Indawo yokuhlala ehlanganyelwe nabantu asebekhulile kuyinto evivinya kanzima yesizukulwane esisha kanye nangamadoda amadala uqobo. Iminyaka iyashintsha ishintsha ukufakwa kwabo ebudlelwaneni, okuvame ukuholela engxabanweni, okuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ikhula kuphela, izivimba ngokuqonda nje abantu bomdabu kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, sanquma ukunikeza izeluleko ezimbalwa eziwusizo kubantu ababengezelwa yizimo ezisesimweni esifanayo.
Ungafihli imizwa yakho
Kwesinye isikhathi isimo sokungqubuzana singase siphilise ngandlela thile ukuze sipholise ubuhlobo, okugcina ukuhola abantu abadala emcabangweni wokuthi, mhlawumbe awusekho imizwa efudumele njengakuqala. Okomuntu osekhulile, umcabango onjalo ungaba yimpahla esindayo esazoqhutshwa ekucindezelekeni nasekucindezelweni kwakho okuncane kwendlu ngeke kube nokuphela. Kubalulekile lapha ukunikeza ukuqonda abazali obhekene nemizwa efudumele kakhulu futhi akukho zingxabano ezingakushintsha. Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngakho.
Ngeke ukwazi ukuwashintsha
Elinye lamaphutha amakhulu wezingane eziningi zabantu abadala yimizamo yokushintsha abazali bayo. Kuyiqiniso, ebudlelwaneni obunjalo kunezikhathi lapho kunzima khona ukubuyisana ngisho nomuntu omelana kakhulu, kwesinye isikhathi kuze kube yilapho uqala ukukhuluma ngqo nomzali, njengoba kudingeka ukuthi uzenzele omunye noma esinye isimo lapho iba ingxabano ngokwengeziwe, uma isivele isesimweni esilandelayo. Akufanele ukwenze lokho. Khumbula ukuthi ngaphezu kokubi ebudlelwaneni bakho kuhlale kunamanothi amahle, kungani ungazihlanganisi kubo esikhundleni sokulungisa umuntu osekhulile?
Phinda uthole ukuqonda ezihlotsheni ezikhulile
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Senza isaphulelo ngeminyaka
Lapho ubudlelwane buqala 'ukwenza ubunzima', kwesinye isikhathi indodakazi noma indodakazi ethile inzima ukugcina iqiniso lokuthi abazali sekuyisikhathi eside belingabakhumbuli, futhi iminyaka ehlonishweyo ihlala yenza ushintsho emcabangweni we umhlaba nokuhlehlisa ukufakwa. Akunasidingo sokucasuka ngenxa yokuthi abazali bakho kungenzeka ukuthi baye bathandeka kancane noma ama-twirl. Into ebi kakhulu ongayenza esimweni esinjalo ukuqala ukuhlukana. Khumbula njalo ngeminyaka.
Zama ukuphazamisa isihlobo esidala
Ungase futhi ucasule iqiniso lokuthi umama noma ubaba uchitha isikhathi, njengoba ucabanga, uchithe, kepha faka isikhundla sabo - izinsuku zabo ziba yiminyaka, ngakho-ke impilo yabo ibonakala inqubekela phambili futhi ingabonakala. Akufanele basolwe ngalokho. Esikhundleni sokumangalelwa, zama ukuthola indlela yokwenza impilo yabo ibe ngokugqamile, ngokwesibonelo, woza nomsebenzi wabo, owayengabaphazamisa ezinkingeni nasemicabangweni edabukisayo. Kungaxazulula ezinye izinkinga zakho.