Probably one of the biggest problems in the life of a modern person is uncertainty in itself, which leads to serious discomfort in communicating with others. So inability to refuse when the proposal is contrary to your desires, it can become a real obstacle to harmonious life and can even lead to a psychological disorder. However, it is still possible to solve the problem, and we collected the most effective ways.
Do not be afraid to take time to think
If you can not immediately say a clear "no", you do not need to be afraid to take time on thought. Many people love to catch surprise, so that the interlocutor gives the answer without weighing everything "for" and "against." Learn to parry and not succumb to provocations, and for this you need to make it clear that your answer may not coincide with the expectations of the interlocutor. Tell me that you need time to think about, so your companion will have to look for workarounds, and you will have time to formulate the answer you need.
No need to attribute your thoughts to others
Very often we go for concessions, as we think that our refusal may affect relations with that man who appealed to you. As a result, we "we are on the throat" with our principles, often do something that we would like, but in favor of another person. We understand that we do not want to do this, but the thoughts that we can lose one or another person because of our refusal, can push us on absolutely not necessary actions. Remember: you should not attribute to other thoughts, perhaps a person, on the contrary, is waiting for you to make the initiative yourself and make your proposal.
Do not assign your thoughts to others.
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Always clarify requests
In the life of each of us there is a person who is accustomed to getting any services is simply based on a good attitude and the impossibility of others to refuse. So you can hear the phrase from him like: "I want to go to the store a new way ... But he is so far ... And I have no cars ... Not what you have" - a similar way to cause a feeling of guilt quite often, and now you are going together In the store where you, in general, do not. Do not react to such ways to cause unpleasant feelings in you, remember that you should not anyone.