabwo ari ku bagore, ishyano. Umugabo uri muri societe y'abakurambere, yahawe uburenganzira n'uburenganzira, yashoboraga kwishyura byoroshye imiterere y'umwanya wa Baralor, kuko sosiyete "itwikiriye". Kuva kuri iyo, cyangwa muri couple, hafi ntacyo byaterwaga. Ubukwe bwari bwiyongereye bwiyongereye cyane kubabyeyi. Ibidasanzwe byagaragaye gusa iri tegeko. Ariko nubwo umusore yemeza ko umuryango utari kumwe, yakomeje guhana uburenganzira ku nyungu z'umuryango we. Rero, iherezo ryabakobwa ryarebye, cyane cyane ridafite inka. Ibishobora kubaho kuri bamwe mubagore basobanuwe neza mubitabo bya kera, Ikirusiya nabanyamahanga.
Bose batangiye guhinduka hafi yikinyejana cya makumyabiri, hatangiye kwibohora, iterambere ryumugore nimpinduka muri societe. Abagore babonye uburenganzira bwo gukora, gutora - mu ijambo, buhoro buhoro bahinduka umuryango wuzuye kandi basobanukirwa ko umunezero wabo utajya ucika intege niba hari umugabo uri hafi yaya niba hari umugabo hafi.
Uyu munsi, uko uhagaze - waba wahisemo kwigunga mu gihe cya Pare - hafi nta ngaruka ku byiringiro byawe. Kandi ubu, mugihe tudakeneye kubaho tukarwanira uburenganzira bwo gukora, ingendo no kwishimira, tuzigama urwikekwe kubagumaho iyo mpamvu yonyine. Kubura ibinyejana byinshi, ndetse n'amateka yimyaka igihumbi yubu bwoko bwacu bwaduhaye ibintu bibangamiye. "Ikintu kimwe gisobanura ko bidahuye n'umuntu, bivuze ko hari imico mibi," "Ubururu bw'Ubururu", "ntabwo ameze, ariko hari ikintu giteye ubwoba - Waba uzi iyi nteruro ihumura iri hano, ni ho muri societe yacu yateye imbere? Yoo, ariko ni imyifatire kubantu bafite irungu kuruhande rwa mugenzi wawe muri societe ituma imiterere imwe kandi idakundwa. Kandi dore umuntu utiteguye umubano, ashaka kwisanga byibuze umuntu kugirango akureho agasuzuguro gateye ubwoba, tagi yumukara. Nkeneye kuvuga ko ari bibi cyane kandi biteje akaga?
Uyu munsi uko uhagaze - waba wahisemo kwigunga - hafi nta ngaruka kumitekerereze yawe
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Uwambere
Umuvuduko w'abavandimwe no gufunga hafi rimwe na rimwe udusunika kubikorwa, icyo gihe twicuza. Mubisanzwe, birumvikana ko kurema umuryango ntabwo biva mu rukundo no gushira icyifuzo cyo kuba hafi yawe, ariko kubera ko byemerwa n'ibinyoma, bidafite aho bikaba ". By the was, abagore benshi ntibashyingiwe gusa nicyifuzo cyo gushaka, ahubwo no kubyara umwana kugirango babyare. Iyi myitwarire ituma umubabaro nuwo mugore ubwayo, na mugenzi we, hamwe nabana be bagaragaye kugirango nhereze na nyina wenyine. Urundi rugero rwiza ni contactution zishingiye ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ntabwo kubera urukundo rukumbi, ariko kubera ko "niba nanze, azabura undi." Twemeye kwihanganira inzika no guteterezwa, ihohoterwa ritunganijwe mu mitekerereze n'ihohoterwa rishingiye ku mubiri, gusa kutaguma ku nkono yamenetse, ntabwo ari "ingaragu hamwe na romoruki." Amagambo atukana muri aderesi yabayemeje kwigunga, ntukongerera icyemezo n'ishyaka. Nkuko dushobora kubibona, kumugaragaro cyangwa kugereranywa, ariko societe irwanya abatihutira gushaka amafaranga abiri cyangwa byihuse kugirango bahure nibi bombi. Nigute warwanya societe hamwe numwenda washyizweho kandi wige gufata no kwishimira irungu ryawe?
Intambwe yambere kandi nyamukuru ni ukumenya amateka yacyo hamwe numuzi wubu urwikekwe wahuye nabyo. Ni ngombwa kumvikana neza aho biri muri twe iyi mpande yo kuguma wenyine. Kubwamahirwe, umuco wo gutumanaho numuntu wingenzi kandi wingenzi mubuzima bwawe (hamwe nawe, birumvikana) biracyakomeza kuba kurwego rwo hasi. Kwitondera no gukunda ubwabo bifatwa nkibisobanuro, kimwe no kudashaka kwitangira umuntu uwo ari we wese no gutamba inyungu zabo kumiterere yumugabo wubatse cyangwa wubatse. Kandi rero ukeneye uru rwego rwo kuzamura kandi rukagumana muburebure bwiza. Wige kumva no kumva wowe ubwawe n'ibyifuzo byawe. Kora urutonde rwibyishimo kandi biragutera inkunga. Tangira kandi nta mpuhwe, tera ibyo ukunda udakwiriye. Wige kwitonda no gukunda wenyine. Umva umunezero mubumenyi bwawe. Ibyiza wifata, abantu bakwiriye kandi bishimishije bazahinduka ishingiro ryibidukikije.
Nigute warwanya societe hamwe numwenda washyizweho kandi wige gufata no kwishimira irungu ryawe?
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Ni ngombwa cyane kwibuka ko irungu ryawe atari ibisubizo byuko udakenewe (kandi akenshi ibyo bitekerezo byiza bashishikarizwa nabantu hafi yatwe - ababyeyi), hamwe no guhitamo kwawe. Ibuka ibibuto bizwi cyane byumusizi wa Omar Khayama hanyuma ubasubize ibitero byose nibirego: "Kugira ngo ubuzima bwe bwo kubaho," kugirango ubuzima bwubwenge bubeho, uzi gukenerwa cyane. Amategeko abiri yingenzi yo kwibuka kubatangiye: Nibyiza kwicwa nicyo mfite. Nibyiza kuba mwiza kuruta umuntu uwo ari we wese. " Igitekerezo cyimbitse kandi cyubwenge cyumufilozofiya yiburasirazuba kizahora ari ngombwa.
Ubwigenge nubushobozi bwo gutanga ibyifuzo byabo nibyifuzo byabo nurufunguzo rwurufunguzo rwishimye kandi rwishimye, ruzaba umutungo nubumenyi, ntabwo ari ukubaho mubi. Kugira ngo wizere ko ugomba kugira umuntu - ababyeyi, inshuti, abakunzi cyangwa abagore - bisobanura kuvura amahuza menshi bitari ngombwa, kamere ye ni umuguzi. Birakenewe kubaho nkurikije imbaraga zabo nuburyo bumwe, guhagarara neza kumaguru no kureka umubano usaba umugabane. Abagore bazi abatoroshye, kuko "nashatse," barashobora kugwa mumwanya mubi, ariko, hamwe nabagabo.
Niba wakoze ibintu byose twatanzeho hejuru, kandi biracyumva ko biterwa nibuto, ibuka inshuti zawe! Imfashanyigisho nziza, irambye, abantu ushobora guhora guhinduka, kurira, guhangayika, kwinezeza, kurambura ukuboko, ni umutware wawe, ukwirinda, kwirwanaho ubumwe, bibaho gusa ntube umwe.
Noneho, uzi gufata ruzz wo mubwigunge yawe, uzi kumarana nawe wenyine, gukunda no kwishima ubwawe nigihe cyawe. Nkeka ko intambwe ikurikira izaba? Igisubizo gishobora kuba umurongo wo guhangayikindi Classique: "Urukundo ruva kubamwirukana. Kandi abiruka biruka, yihuta ku ijosi, ati: "Igihe cye, Shakespelder, n'uburyo yari afite ukuri. Niba uhuye nubucuti nigiciro icyo aricyo cyose ntabwo ari intego yawe, nkuko bisanzwe, umuntu ukenewe azahita agaragara mubuzima bwawe uwo uzabana byoroshye kandi byoroshye. Muri rusange, nyuma yo kuvura, umubano utanga umusaruro ubaho ufite irungu, kuko ubu uzi neza wowe nabandi, menya umupaka wawe, niba ari ukunya uwo ari we wese, niba ari. Irungu niyungurura neza itoragura abahohoteye na dafyidils, indaya nabatazi uburyo bwo kumva no kububaha.
Byagenda bite niba umuntu nkumuntu akenewe atagaragara kandi ntagaragara? Nta na kimwe. Ntakintu kibi, ntakibi, ntakintu kibi kitakubaho. N'ubundi kandi, ubu ufite uburambe kandi bwingirakamaro bwo kuguma wenyine, kandi iki gihe ntigihatirwa guhagarara mu gutegereza igikomangoma, kandi iki gihe nticyimuke mu gihe cyo kumenya igikomangoma, ariko iki gihe n'amasaha yeguriwe kuzenguruka no kuvumbura, guhumekwa no guceceka no kugerageza , kwiga isi na bo ubwabo. Ahari, dushobora kugira inama Irungu kubantu bose bitiranya, bazimiye kandi ntibazi kubaho. Ubuvuzi bwiza buzana bigoye.
Regina EvTushenko
Regina EvTushenko, umutoza wawe:
- Emera rwose ingingo. Arthepenhauer agira ati: "Wenyine, buriwese abona ubwacyo icyo ari cyo cyose." Umuntu agomba gushimishwa na we wenyine, ni ukuvuga, igomba kwihaza. Wenyine ntabwo ari ngombwa kutiheba kwiheba, birakenewe gukoresha igihe nk'icyo cyo kwiteza imbere, kwagura ibikorwa byawe, shakisha isomo kubugingo. Ibintu byose biroroshye - ndakwikunda, kandi uzibagirwa kwigunga, kandi mugihe wowe kubijyanye nubu ni bwo bwigunge bwibagirwa, uzahita uhuza abantu bafite isuku. Nigute ushobora gutsinda irungu? Live hano. Tugomba gutura hano n'ubu. Tangira kwerekana gahunda mu itumanaho, ariko wibuke ko ubucuti budahambiriwe kumunsi umwe. Kwiteza imbere. Wige kuzigama ibyiza mubihe byose!
Intambwe eshatu unyuze (c) irungu:
imwe. Dukuraho ubwoba. Ibi rimwe na rimwe ni ngombwa, ariko akenshi bikunze gusenya kandi kitari inyungu. Gutinya irungu, ufunga amahirwe menshi kuri wewe ubwawe.
2. Urukundo Umunyamakuru we nyamukuru wenyine ni we ubwe. Kuba wenyine bisobanura kuba hafi. Koresha iki gihe cyo kwizirika.
3. Hindura ibidukikije bifite uburozi, Ikubwira kubyerekeye amasaha kandi ishyiraho izindi stereotypes yangiza.