Wena, ngokubona intombi ngokweqiniso futhi ubhekene nentombani enkulu yenzondo ebhekiswe kuyo yinsizwa yakhe, mnikeze izeluleko ezingaguquki: "Yebo, uhambe kuzo zonke izivikelo !!! Kungani engakufuni !!! Kuyena izinkinga ezithile !!! " Intombi ilandela izeluleko zakho, inika uBuddler kuze kube yilapho ishiya ngokwemvelo. Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kamuva kuvela ukuthi empeleni umngane akakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwawo, futhi ngokujwayelekile manje sekunesizungu esingabekezelwa. Futhi into ebushelelezi ukuthi kufanele usolwe ngalesi simo ... futhi ngubani owanikeza uMkhandlu "Omangalisayo" kangaka?
Noma kuza umyeni wakhe ekhaya, ekhathele futhi elambile. Futhi efulethini libusa inkinga yobuciko, isidlo sakusihlwa akulungele, umfazi ujabule kakhulu ekhishini nomngane we-martini, ingane imatasa ngeke iqonde ukuthi izifundo ezingenziwa yini ... ngokugcwele, zigcwele yokudideka. Umyeni wami ugcwala ngegazi, futhi uqala ukumemeza umkakhe ngolaka, ukuba amsole ngokungenzi lutho, ukuthi uyazijabulisa, futhi uyazijabulisa futhi akakwazi ukwenza kube lula ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa futhi usebenze nengane. Unkosikazi, eqaphela ukuthi yena ngokwengxenye yendoda nakwesokudla, uqala ukuzizwa enecala, uyathethelela futhi axolise. Kuqinisa kuphela umyeni wakhe, kumemeza ihlathi langaphambili, umfazi uqala ukukhala. Umngani ufika endaweni yesehlakalo, ezama ukuvikela umkayo. Futhi uthola umyeni wakhe: "Futhi wenze okuthile, uma kungekho zibopho emndenini, akusho ukuthi akekho abanye." Manje lo mfazi uqala ukuhlasela umyeni wakhe: "Bathi, hlobo luni lwe-zin olucasulwe !!!". Futhi umyeni uqala ukuqonda ukuthi wazesaba induku, futhi ethule. UZina, wakhaphela umyeni wakhe "indima yecala," iqala ukumvikela, ethi kumkakhe: "Woza, indoda ikhathele okungenzeki kuye." Futhi ngakho-ke kungaqhubeka umbuthano ukuze infinity.
Uma ubheka, kuzo zombili lezi zigameko, izindima ezi-3 zibonakala: Izisulu, zimsukelayo kanye nomhlengi. Esesibili, abantu bazishintshanisa nakancane.
Ngakho-ke, lowo owayemsukelayo, ungumashiqela, unguMbulali. Ngaso sonke isikhathi usola nokuhlaselwa, ngokuzicabangela kwesokudla. Ijabulisa umuzwa wamandla, uzizwa ulungile.
Isisulu asineme, asinelisekile ngempilo, sicasukile, ngaso sonke isikhathi siyahlupheka, sincike kwabanye, sifuna usizo. Kuhlala kulungele ukuzidela ngokwakhe, ekuthembekeni ngasese ukuthi uzokhululwa ngokuhlupheka kwakhe. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ngeke kusoze kwasindiswa, noma ngabe umhlengi angazange azame kangakanani.
Umsizi - uhlala uyasiza, kepha usizo lwakhe alusoze lwaziswa futhi lwavuzwa.
Imodeli enjalo yobudlelwano ivame kakhulu, futhi kuyo yonke imikhakha yempilo. Abaningi baye bathola lokhu, ngisho nasemsebenzini. Isibonelo, lapho isisebenzi siza kuwe futhi sithi ngeke akwazi ukubhekana nomsebenzi othile. "Ufaka" umhlengi: Ukuthambisa, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uzosiza ukwedlula indlela ongayenza, bese kuba nesibopho somphumela siwe kuwe.
Umdlalo kulolu ntathu ubhubhise kakhulu. Kepha bonke ababambiqhaza bathola amabhonasi. Isisulu asixazululi izinkinga zaso, ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba kungabonakala ezibonelweni ezingenhla (ikakhulukazi ezimweni nentombi, okuyisoka eliphonswayo, kanye nomuntu osebenza naye), kusukela kule ndima kulula kakhulu ukukhohlisa abanye. Ngokuvamile, ngale ndima, wonke umuntu uyalwa, uyinganekwane kunazo zonke. Umsindisi uzizwa ngokuphelele ukubaluleka kwawo futhi adinga, asiza isisulu. Ofuna ukuzilandela asiza ekusizisekelweni kwawo kwabanye, ngaleyo ndlela ethola iphutha futhi aphonse ukungezwani.
Futhi manje into esemqoka - Ungayiphuma kanjani kulolu ntathu?
Okokuqala, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi bakulo, futhi baqonde indima yakho. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi izindima ziyashintsha, ngakho-ke ngokushesha zenqabe kuzo wonke umuntu bese uzama ukuthatha isikhundla sombukeli maqondana nalokho okwenzekayo nxazonke. Ukuze ungabi yisisulu, kubalulekile ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo wokwaneliseka kwezifiso zakho nezidingo zakho, ungalindeli ukubambezelwa okuphumelelayo kwezimo nosizo kwabanye. Ukulahla indima yalowo osukele kuyo, kuyadingeka ukubona indima yayo kulokho okwenzekayo futhi ongazami ukufuna ukusola. Futhi ekugcineni, mayelana nomhlengi - zama ukungaphazamisi ubuhlobo babanye, noma ngabe laba ba abanye bazoba yizihlobo zakho. Ungazami ukuxazulula izinkinga zabanye abantu lapho abantu uqobo bengabhekana nazo, futhi ngokwengeziwe ezimweni lapho ungabuzwa khona ngakho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, omunye womehluko omkhulu phakathi komhlengi ovela kumsizi ukuthi umsizi uyahilela lapho ebuzwa khona, futhi uMhlengi ukhona yonke indawo ngaphandle kokuphamba.
Ngokuvamile, yiba ngokuvumelana futhi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo ngempilo yakho - imfihlo enkulu yobudlelwano obuvumelanayo nabanye;)
P. s .: Kulombhalo, ngichaze imodeli uStephen Karpman.