Abamele izikole ezahlukahlukene zezengqondo kanye nezindlela zokusondela ziyaguqukela, kepha ngokweqiniso ukuthi yini: izinhlaka ezintathu ezihlala kithi, izingxenye zobuntu bethu. Sikhuluma ngengane, umzali nomuntu omdala. Basho umuntu ovumelanayo, ojabulayo nguyena ongiseLada nazo zonke lezi zingxenye zawo zontathu, ngaphezu kokuphumula esikhundleni somuntu omdala. Kepha, njengoba ukuzijwayeza, ngisho nabantu bezolile bangaphandle futhi abavumelanayo ngalo mqondo akulula. Ngakho-ke ungavuswa kanjani kuwe "uhlakaniphile"? Uzosiza inqubo yokuqalisa.
Ukuqaliswa yigama elilodwa elinomugqa okwaziwayo "osuselwa kwimiklamo yomibili - iTatin Inithoum, okungukuthi," isiqalo ". Kumayelana nokuqala - izigaba ezintsha zokuphila - futhi kuzoxoxwa ngazo ezintweni zethu zanamuhla. "Yini engaba yimfihlakalo noma inkinga lapha?" - Uyabuza. Kuliqiniso, ngoba sonke siyazi lezi zigaba: Wonke umuntu uhlangabezana nezinguquko ezivela esigabeni esisodwa kuya kwesinye, ukubhekana kubi futhi kuqhubeka ...
Maye, kepha lokhu akunjalo njalo. Abanye bethu banamathele ebuntwaneni isikhathi eside, bangalokothi bafunde ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Abanye bawela kokunye okweqisayo futhi kubazali bazama ukulawula okwabo (futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - kanye nomunye umuntu!) Isenzo somunye umuntu, ngokufana, ngenxa yokuhlupheka ngenxa yokuqwashisa okukhona Hhayi uNkulunkulu, futhi ugcine konke okulawulwa kungaphumi). Asikhuli ngendlela yangempela, yonke indlela yethu ehlala "intombazane", "mama", "baba" noma "ndodana". Ukuze kwesinye isikhathi nalezi zinhlaka, akukho lutho olungalungile. Vele ukhumbule ukuthi yini okufanele uphile ngokugcwele ukudala ikusasa lakho, yenza isinqumo, iphutha, ukuqaphela lokhu bese uqhubeka nengxenye yakho "yabantu abadala". Ngaphandle kokuhlola, weba amathuba amaningi futhi unganaki amandla akho amakhulu. Kepha ukusho: "Movers!" - Easy, kepha ukulenza kube lula ngempela. Lapha kusizo futhi kuza ukusungulwa okuningi, okungukuthi, inqubo yokuguqulwa komuntu ngamunye kuya ezingeni elisha lentuthuko.
Yima phambi kwami ...
Esikucabangayo namuhla kubonakala ngathi okokuqala ngqa, abanakekeli bethu abakhulu nabangane bethu bamunca lokho okubizwa ngokuthi, ngobisi lukamama. Waqalisa, wabe esebaqasha. Isiko lokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu kwakungubhapathizo (futhi phambilini - ukwethulwa komunye, enye inkolo): Ngakho-ke kuphela ingane eyazalwa evela kumuntu oyisixazululo oyisisekelo, yona kanye inguquko yomuntu osesigabeni .
Abanye abantu ngakho konke impilo yabo futhi bahlala endimeni yezingane
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Sinolwazi oluningi mayelana nokuqalwa kwezingane ezisebuthweni yentsha, bese kuba khona kubantu abadala. Lokhu kubonakala sengathi kugoqwa zonke izinganekwane zonke esizaziyo. Vele ukhumbule: "Morozko", "Intombi yeqhwa", "Ubuhle beqhwa", "uCsarevna-Frog", "Cinderella" ... Ngazo zonke izinhlaka zeziza ze-kernel, ama-undenhed, amaqhawe amancane kakhulu adlula akhamnya, Kwesinye isikhathi izivivinyo ezinesihluku, zisho kahle ubuntwana babo obunemibandela ukuze bazalwe kabusha ngesimo esihlukile - indoda endala wonke amabhonasi ngenxa yakhe (imvamisa ngesimo somshado ojabulisayo). Lawa mabhonasi eza kubo nobunzima obukhulu, hhayi ngoba nje sekufikile isikhathi namaqhawe afeze inani elifanele leminyaka. Kwenzeka futhi ukuthi okunye kokuqalwa kwenziwa, futhi, maye, ngeke kuphile okunye (lokhu kumane nje "yinto yeqhwa eyaziwayo").
Esikufundayo ezincwadini kwenziwa okhokho bethu eqinisweni, nakweminye imiphakathi yendabuko manje nangom. Ngenkathi impucuko yanamuhla inika izakhamizi zayo zesimanjemanje futhi inikeze amandla okuvota, izizwe zase-Afrika kanye naseMelika ziqala izingane zazo ngosizo lwezinqubo eziyingozi futhi ezicishe zibe njalo. Kukholakala ukuthi, ukunqoba ukwesaba nobuhlungu, ingane iqhubekela phambili esinyathelweni esilandelayo, "Ukubulala" kuyakuzithobeka nokunikeza ukuqala kwempilo entsha, yabantu abadala.
Kodwa-ke, akuwona wonke amasiko eshintsheni kusuka esimweni kuya esimweni esingemnandi futhi kubuhlungu. Ngakho-ke, siyazazi imicikilisho yeSlavic ye-idiot (ukuguqulwa kwamantombazane ngesimo sentombazane) noKalita (ukuqala kwabafana ezinsizweni): Intsha yaqoqa ndawonye, yazibuza, yalinganiswa ngamabutho namakhono, ngasese, okwabelwana ngakho.
"Angazi ukuthi kungani, kepha ngemuva kwabapheki banawe ngizwa umfazi wangempela!" - Ngandlela thile washo inkampani yethu uMarusya. Wake washonelwa ngumama, wakhulela nobaba onothando, kodwa kwakukuhle kakhulu ngezeluleko ezithile zabesifazane kanye nengcindezelo ngakho-ke wayehlale ephendula obilini ezohlangana. Imihlangano yethu ayizange ihluke ezintombini ezijwayelekile ezinezintombi ezijwayelekile ezinezintombi: inhlebo, ukubuka amahlaya othando ... othile wabopha amabinzana, wabe eselangazelela amabinzana, wabe eselala ekhaya. Ngamazwi, akukho lutho olungajwayelekile - kepha eMarus "engafundile", eyancishwa lelo thuba lokuchitha isikhathi kusihlwa nonina nabangane bayo, ama-bachelide enza njengezinhlelo zezemithizo. Lokhu kuyaqondakala, ngoba empeleni akuhunyushwanga "kusukela ngesimo sentombazane, naphezu kokuthi uMarku ekhule amadodana amabili, lapho kanye nomyeni wakhe bengazange banakekele imiphefumulo. Imihlangano nezintombi kancane kancane yamsiza ukuba 'avuthwe' ezihlokweni ezithi "mama" kanye "nonkosikazi."
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bayazethemba: Namuhla, bangene empilweni yocansi futhi ukuzalwa kwezingane akuhlali njalo "ukuhumusha" umuntu ezingeni elisha. Kubonakala sengathi: Awuseyena umfana, kepha umyeni wami (futhi uvame ukuba ngubaba), ngoba unowesifazane nengane, kepha le nto eyodwa, kodwa naleyo nto, ehlukile ngokuphelele. Umphakathi wethu, wethula ngokulaka 'ezinsukwini zesikhathi esedlule' namasiko aso, ukuntula kakhulu amasiko namasiko. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngaphezu kwencazelo yomlingo nengcwele, wonke umuntu onelungelo lokukhuthazela noma angawusebenzisi ngesiko, elinethuba elinye ... Vele ulungiselele ushintsho olukhulu.
Kubukeka sengathi kulungiswe ngokunembile futhi kuyinto esemqoka kwinqubo ebaluleke kangaka yokuqalisa. "Uyazi, ngangingakulungele ukuba ubaba nakancane!" - U-Oleg wakhalaza ngami ngandlela thile. Nomkakhe, babefuna ingane isikhathi eside kakhulu, wazama, wagijimela odokotela, funda izincwadi eziningi. Kepha u-Oleg akazange enzeke kule ndaba kule ndaba. Kamuva Yena uqobo wakhuluma ngalokhu: "Angikwazi ngokuphelele ukuthi yiziphi lezi zingane. Angikaze ngiyigcine ingane ezandleni. Akakaze asiza noma ngubani nezingane. Ngisho nemidlwane namakati akunandaba! Lapho umzali esenzekile, ngazibuza eTerra Incognita emehlweni avaliwe, futhi lokhu yize kuneqiniso lokuthi kubonakala sengathi yinqwaba yakho konke. " Futhi u-Oleg, ngeshwa, akakwazanga ukukhuluma ngakho nonina nobaba wakhe, ngoba kusenesikhathi kwentandane.
Ngisho nokuba khona komshado nezingane akukuqinisekisi lokho. ukuthi wena "dorosli" endimeni yomzali
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Kuvame ukwenzeka nabazali abaphilayo. Ngenxa yobunzima ekuxhumaneni nesizukulwane esithi "obaba" futhi ngaphandle kwama-rites akhethekile, izinsizwa izolo namantombazane zihamba ngokweqiniso ngokuthinta, hhayi ukubona ukuthi ziphila izigaba zokuphila. Ngenhlanhla, eminye yalomthwalo wemfanelo ithathe umphakathi wonke: Sithi sawubona enkulisa futhi siye esikoleni, khona-ke ucingo lokugcina lusikhalela eyunivesithi, ngemuva kokungena eyunivesithi, bese ngisebenza. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi izinqubo zokutshala azikwazi ukuqhathaniswa nezinqubo zokuhlalisana kwabantu, bese umfundi izolo uhamba ngesimo "somfundi waphakade" futhi ngaphandle kokulunga umzuzu we-mat weqiniso. Ake sibheke ukuthi kuyini nokuthi ungazisiza kanjani uye esigabeni esisha.
Umuntu oqinile futhi omkhulu
Adult - Ubani kuwe? Ngicabanga ngokushesha isibalo esinamandla kakhulu, sizolile futhi sinamandla ngokulinganisela, sihle, siqinile futhi sizinzile kakhulu. Vumelana, kuhle lapho othile evikelwa futhi aziphatha kahle. Futhi mabi kangakanani ukulahlekelwa ngumeluleki onjalo! Kepha udinga ukuvuma: Kungekudala noma kamuva umuntu wethu omkhulu futhi ohlakaniphile (abazali abavame kakhulu kule ndima) beyeka ukuziphatha. Bese kuthi lapho ithuba lethu livela ukuthatha lo mthwalo wemfanelo. Ibhekele impilo yabo futhi iqukethe umongo okhulayo. Ingane yethu yangaphakathi ayicabangi ngakho konke, indima yakhe ukuveza izifiso namaphupho ethu, jabulani futhi umangele. Kepha ingxenye yomzali yempilo yethu ayisho impendulo yakhe; Ufuna ukulawula, aqondise futhi ahambisane nabanye. Ubuntu obukhula ngokweqiniso bukwazi ukuhlela ngaphandle kwedrama nokukhathazeka futhi bamukele imiphumela yezenzo zabo.
Kwangibonakala sengathi nginglangaze kimi ukuthi ngingu "omkhulu"! Nginemisebenzi eminingi kakhulu, imisebenzi eminingi yansuku zonke namacala. Futhi muva nje, ngabona ukuthi 'izenzo' zami 'ziyizindaba zezihlobo zami nabathandekayo abadinga usizo lwami. Le ndaba evamile: imvamisa enomthwalo wemfanelo wangaphandle futhi oqoqweyo kungcono "abazali." Zivikela futhi ziyakha, zivikele futhi zihole wonke umuntu azungeze, ngaphandle kwazo. Umphumela wale ndaba ungomunye: Ngokushesha unamandla, futhi impilo yakho ngeke ibe nalutho ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngomakhelwane. Lapho esimweni esinjalo ngaphandle kwedrama nokukhathazeka!
Kukhona ezinye izibonelo. Umngani wami uChristina uyisibonelo esibonakalayo sengane emzimbeni wowesifazane omdala (naphezu kwezingane zakhe ezintathu). NgokukaChristina, wonke umuntu kufanele amsize, ngoba ungumama ongayedwa, ngisho nantathu! Uma usizo lungaphendukeli, zonke izindawo ezizungezile ezazingakwazi ukubalwa, ziba necala lokuhluleka kwakhe. Wonke umuntu uphoqekile ukuba angene esikhundleni sakhe, aqonde, athethelele, anikele.
Mina noChristina - abameleli ababili abaqhakazile hhayi isizwe esivuthiwe, okudingeka sibe nesimo "sabantu abadala". Futhi kuneminyaka yobudala nangobudala, nakwezimfanelo zangaphandle (izingane, amakati, amadoda nokunye impilo). Futhi njengathi, izinkulungwane. Ngakho-ke ungaba kanjani?
Okokuqala, qaphela isimo sakho nesimo sangempela sezinto. Ungaba ubaba omkhulu ongakaze waba yindoda, owesifazane ongaphansi kweminyaka engamashumi amahlanu ezama ukulawula isiphetho sabanye abantu, insizwa encane kakhulu, ngaphambi kwawo umhlaba omusha omuhle. Into eyodwa kubalulekile: Uyakuqonda ukuthi ngasizathu simbe 'awukhokhi intela ngempilo yakho.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuqonda ukuthi ngaphandle kwezenzo ezithile ngeke zenzeke ekukhulisweni okufunwa kakhulu. Akumangalisi emiphakathini yendabuko ukusungulwa kobuhlungu bomzimba. Ngakho-ke abazali bavikela izingane zabo ngokomoya, bezilungiselela impilo ehlukile. Khumbula okuvame ukusenza sibe namandla? Iqiniso lokuthi lacishe laphula kanye. Angikuniki ukuthi uphendukele ngokuphuthumayo emasikweni anegazi, kepha nginaka kakhulu: kuyaba umuntu omdala, kuyadingeka ukuthi kuvale isimo ebuntwaneni, futhi kwesinye isikhathi akusuki nje futhi kube nzima.
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuyeka ukusola abanye abantu esimweni sabo sezinto. Yebo, kwenzeka ukuthi imvelo icubungule ngempela ikusasa lethu. Kodwa ngokuphelele akunasiqiniseko benza indaba yakho! Yenza izinqumo zokwenza izinqumo nsuku zonke. Makube yinto encane ngokuphelele, engenanjongo (ekuqaleni): ukukhetha kwezingubo, izindlela ozoya emsebenzini, umgwaqo, isidlo sakusihlwa, osilungiselela zona. Funda hhayi nje ukwenza isinqumo, kodwa futhi wamukele imiphumela yako, uqonde ubungozi obunokwenzeka.
Zama ukuthola ukuzimela kwezezimali. Lesi yisici esibaluleke kakhulu sokukhula. Ukuhlela isabelomali, impilo, ngaphandle kwezikweletu nemalimboleko ongakwazi ukuvala - uphawu lobuntu obuvuthiwe.
Funda ukubala ngokwakho, ngenkathi ungesabi ukucela usizo. Ngasikhathi sinye, ngokushesha sishiya isithombe seSuperchel: Ukuhle kakhulu ukuthi wazi kahle ukuthi yini ongabhekana nanoma yisiphi isimo, kepha uyaqonda ukuthi uzodinga ukubiza abangane nabathandekayo, futhi unganqikazi ukukwenza .
Ekugcineni, beka izintshisekelo zakho esahlukweni. Ngalesi sikhathi kunamaphoyinti amabili abalulekile okufanele kuvunyelwane ngalo. Okokuqala, izintshisekelo zakho kufanele zikukhonze wena. Uma "uthumela" ngalaba bazali noma owakwakheni, ingxenye yakho "yezingane ivumelekile. Okwesibili, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi wenzeni ngendlela ofuna ngayo, kakhulu (!) Kunzima. Vimbela umuzwa wokuba ngumsebenzi nomqondo wecala, ukusilandela ezithendeni futhi ujwayelene kakhulu nabantu abasesimweni "sabazali". Ukuze ufunde, udinga ukuzijwayeza. Kukhona ithuba lokwenza indlela ofuna ngayo? Ungacabangi!
Enye yezindlela zokuqalisa ezinamandla kubhekwa njengezinwele!
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Ngaphambi kokugxuma
Futhi yini ukuqala? Yini anayo lapha? Ukuxhumana Direct: Ukuqalwa yindaba mayelana nokuqeqeshwa, mayelana nokuqongelelwa kanye nokutholwa kwamabutho, mayelana nokuthola amandla phezu kwakhe nasempilweni yakhe. Ngokusobala, ngemuva kokuba namandla, namandla, yiba ngabantu abadala - kuphela udaba lwesikhathi.
Kuyiqiniso, inkulumo manje ayihambi ngamasiko nemilingo, okuthi, ngokubona ngokokhokho, bekufanele ngabe yayingumlingo ukuguqula umfana endodeni, kodwa intombazane kowesifazane. Kepha ngokuphelele ngaphandle kwawo ngeke akwenze. Kubalulekile ukukhetha ukuthi kuzokusebenzela ini. Enye yezindlela zokuqalisa ezinamandla kubhekwa njengezinwele! Yebo, yebo, uhambo olujwayelekile lokuya enamba izinwele. Awukaze uqaphele ukuthi i-hairstyle entsha ikunikeza umuzwa omusha wakho, unikeza amathuba amasha nezifiso? Indlela yomsebenzi walesi "siko" ilula: Uthethelelwe esikhathini esedlule, usike yonke into endala, ethosiwe futhi engadingekile, azihlelele ezenzweni ezazingakakulungeli ngaphambili, - futhi manje usuvele ulindile isiphetho sakho. Kungakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ulalele izifiso zezingane nentsha efuna ukuzama ukubukeka: Ukungabikho kwezinye izindlela zendabuko ukuya esimweni esisha sokushintsha kwesithombe - inguqulo esebenzayo.
Okunye okusolwa ngokuthi "umlingo", futhi empeleni kufakwe kakhulu futhi ngendlela eqondakalayo "ukuhlanzwa" okunemibandela. Khumbula ukuthi okhokho bethu babingelela banibingelela kubhavu. Lapha okwamukelwa kwezingane futhi kwabeletha, balungiselela yonke imicimbi ebalulekile, noma ngabe kwakungumshado noma umngcwabo wezihlobo. Usunesikhathi esingakanani kubhavu, eSauna, yebo, vele ukhishwe endlini yokugezela, kodwa ukuze kungabikho muntu ekuphazamisayo? Hlela olunjalo ngosuku.
Imihlangano ebalulekile enabantu abanomqondo ofanayo. Kuvele kushiwo ama-bachelides e-bachelides anokwelapha ngokweqiniso. Usendaweni enhle, eduze kwalabo abakulungele ukusiza futhi ulalele, wena "uya emhlabathini" futhi uzizwe ubuhle bomzuzu - kanye nalokhu kubukeka, imibuthano inika amandla nesifiso sokuphila.
Ekugcineni, kulabo abafuna ukuqalisa phansi ngangokunokwenzeka, yimihlabe nezindlela ezingeqile (Yebo, khumbula ukuphepha!). Intombi yami yokukhanya ngandlela thile wazama uBunji-jumping. Lokhu kugxuma phansi kusuka ekuphakameni okuphezulu ngentambo ende enjoloba, ukugxuma ngokoqobo kube yize. USvetlana uthe bekuyisinyathelo esifiswa kakhulu futhi esinembile kunazo zonke empilweni yakhe. Lapho unesisindo sonke ubungozi, ushiywe wedwa ngokwesaba, wakwazi ukuzihlalisa njengomuntu osemdala, eshiya umntwana owayeyinganele ngemuva.
Eqinisweni, akubalulekile kakhulu ukuthi isiko lakho lokuqalisa lizoba. Izikhathi lapho amasiko alawulwa futhi akhathalele wonke umuntu, futhi manje singakwazi ukukhetha okulungele thina. Pre-Wedding Party? Izifundo zobaba abancane? Ukuphumula edolobhaneni ngaphandle kwezingcingo nama-laptops? Iya eTibet? Izithembiso zithule noma zilungiswe ngezandla zakho? Into esemqoka ukuthi indlela oyikhethayo ikuholele kuwe - okuqinile, okuzolile futhi okwazi ukuphatha impilo yakho.
Zisize - Kanjani?
Ake sibheke leyongxenye yakho edinga ukunakekelwa nothando. Lapho sivuma kithina esinomuntu okufanele sikuvikele, umuntu omdala uya ngokuya ebaluleke kakhulu.
Gcina umkhondo wokuthi yini ukuxhumana okuxhumana nayo ... ngokwazo. Khumbula ukuthi uzisho kanjani nokuthi ngokwakho lapho kukhona ukwehluleka. Abayisishiyagalombili kwabayishumi nathi bayazibizela, banomusa futhi bagxeka. Ungavumeli isimo sengqondo esinjalo ngokwakho (yebo kuwe!). Zizolile futhi zithambe.
Ngemuva kokuziyeka, yeka ukukwenza nabanye. Ukusesha okunecala - uphawu lomuntu ongavuthiwe, ozama ukuguqula ingxenye yokuzibophezela kwakhe komunye. Iqiniso lihlala liyiqiniso: noma ngabe uthola "i-villain", ngeke kukusize ubhekane nalo msebenzi.
1. Ingane . Ezikoleni ezahlukahlukene nasezindleleni, ngezindlela ezihlukile, lena yingxenye yakho ebhekele amandla okuphupha, ukufisa, ukujabula futhi kumnandi. Ingxenye yezingane iqondiswa yisenzo esithi "Ngifuna." Yanelisa njalo "i-WishList" yengane yangaphakathi.
2. Umzali. Izinhlobo zabazali kithi zihlukile - zombili ziqinile, zigxeka, zilawule kabi izifiso zezingane zethu, futhi zihlakaniphile, zokwemukela, zisekele. Isenzo somzali "siyadingeka."
3. Umdala. Ekugcineni, lowo olinganise kahle ubudlelwano bezingane zethu zangaphakathi nabazali uyakha futhi uyaphatha, ahlole amandla futhi ahlaziye - umuntu wethu wangaphakathi. Isenzo sakhe singukuthi "Ngiyakwazi": Njengabantu abadala, sazi kahle ukuthi yini abakwaziyo, nokuthi kungcono ukwenqaba.