Slimming has become the number one number in the pursuit of women for beauty and youth. The notorious ideal 90-60-90 was still tight in our heads. And if the body does not comply with this standard, and the stomach is not flat, then diets, slaughter fitness, cocktails for weight loss, and so on.
We will lower the advice of nutritionists and consider the psychological reasons for fanatical attempts to bring their body into a certain form.
If you ask women, why should they lose weight, most will say that it will help you feel confident and not even altitude. Thanks to this, they will become more successful in a quarry or will begin to attract men. That is, the desire to lose weight lies some other, more desirable, but less formulated goal. I do not take now as an example of those women who really should throw out overweight. After childbirth, for example, or because completeness harms health. I am talking about those who have quite normal weight, corresponding to the growth and a set, which inscribes in the size grid of clothing. Such women often turn to a psychologist, thinking that the matter is complete. It is easier for them to control their weight, lose weight, then break off, recruit again, catch kilograms in the gym. They can take control of this sphere, instead of starting to manage and navigate in the sphere of life in which it really is required.
If thinob and compliance with beauty standards give confidence, then in fact the problem is in the sphere of interpersonal communications. It may be difficult to get acquainted or in general to be in constant contact with someone. If the long-term goal of weight loss is the attraction of a man, then the case is generally in the total shame and feeling like women, not worthy of love.
But such thoughts and feelings are hard to worry, and even suddenly someone knows! Therefore, it is easier to switch your attention to the sphere in which you can safely "improve" yourself. But diet in such cases, as a rule, do not work. Upon reaching the desired result in weight, breakdowns often happen, an even greater set of kilograms. And so on a closed circle. Our body signals us how in fact we treat it, despite the external attempts to make it right and beautiful.
The modern therapist Liz Burbo described that our body becomes thick when we are experiencing humiliation over time. It seems to be swept away, protecting us from possible attacks and critics.
The most discerning therapist Bert Hellinger suggests that the blooming belly (read the fat) is disappointment and resentment on your mother. Pronounced feelings for mothers will help to lose weight in a matter of weeks.
In general, the practice shows that when women begin to implement their main task: to arrange a personal life, to move in a career, to engage in a favorite thing instead of painful work, then overweight leaves himself. And compliance with certain standards of beauty ceases to interest.
Thus, to begin to lose weight, no matter how paradoxically sounded, it is necessary to implement your main dream. Well, and help your body can be right, informed nutrition and sports.
Maria Zemskova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazina