When you come to a new family, no one can guarantee that your relationship with my mother-in-law will still be painful as well as with her son. But it is not necessary to worry about this - the story is old as the world. Someone is not perceived immediately, while others face problems with mother-in-law already in the process of building a family with a man. Probably, each daughter-in-law came across a problem - Mom's husband gives advice in which the first does not need, but also do not want to try out the open conflict. But what to do? Allow it to interfere in your life? Of course not. We will tell how to act in such an ambiguous situation.
If possible ignore
We hope you have strong nerves, otherwise it will be difficult to cope with this task. This step is perfectly suitable if the situation has reached critical when the conflict has already been unleashed. Excessively shouting and persistent mother-in-law will do everything to bring you to aggression, the worst thing you can do is to give in to a provocation. If you feel that your husband's mother started, first calm yourself, make a deep breath and skim your ears, doing your affairs, or just go to walk.
Learn to refuse
According to psychologists, the ability to say "no" is not given to everyone: we are not trying to defend our borders, fearing to offend a person, because of which they suffer from themselves. Remember that you are not obliged to everyone likes and please if you do something in communication with you or you don't want something, say a calm tone "no". This is a small, but very effective word that will make any person, in our case, mother-in-law, think about finding another way to communicate with you, the one you accept.
Try not to go to an open conflict with my mother's mom
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Refer to affairs and fatigue
There are such people who even the uncommon that their advice, recommendations and simply empty conversations can strain someone. If your mother-in-law is such a person, learn a little trick, instead of swearing: as soon as a woman starts talking without stopping, to advise something or, God forbid, to complain about something, immediately say that you need to meet children from Schools / wash the cat / go to the store, but anything, most importantly, do it ease and rigidly so that the mother-in-law does not have time to spit.
You can joke
It is important to remember that the joke should not be too offended, otherwise you can call the new conflict and complaints about you to your son, that is, your husband. Suppose your mother-in-law makes a stinging remark about your culinary abilities, in response, you can parry that a man chooses his wife in the image of his mother. And everything in such a spirit. Now you will see, gradually a woman will understand that it is better not to contact you.