Ukudala inyunyana eqinile kungumsebenzi omkhulu ebudlelwaneni. Kepha uyabona, thola umuntu ozoba "nguyenjalo", onenkinga impela. Imvamisa sikhetha ukukhetha esikhundleni sabesilisa, nakanjani impela asinakudina, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye ukwakha ubuhlobo obujwayelekile nabo - elinye imfuno. Kungani sidonsela amadoda athi "okungalungile", obani obekuvame ukuba khona ubuhlobo cishe? Lesi sithi nanamuhla futhi sithola.
Sifuna "ukuyeka"
"Kubi" umfana "uhlala engalindeleki: akunankinga nokwenza lokho okufunayo njengamanje. Lokhu kuhlazisa iningi labesifazane abaningi, ukuthi izizathu ezithile ziqhutshwa ngohlaka lwempilo yasendlini nezenhlalo. Indoda enjalo ithembisa inkululeko emingceleni, owesifazane kulula kakhulu ukumphuthuma kuleli khanda lakhe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, eqinisweni, ngaphezu kokuvezwa okucacile okunikezwa umuntu onjalo, ngokwesibonelo, kungenzeka kube yi-daffodil, hhayi ukukhombisa uzwela kwabanye futhi asebenzise kalula abantu ngezinjongo zawo. Owesifazane ozothandana konke lokhu akuboni ngenxa yezinqubo ezithile zamakhemikhali ezenzeka ekhanda lakhe. Kepha lapho imizwa "ikhishwe", lona wesifazane ufika ethukuthele ayenawo ukuze abekezelele eduzane.
Awuzethembi
Njengomthetho, owesimame onokuzithemba okuphansi, uvame ukubhekana nenkinga yendoda ejabulisa ngokushesha. Owesifazane onjalo angaqiniseka ukuthi wakhipha ithikithi elijabulisayo, kanti elinye, umlingani omuhle ngokwengeziwe akakhanyi, ngenxa yokuthi "umfana omubi" uba yisizinda sendawo yonke. Uyazi ngakho futhi uyakujabulela njalo.
Owesifazane onothando ulungele ukubeka abaningi
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Awazi ukuthi udinga ubani
Olunye uhlobo lwabesifazane abathola kalula izicupho "zabafana ababi" ngowesifazane ongamazi ukuthi ubani futhi udinga lokho. Kungaba ebudlelwaneni nendoda engahambelani ngokuphelele, akafuni ukumkhuthazelela kakhulu, iyahamba, kepha kungekudala uthola umlingani uma kungenjalo. Kubalulekile ukuziqonda ngokwakho ukuthi yini oyifunayo kumuntu, futhi yini engasoze yabekwa. Usuvele ucindezele lezi zindlela, ungafuna umlingani ofanele ukwakha ubuhlobo obuqinile.
Ufuna ukunaka wena
Okuxakile ngokwanele, lesi yisizathu esithandwa kakhulu esenza owesimame aphuthume ebudlelwaneni bezinkinga. Imvamisa indoda, eyayingenakwenzeka ukubekezelela empilweni yansuku zonke, iphenduke noma yimuphi umuntu wesifazane, kusukela emphakathini uhlala engaphambili, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ungaqapheli. Owesifazane ulungele ukubekezelela noma yimiphi imizwa engemihle, ukube kukhona abanye abesifazane abagwinya kuphela lapho kuvela khona labalwana. Kodwa-ke, abesifazane abanjalo kufanele baxwayiswe - indoda - embi isazohamba, futhi kuzofanela uphulukise amanxeba angokomzwelo, cishe, ngokuzibandakanya kochwepheshe.