Each girl at least once heard: "Well, when you already think about children?" And there is nothing surprising in this, because the opinion that motherhood is the greatest happiness in the life of any woman, very popular.
It is only worth entering instagram and tons of posts from insta-mammies, who travel, are building a business and live in their pleasure even with several young children.
No one knows what the family will have to face
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What is really going on?
Real motherhood with whom you have to face, far from fantasies. We decided to consider the facts that it is not customary to speak.
Baby wipes
There is a version that pregnancy gives strength and extends life. However, "eyewitnesses" are ready to argue: pregnancy - a huge burden on the body, in which many diseases are exacerbated.
After the woman gives birth, it almost does not have time for himself, as a small person requires constant attention. In this connection, the full recovery is very slow. Add a permanent fear and excitement for a child, as well as inacrets that become a real problem.
Your life will be subordinate to the baby
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Load on the psyche
Throughout the pregnancy, the future mother does not let the thought: "What if something is wrong?" and its derivatives. Indeed, it is impossible to predict, with what difficulties will have to face the family and its new member.
Do not stand and forget about the famous generic depression, which overtakes most mothers for the cause of hormonal restructuring.
Many restrictions
After the child's appearance, you must change your life, subordinate it to the kid's schedule at least three years. The child requires frequent feeding, long walks and bathing, and all this on schedule.
Any journey will have to think about the needs of the kid, you will no longer get out in the middle of the year and go to the edge of the world. Are you ready to change your life so cool?
Partial loss of independence
We will be honest, cope with the child alone - the task is not from the lungs. At first, while all your attention is drawn to a small little man, you will have to receive financial support from loved ones, usually from her husband.
If you are going to move away at least half an hour, the child will not be able to stay alone, and therefore you will need the help of grandmothers, with which you will also have to establish contact if you have had a tense relationship before that.
job search may take more time
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Not simple employment
Any employer understands that mom depends on the state of the child: frequent hospital, early care for meetings and other circumstances. Not every company is ready to make concessions, so the job search that you would have arranged in many parameters, it becomes more difficult.
However, with the advent of the Internet, it became much easier to find a job - you can easily carry out professional activities without leaving home. But you need to understand that if you have a child, you will not be able to surrender fully.