We have repeatedly talked about the fact that in order to build a long-term relationship trust need no less than love. Probably the only moment when restoring trust becomes the most difficult possible - treason. We are accustomed to the fact that treason is most often the prerogative of a man, however, women often go to this step for various reasons. How to do if this is an extremely unpleasant event happened in your life? Let's try to figure out.
Do you realize the cause of treason?
In society, the opinion was firmly strengthened about the fact that the partner who changed one time would strive to search for "adventures" on the side and on. In fact, one-time treason does not mean what a person will go into all the grave. This is especially true for women who are not so easy to decide on treason in relations ongoing for quite a long time. If you are in such a situation, try to understand for yourself, what was the reason and are you going to repeat the experiment. Often, with the help of sex on the side, we are trying to solve the internal conflict. It is important to understand what problems did you try to solve such a frankly ugly "event", if you understand that your problems are deeply inside, be sure to work this moment with a specialist.
Men will be extremely difficult to accept this fact.
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Tell or not
It is believed that in a situation where you want to continue the relationship, it is better to be honest in everything to admit. Psychologists disagree. In fact, it seems to us that the recognition will remove the load of guilt, it will immediately become easier. It is important here it is important to understand that your recognition can have a serious impact on your soul mate - such a mental injury can be decisive for some people. If you keep everything unbearable in yourself, you should not share such a serious secret with a friend and the more beloved person, contact a specialist, together with which you will work out this question. Already after the consultation it will be easier for you to make a decision - to speak or leave everything in secret.
Do not shift the blame
It has already happened. This happened, then there are certain problems that you may not want to recognize. As they say, it is impossible to cure a person who denies his illness. In our case, it is impossible to pretend that the problems do not exist. If you decide to tell all the partner, be prepared to answer his questions. In no way, do not shift the blame on it - it is important to accept the fact that there are always reasons for treason, and your task is to realize and work.
Get ready for breakdowns
As you understand, the decision to confess to treason may result in uncontrolled attacks of hysterics and aggression from the partner. Only in rare cases, the second half reacts calmly and agrees to discuss this moment without a burst of emotions. Male dignity is especially treason, since we all know the desire of men to complete control and unwillingness to share "their" with competitors. This moment is important to envisage and in no case do not fit the conflict.