Ntabwo kera cyane, numvise inzozi ziva kumugore utegura isabukuru yimyaka 60. Buri murongo w'imyaka ntabwo ari pasiporo gusa, ahubwo ni imitekerereze. Eric Ericson yerekanye imyaka 8 y'ibihe, kandi ikibazo cy'ubusa kikuze cyaguye muri iki cyiciro. Ariko ntituzageraho, ubanza gusinzira.
"Umuhisho wanjye yasanze inzu mu nzu igizwe n'inyubako nyinshi: umwe, babiri, batatu. Muri rusange, izi nyubako zigabanyijemo ibice bishya, zisanwa, zigezweho kandi zigezweho, ariko zikundwa no gutura. Ntamuntu uba muri Gishya. Na mbere narebye mu nyubako nshya, hanyuma njya gushaka inzu yanjye nshya mu nyubako ishaje. Nabwirijwe kujya kuri Bizarre kuntambwe. Ntibishoboka no kunyura aho, ariko nahuye nabandi bantu mu nzozi kundusha cyane, kandi bagendera kuri izi ntambwe. Mu mugore umwe, ndetse nabajije uko bagiye hano, ariko nizera ko nasubije ko nanjye nzabigeraho, gusa bisa nkaho ari ubwoba. Hanyuma mbona inzu yanjye mbona umwanya munini wubusa. Igomba kuba nini no gukemurwa - ariko kuri ubu inkuta zifatika zo mu nzu yanjye nshya. Mu kanya gato, ndetse n'amaboko yaguye kubera akazi kangana. Ariko ndashobora kubyitwaramo ".
Gusinzira birasobanutse. Mu nzu nshya kandi nshya, soma umubiri uhemusi kandi mushya, imyaka, inzozi zacu ntizishobora kubaho. Itsinda rye rifite uruhare rumaze kuba mukera rya kera, ahubwo ni inyubako yo guturamo. Birakenewe kujyana ninzira zihindagurika, ndetse bidashoboka, byasaga naho, ariko abantu ndetse nabasaza bazabyifatamo byoroshye. Ahari inzozi zacu zagize urumuri rwinshi rujyanye niki cyakuze, kize, ariko mubyukuri biroroshye kubitekerezo bye bitangaje kubyerekeye. Nyuma yaho, ageze mu nzu ye nshya idashimwe, ni ukuvuga ko umwirondoro we mushya n'umugore w'umunyabwenge kandi ukuze, ariko aracyazi imbere, icyo ari cyo - Ari.
Eric Erickson yanditse kuri iki gihe nka pore ya zahabu. Niba umuntu abaho kuri iki gihe, hari amakimbirane yo kwifatiramo n'imibereho ye yose, ariko icyarimwe hamwe nubuzima bukomeye. Bikunze kubaho ko iyi ari imyaka yizabukuru, bityo rero ibibazo byubuzima bwimibereho. Benshi baragorana, bahita batakaza ubuzima bwabo, kuko batamenyereye kubaho ubwabo, kandi societe babayeho mbere, itakaza ibisobanuro. Muri iki gihe, bwa mbere ni ugusubiramo indangagaciro, umutungo, kwizerwa kwumibonano mpuzabitsina kandi urugwiro, witondere wowe ubwawe no kwishimisha. Muri iki gihe, umuntu arashobora gufata neza ko akuze cyane, inararibonye kuruta mubuto bwe, ahubwo azemera ko imbaraga nimbaraga zitari nke. Kandi icyarimwe, imyaka ntabwo ari imbogamizi yo gushyira mu bikorwa inzozi zabo, imigambi n'intego zabo. Benshi boherejwe gutembera, abandi amaherezo bitanze kubyo bakunda cyangwa ibyo bakunda, uwa gatatu bamenye abo bakoranye umwuga, bataramenyesheje mu busore bwe, ariko baramushaka. Iminota hamwe nabakunzi irashobora kurushaho kuba ifite agaciro, cyane cyane nta mpamvu nyinshi, nkabantu bakuze bashima igihe cyabo nkimpano, nkigihe gito cyubuzima. Gukura, Gusubiramo uburambe bwubuzima bubaha amahirwe yo kwishimira umwanya uki, basangira ubwenge nuburambe.
Ariko hariho abatemera kubuza, cyangwa, kubinyuranye, bakuramo cyane. Kuri pores zose, bihutishije ibihe bidasanzwe byo mumutwe, mugihe umubiri wabo uracyagufasha kubaho ubuzima bukora neza, mugihe udashobora kugenda no kutihuta ahantu hose. Ntabwo rwose ntegeka kandi ntakoresheje imbuto zukukundwa, bavumbuye cyane byifuzo bya kera kandi bafite intege nke, bibuza ubuzima bwabo kandi bibuza ubuzima bwabo, amahirwe yo gutsinda, gutsinda no gutsindwa, kubura amahirwe n'intsinzi. Ubuzima buri muri rusange urukurikirane rwimyanzuro. Ubusaza butagira ubwenge, busekeje, bwuje urukundo kuri we nigihe cyamanota aremereye nububabare.
Inzozi zacu zigomba gushobora kuva mubihe bishya kuri wewe kandi ukingure kugirango ubu buzima ari igihe. Hariho amahirwe yo kwiyemera nubwisanzure bwawe, kandi kubuza, nubunararibonye muburyo butandukanye, nubusabane mubunini bwabo bwose. Igihe nk'iki gikeneye kuvuka, kurema "inzu yawe bwite, ni ukuvuga gutuza kuri iki gihe atari igihe gito, ahubwo no mubitekerezo.
Twifurije amahirwe meza, kwihangana no kwishimira uburenganzira bumaze gukusanya ubwenge!
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin