Akukephuzi kakhulu ukuthi usebenze ekuzithuthukisweni - noma ngabe okungenani, okungenani iminyaka engama-50. Futhi isigaba sakhe esibalulekile, ngokusho kwengqondo sanamuhla ngokwengqondo, ukuthola ikhono lokuvikela imingcele yalo. Abantu abathambekele ekuvumelaniseni nganoma iziphi iziphakamiso futhi benze ukuyekethisa, besaba ukucasula abanye, benze iphutha elingenakulungiswa: bayakhohlwa yinto esemqoka ekuphileni kwabo hhayi ukuzikhuba. Amathiphu azosiza ukubhekana nenkinga bese uqala impilo eshidini elihlanzekile.
Thola imikhawulo yokubekezela kwakho
Thatha iphepha bese ulihlukanisa libe yikholomu emibili: Ngiyavuma futhi ngingemukeli. Khumbula ukuthi bazungeza kanjani nawe - okulethelwe yizenzo zabo zikuhlupheke kanjani, futhi okungekengekuze kubangele imizwa. Buza, kungani kubalulekile? Ukuzivocavoca kusiza ukugxila emizweni yabo ngokwahlukana kusuka ekufakweni komphakathi. Imingcele ifaka phakathi ukusungulwa kwe-zone okuvunyelwe futhi enqatshelwe. Ngakho-ke, kwabanye abantu ukuvukela umbuso, umlingani uzoba yinhlekelele enzima yengqondo, kanti abanye ngeke babone lutho olubi kulo futhi baqhubeke nokuhlala ndawonye.
Chaza ngokucacile imingcele yalokho okuvunyelwe
Bheka ngaphakathi kuwe
Qhubeka nokusebenza ezintweni ezikhishwe lapho wenza umsebenzi owedlule. Zibuze umbuzo: Ngizizwa nginjani ngalesi sikhathi? Kungani lo mthetho ukhathaza kakhulu? Into ngayinye ingahlehlisa lesi sibalo ukusuka ku-1 kuye ku-10, okubonisa amandla emizwa eya nayo. Ngesikhathi sokuziguqula ngokuhumusha, unganquma imizwa eyisisekelo - akusona njalo ngentukuthelo yakhe. Imvamisa ngaphansi kwemaski yentukuthelo ifihla ukuthuka, ukwesaba noma ukuziqhenya. "Lapho umuntu esebenza ngale ndlela yokuthi uzizwe ungakhululekile, kithi lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi angawephula noma awela umngcele we-psychology of Hyona. Lapho usuphumelele lezi zinkinga, ungazikhulula ekufakweni okuthile futhi uphendule ngokwanele ezenzweni zabanye.
Khuluma kwesokudla
Ngikholwe, yingxenye encane yabantu abacasulayo ngamabomu, abanye bakwenza ngokungazi noma ababoni lutho olusolwa eMthethweni. Ngokumemezela imizwa yakho ngokuzwakalayo, unika umuntu ukuthi aqonde ukuthi umngcele akufanele ahambe yini. Akudingekile ukuthi kuhlaze i-interlocutor: Ukuveza ukuthi isihloko akusona ingxoxo ngqo naye, akanalo ulwazi olwanele ngengxoxo ephelele noma ucasulwa yimicabango yakhe - lokhu kuyacasula. "Angifuni ukuxoxa ngempilo yami yomuntu siqu nomunye umuntu, ngaphandle komlingani. Ake sikhethe esinye isihloko sengxoxo? " - Isisho esinjalo esingathathi hlangothi osichaza kahle izinhloso zakho futhi ungavumeli imizwa yomunye umuntu.
Zizwe ngomuntu okhululekile Khipha umunyu wakho
Susa umthwalo wemfanelo wemizwa yomunye umuntu. I-psychology ye-interlocutor ingaphakathi kwamakhono ayo, hhayi okwakho. Ngobudlelwano obunempilo, umlingani noma umzali ngeke abe nombuzo wokuthi yini ungayenqaba ukwenza noma utshele okuthile - kuthathwa njenge-axiom. Ngabe uhlala ngenye indlela? Ake ungitshele umuntu ngemizwa yakho futhi wavumela isikhathi sokucabanga ngalesi simo - uzokuqonda ukuthi wayephutha futhi akabe esakucindezela.
Ucabangani? Ngabe uzizwa kanjani ngokuphulwa kwemingcele yakho?