Ngakhale kuti anthu ali ndi lingaliro: "Ndilibe ma ruble zana, ndipo ndili ndi abwenzi zana," omwe ali ndi malingaliro omwe mungawerengere ku thandizo lopanda tanthauzo la omwe inu ali pachibwenzi chochezeka, kubwereketsa ndalama ndikupereka ngongole kwa anzanu muyenera kusamala. Ngati minofu ikasokoneza funso limodzi, ndiye kuti abwenziwo adalipira ndalama.
Zachidziwikire, zonse zimatengera ubale ndi zilembozo ngati kutenga nkhunda ndikufunsa. Tengani ngongole kuchokera kwa bwenzi - siawo. Kupatula apo, kwa nthawi yonse yokhudza anthu, panali zitsanzo zambiri ngati mnzake atatenga ngongole ndikupereka zikumbutso. Koma zinachitika mosiyanasiyana: anthu akakhala, ngakhale pang'ono, komanso ndikulonjeza kuti abwerera kuchokera ku malipirowo, ngakhale kuti anali ogwirizana ndi chibwenzi chotalikirana ndi abale a Kindergarten. Ndinganene chiyani? Chinthu chimodzi chokha: Zodetsa ndi zosankha, izi za chikhalidwe zimatha kudziwonetsa okha mikhalidwe ina ngakhale kwa anthu amenewo omwe akuwoneka kuti amadziwa bwino. Chifukwa chake, zitha kunenedwa motsimikiza kuti ubwenzi suyesedwa ndi nthawi ndipo osakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro kapena zochitika, nthawi zambiri malo akulu ndi owala samakhala ndi zonena.
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Mwanjira yabwino, mwina, ziyenera kukhala monga chonchi: Ngati mukukayikira kuti mutha kupereka, musatenge! Ngati mukufuna kutenga ndalama zambiri, musatenge mnzanu, tengani ngongole kubanki, ndiye kuti mulibe chowiringula chifukwa chomwe simungathe kubwerera. Inde, mwinanso, anthu amabwera, omwe safuna kukweza abwenzi ndi mavuto awo ndikuwononga ubale wawo ngati mwadzidzidzi mavuto ena a ndalama. Izi ndi anthu oganiza bwino omwe ali muzu. Koma pakati pa achikulire, komanso anthu omwe akuwoneka kuti ali ndi anthu oganiza bwino, pali ena omwe pazifukwa zina (kupezeka kwa ngongole ndi ngongole pa iwo, mwachitsanzo) pazomwe zili kale. Ndipo muzochitika ngati izi, munthu akazindikira zachuma zenizeni za munthu wina amene amamufuna ngongole, chifukwa nthawi zonse pamakhala mwayi kuti ngongole singabwerere kwa iye. Akatswiri azamankhwala ndi ma psyyamwi omwewa amalangizidwa kuti alembe ngongole za abwenzi omwe amafunsidwa ngongole. Mwachidule, pemphani wobwereketsa kuti alandire ndalama zomwe adazitenga komanso pomwe ndalama zoikidwiratu zibwerera. Mwachilengedwe, kwa njira yofafanizira kulumikizana ndi mbiri sikokonzedwa. Koma zikafika pa ndalama, kuchuluka kwakukulu komanso ngongole - sizikugwirizana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro, kuyandikira kwambiri kumbali yazachuma, choncho ngati simukufuna kuyika pachiwopsezo, ndiye kuti musalole ngongole, kapena tengani chiphaso. Chifukwa ndinu ofanana ndi wobwereketsa, mumayang'anira izi ndipo muyenera kudzikumbukira nokha.
Ponena za mutu wa taboos paubwenzi muubwenzi, apa chilichonse payekhapayekha ndi payekhapayekha ndipo anthu ena amadalira zinthu zina, ena amakhala ndi mkwiyo komanso chikhumbo chokhudza Mnzake osalumikizana.
Taba Paubwenzi zimatengera mtundu wa ubwenzi womwewo
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Mwina mitu yotereyi, mwina, imatha kuthandizidwa ndi mnzanu wa mnzake yemwe, mwina, sakhululuka anzanga ambiri. Koma pali zosiyana ndi lamulo. Nthawi zambiri chopunthwitsa chopunthwitsa chimakhala chosaperekedwa, chomwe chingafotokozedwe pakufalikira kwa mbiri ya bwenzi lake lapamtima kapena "kuponyera" kwa zidziwitso za anthu ena. Khalidwe ili silingakhululukidwe mnzake wapamtima yemwe amadalira inu.
Anthu ena paubwenzi ali nsanje mokwanira ndipo amafuna kuti ana azikhala nawo nawo. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati sichovuta, ndiye vuto lokhudza ubale ndi munthu wobereka ndi kulekanitsa.
Pali anthu omwe sakonda anzawo adatsutsa malire, adafunsa mafunso ambiri - ambiri, adakwera komwe sanafunsidwe. Izi sizowonekanso bwino, makamaka payekha payekha amene akuyenera kumvetsetsa ndi kutenga.
Ubwenzi umapangidwa nthawi zambiri kuti ukhale ndi munthu wina, monga chilengedwe chidamupangira. Chifukwa chake, mwachilengedwe, tikuyembekezera kuti ndife ochezeka. Chigawo chachikulu pamaubwenzi achibwenzi chomwe chimagwiranso ntchito ku magawo onse a moyo. Chifukwa chake, muubwenzi ndi wabodza, kuphwanya malamulo achinsinsi, chidetso, chidwi chomwe chili ndi theka lachiwiri kumbuyo kwa bwenzi.