Abazali bezingane ezindala bavame ukubhekiswa kimi: Ungazithatha kanjani uma izingane zabo zikhula, ziphila ngokwahlukana, zilungile. Bafuna ukubasiza - futhi izindlalifa zenqaba ukusiza futhi ukuyeka ukuxhumana nakancane.
Umama ucasulwe, ubaba ucasukile, abazali bafuna ukuhlanganyela empilweni yezingane njengakuqala - futhi abavunyelwe. Awuthandi? Akudingeki? Okufanele ngikwenze?
Futhi empeleni - ukwenza? Siboshwe ngokuqinile eshadini lezingane lempilo nge-kindergarten, isikole, iholide, imibuthano, amakamelo, ukuthi lapho izingane zikhula, kusukela empilweni yethu kube sengathi zithatha umphefumulo omkhulu, bese zithatha umphefumulo.
Kubukeka sengathi kujabulise ukujabula: Insimbi ezimele, ekhulile, ingenziwa ngokwazo - akudingekile ukuya lapho kunesidingo khona, nalapho ngifuna ukufunda engikufunayo khona, futhi lapho ngifuna khona ukuthi ngifuna ukushaya ini ngokujwayelekile. Futhi angifuni ukuya noma kuphi, futhi akufundwanga, futhi akusebenzi kokungenzi lutho. Impilo, evamile, evamile, eyayijwayelekile, ehlakazekile, futhi kubukeka sengathi akunakwenzeka ukuyifaka.
Futhi akucaci ukuthi ubudlelwano nomyeni wakhe buzokwakhiwa kanjani manje ... bese kucacile - mama \ baba, futhi manje kanjani? Hhayi-ke, kuyacaca: Indlu, izihlobo, impahla, ungowakhe, izihlobo ... bese-ke? Uphile Njengokungathi ngenxa yezingane, manje obani? Futhi wonke umuntu uqala ukubheka intshisekelo yawo - futhi imvamisa engena emndenini.
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Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu: Akukacaci ukuthi ungazibona kanjani kahle? Phambilini, kungenzeka ukuthi uxoshele enganeni - impilo yakhe, izilinganiso, ukunakekela. Kwakunezindlela okungenani ezithile: "Umama omuhle", "ubaba omuhle". Kuphela manje lolu hlelo lokuhlola luyeka ukusebenza - "iphuzu lesethenjwa" alikho.
Kwenzekani kuwe ibizwa nge- "Empty Nest Syndrome". Okokuqala, kusobala, kuthinta abesifazane - ngemuva kwakho konke, umamatha ubhekwa njengendima enkulu yabesifazane, noma ngabe uMama uyasebenza noma uhlanganyela kuphela endlini. Kepha abababa bangaba nzima ngalesi sikhathi - ikakhulukazi uma befakwe ngokuqinile empilweni yomndeni futhi babambe iqhaza ngenkuthalo ekukhulisweni.
Lesi sikhathi esinzima empilweni yomndeni singadlula ngokujwayelekile - ngokuya Ezinye izincomo ezilula.
Ngakho-ke, owokuqala. Bheka indlela yakho, khumbula amaphupho akho, izifiso, izinhloso, izinhloso - bese uqala ukuhlanganisa impilo! Zibhalele uhlu lwezifiso zakho. Manje usunesikhathi sokukhuluma nabangane, khumbula obekuthanda ukukwenza, kepha kwakungekho sikhathi esanele. Noma mhlawumbe uzothatha isinqumo sokuvuselela imfundo? Bese uqala imisebenzi emisha yobungcweti?
-Lekayo . Uma (njengoba ucabanga) kuphela izingane ezazihlangene, manje sekuyisikhathi sokuhlangana futhi! Zinike isikhathi sokufundana - futhi kulokhu kungajabulisa kakhulu kini nobabili. Nobuhlobo bakho noma uzothola "ukuphefumula kwesibili", noma wena, njengombhangqwana, sizohlukana, njengoba sebenzile. Yebo, futhi kwenzeka, kepha uthola ithuba lokukwenza ngokuthula nangomuzwa wokuhloniphana nokubonga isikhathi esihlala ndawonye.
Izingane zakho zakhula, zona zingaba ngabazali - futhi lokhu kujwayelekile
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-Esithathu Futhi mhlawumbe into enzima kakhulu - funda ukulalela. Ukulalela nje umlingani wakho noma ingane yakho endala ukukutshela - futhi wenze lesi simo ngokufanele. Thanda lokhu? Ungalwelwe ukududuza, ukusiza noma ukululeka uma umlingani noma izingane zimane zihlanganyela. Ukudonswa, buza ukuthi ngabe kuyadingeka yini ukusiza - futhi uma kungadingekile (okungukuthi, usizo aluceliwe), ingasisizi.
Okwesine . Uma uphendula ngokomoya ngokwemibandela yezemicimbi yokuphila futhi ukhohlise ukuzama ukuthola ukunakwa okuningi, kuvela okuphambene. Cabanga uma udinga ukunaka indlela enobungozi?
Esihlanu . Ingane noma umlingani angakwazi (futhi akufanele) abe nesibopho sokungaphatheki kahle ngokomzwelo. Nalokhu - kuchwepheshe. Vele udlulise esinye isigaba esibalulekile empilweni: Uhlukaniswe nengane, futhi uvela kuwe.
Zizwe ukudabuka nosizi lapho ukwahlukana kujwayelekile ngokuphelele. Ukuze uze ngokuphelele kuwe, ungadinga eyodwa nesigamu noma iminyaka emibili. Vumela ubhukude, thatha lezi zinguquko - bese ubuyela empilweni ejwayelekile.