Children copy their parents - and sometimes it's scary. Since childhood, plants are fixed in our subconscious, which are later reflected in the model of relations of people with their partners, attitude towards themselves and their body, interaction with loved ones and other people's people. It is impossible to protect yourself from all errors, but it is important to minimize their number in particular items. Read about educational shortcomings that you can admit in our material.
"Shahlah!"
Perhaps the first thing that the mother affects is the ratio of his daughter to her body. If you have not allowed a child from infancy to run naked even at home, constantly wounded her clothes, scolded for your own body and never talked about sex, things are bad. The girl still learns what is intimate life, but can not enjoy her until he comes to a psychologist. Strict education on the subconscious level enshrines the idea that nudity, sex and other familiar things are bad.
"Yes, no one will get married"
Your daughter is born not as an addition to a man, but as an independent person. Learn her to iron, cook and fulfill other household responsibilities so that she can take care of herself until it earns enough to hire an amateur assistant and dine in restaurants. We instill a thought that life is a common duty, so that in the future she will not complain about a slopful husband, but just leave the partner who can not fulfill the minimum of household affairs.
Rise up a daughter in love and care
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"Youth is not eternal"
Not! Youth lasts exactly as much as you yourself feel young. Look at the photos of our grandmothers: already at 30 they looked for a couple of dozen years older, not at all like modern girls. Do not press the girl with the words that she must get married, give birth to children and do it all needs to be up to 30. She will grow and decide what kind of relationship model is preferable for her, whether she wants children or decide not to continue. The main thing is that she makes the choice itself and was happy.
"Well, careful, I'm talking!"
No need to take care of the child - take care of its safety and learn the rules of caution, but do not protect the errors. You do not want a daughter to live with you to old age and asked for a walk with girlfriends? We understand how terrible to admit that your girl has grown, but already in adolescence it is necessary to give her enough freedom to make her bumps and teach this experience for the future.
"Your father is a fool!"
Forming a negative image of the father, you grow in a child complexes. Even worse, if you generalize all the male representatives from personal insult. Try to honestly admit the cons of the partner and discuss them with a matured child, but do not forget about the pros. Show your daughter that a person's personality is multifaceted and there is no ideal people. So you will save it from the search for the Prince, but also give it to understand that you should not meet with the first you caught.
"I forbid you to communicate with my father!"
When divorced, few people can keep good relations. If a partner, as you think, is dangerous for a child, deprive his parental rights through the court. But in other cases, do not limit the communication between the daughter with the dad, otherwise in the future she will throw on the first guy waiting for at least drops of attention and heat. Girls who grown without dad are often manipulated in relations, provoke scandals and go for anything, just to get attention and feel necessary. Believe me, it is very difficult for them - do not suit your little fate with your girl.
Even if you are not my daughter with dad, she must communicate with him
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"Now you get me"
Not a joke, not really scare the child violence. You must explain the daughters that any violence from other people is unhealthy. Insults, manipulation of feelings, manipulation - nothing of this can not be tolerated, and from the offender you need to go immediately. While in Russia there is no law on domestic violence, the girl must protect himself and warn the dangerous situations in the zone of its control.
"Could try better"
It is clear that the child will not always get crafts and it will bring some five from school. But you, as a parent must first praise him for the efforts, and then together discuss what you need to fix that the next time the result was even better. It is better to seize the child than not to tell him the words of approval and support.
"Wait, I do not up to you"
No matter how busy have, it is necessary to understand that the work will not go anywhere, but the child will grow rapidly and will stop the nest. Do not lose time and devote at least 10-15 minutes per day to talk about everything in the world. During communication, the child learns to reason, interact with the interlocutor, analyze someone else's point of view, becomes tolerant and attentive. If you have several children, with each of them you need to spend some time alone, when they do not need to compete with brother / sister for your attention, and you can be yourself.
"Look at others, live on all ready"
When you give the girl in an example of other families in which small income, children or parents are sick, you do not better make your child. You learn her to be ashamed of what it has, and try to compare with the others. Yes, it is important to understand that you are lucky to be born in a secured family, but you do not need to demotivate it to achieve even more.