Inzalo yalabo abake yathuka futhi ukushayeka empilweni imvamisa iphupha iziqinisekiso. Isibonelo, abantu beza ukuzobonisana futhi batshele iziphambeko zokuwohloka, impi nokucindezelwa, owasinda abaholi bomzukulu wawo kanye nabangane abakhulu, ukuncipha kanye nokuthobeka, owasinda kubazali. Manje, abantu abakhule ezinsukwini zokwakhiwa kabusha, i-lyha × 90s, eyayingene ezinxushunxushu ngokwabo, yayihleli emaqenjini nasezingxoxweni zangasese, noma babheka izingane zabo ngobunzima empilweni. Futhi kaningi kufanele uzwe ukuthi manje empilweni ngingathanda ukuzola, ingcebo kanye neziqinisekiso! Isibonelo, umshado ungumshuwalense ovela emzuzweni, kanye nomholo wanyanga zonke - uqinisekisa impilo enokuthula, ukunakekela izingane - ukuba khona komqondo wokuphila okuphakade, amaholide izikhathi - isiqinisekiso womshuwalense wokuphila konke ingozi. Futhi konke kunengqondo, ngoba kungakanani amakhefu, aphethwe amagciwane, amacebo namathemba adilikile kanye namathemba? Abantu bazikhathalela bona, wusindisa okwenziwe. Kuliqiniso, futhi bahlushwa yindlala, i-monotony, ukufakwa ngokushesha kwamandla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma imishado ihlukane, izingane zikhula zihambe, zivame ngemuva kwale micimbi kutholakala ukuthi umzamo wokwenza lula kulempilo kwasekuqaleni kwasekuqaleni kwakuyinto yokuyekethisa. Uma ungajahi, cabanga ngempilo yakho ngokucophelela, khona-ke ungathola ukuthi kungenakusizakala kanjani ekuphathweni kwethu, njengoba inkohliso yokuphepha inesigqi, iziqinisekiso ezincane nokuthi zingaki izinselelo ekumelaneni kweTatle nsuku zonke futhi nsuku zonke kulo . Ngiyakuthanda lapho bethumela amaphupho ezindikimba zaphakade, ezikhona. Nakhu omunye wabo kusuka kumaphupho ethu wanamuhla:
"Sintanta kulayini omkhulu wasolwandle, futhi ngokuzumayo kuqala isivunguvungu. Amagagasi amakhulu anyakazisa umkhumbi: amanzi, imvula, umoya. Emkhunjini wethukile. Ngiyesaba, futhi ngiyaqonda ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani, nokuthi ingaphela kanjani. Sonke singafa. Ngasikhathi sinye, nginomuzwa wokuthi ngikwazi ukubopha ukuthuthuka. Futhi ngikulungele ukulwela impilo yami. Amagagasi avuka konke okungenhla, umoya nemvula athola amandla, ngihlala ngiboshwe ngemuva komkhumbi futhi ngibone ukuthi uhlangothi uhlangothi olungasehlangothini lugxile emanzini. Ngalesi sikhathi, sathuthalela ezingeni lamafu amamitha amabili ngamakhulu amabili nangembali eqhekekile phansi, siphuma emanzini, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bese sikhuphuka kaninginingi. Konke enginakho ngumshuwalense, ngiqiniseka ngokuqinile nokubuka izinto, ukubhukuda, njengokujikisa, phezulu naphansi. Emanzini namanzi. Kuyamangaza ukuthi amanye ama-rafs angibamba, futhi angikwazi ukundiza, lapho izinto zizongithola khona.
Ngivuka ngokumangala, ukudideka ukuthi umshuwalense olula ugcinwe esivunguvungwini esinamandla kangaka, futhi kumayelana nokuzethemba komhlaba, ukholo kimi namandla akho. "
Ukulala kusobala. Ulwandle, isivunguvungu siwuphawu lobudlova, ngezindlela eziningi zokuphila ezingalindeleki, ezinamandla futhi zinamandla ze-heroine yethu. Ngasikhathi sinye, kugcinwe ama-rafrops - mhlawumbe, ngesimo samasu wokuphila alula, agcinwe yinhloko yezakhi.
I-American Therapist Irwin Yal yakha umkhuba wakhe wezempilo, ibeka isisekelo sokwelashwa okukhona, okungukuthi, ukwelashwa kwencazelo yempilo. Futhi isisekelo salesi sikole kunezindlela ezi-2 ezihlukile emcabangweni wempilo enenjongo. Omunye wabo uthi lokho kusho ukuthini, lokhu kufana nolwazi lwaphezulu, kuyadingeka ukuvula futhi umzwe. Indlela yesibili isikisela ukuthi akukho mqondo, impilo ayinaso umqondo ocacile, futhi i-yal inamathela, kunalokho, lokhu kubukeka. Okushiwo ukuthi thina ngokwethu sakha inkululeko yethu yenkululeko. Isibonelo, ephusheni, uSnoviditsa angafika esiphethweni esidumile sokuthi impilo iyingozi futhi ekucabangeni kwayo kufanele ibambeke: Ukuzivikela kokuhlangenwe nakho okuqinile, kepha lapho ukhetha khona, kepha ephusheni ukhetha ukuzibuka futhi Lwela ukuvuma ukwethembana kwakho, ukuvuma ngesivunguvungu sempilo. Futhi lokhu kuphela okukhethiwe kuyisiqinisekiso sokuthembela, hhayi okuphambene nalokho. Impilo ayiqinisekisi lutho ngokwayo, kepha singakwazi ukukhetha indlela ethile kuyo, umbono othile. Manje amaphupho ethu akhetha ukuzethemba.
Ngiyazibuza ukuthi uphupha ini? Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin