Man from the very beginning is a social being. We can not live in complete isolation, from contacts with the outside world depends if not survival, then the mental state is accurate. Many people are very difficult to stop over themselves, and the elementary need to ask the road or time in the passerby turns into a real quest. If you consider yourself to this category, we will try to help you.
Communicate, communicate and communicate again
No need to go out and "rushing in the arms" of the first counter. Start with loved ones. It is very important not to avoid contacts with the family: if you constantly miss family meetings simply because you do not want to be in the company of people, start changing. The family will support you practically in any situation, which means it will not be so scary to open. Then gradually expand the circle of dating: Ideal if you find familiar in your interests - there is a high probability that you will find friends for life.
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Do not stay safe
Yes, you have to make a difficult step, namely overcome yourself. In this case, it is important to make a decision and not attempt to avoid its result, as it usually happens with closed people. Decide on a spontaneous trip alone: just plan it in a short time, otherwise there is a risk of change your mind. Sign up for courses that always wanted to visit, start to get involved in what they wanted in childhood, but could not in different circumstances. New impressions incredibly motivated to find out the world even more.
Do not be afraid of the opinions of others
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Worry your self-esteem
In psychology, there are many techniques aimed at identifying their strengths, you will be easier to accept yourself. Understand that no one is perfect, and at the same time most people feel pretty good, despite all the imperfections. It is important for you to stop thinking "What will you think about others?" Believe me, they don't think about you, so why should you focus on these people?
Imagine your fear in all colors
As a rule, we are afraid of something abstract. There is nothing worse than the unknown, as we know. That is why psychologists offer to work out their fear through a sheet of paper.
If you are difficult to work with images, simply make a list of situations and people who bring you the biggest discomfort. Usually this method helps to visually spread the situation and find a way to solve it, let it never happen in reality. Start from the most minor events in the list and end the alarming situations that, in your opinion, can happen to you or already occur.
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Contact a specialist for help
It happens that it is practically impossible to cope with the phobia itself, in this case you can not do without the help of a specialist who is designed to work out your fear. Often, sociophobes are afraid to turn to a psychologist precisely because of his phobia, however, as we said, - take the first step, and let it be through the threshold of a psychologist who can find an approach to solving your problem. The most important thing is your desire to change the situation and the desire to stop avoiding external contacts.