Vuma, abantu banenkathi ehlukile enjalo nezinhloso ezifanayo empilweni. Eminyakeni engu-3, ngokuqinisekile kubonakala sengathi kuyinto esemqoka - ukuthola isipho sonodoli esifanayo noma typewriter kusuka ekukhangiseni, ngo-7 - ukuze kube ngumuntu omuhle kakhulu, bese yonke into iyisidina kuphela - iqeda iyunivesithi, iqeda Isikhundla esidumile, ukushada ngempumelelo futhi sixoxisane ngezingane ezinempilo nezinhle. Futhi kuphela eminyakeni engama-60 kuphela, lapho isigaba esisebenza kakhulu sokuphila ngemuva, siyama futhi sicabange: Yini esingake saye nayo futhi yini ongathanda ukuyenza?
Iminyaka yobudala inselelo ye-psychology
Emcabangweni, kuphakanyiswa ukuthi le nkinga yeminyaka engu-3 ihlotshaniswa nokwakhiwa kwemibono yakhe, lapho ingane isho ilungelo lokuthi "Mina" futhi lisho izifiso nokungabaza. Eminyakeni engu-7, kwenzeka inhlekelele yemisebenzi ehlobene nokuqala kwemfundo yesikole, ngo-14 - inhlekelele yemvelo, ngo-23 - imisebenzi, ngo-25-30 - amaphupho ayiqiniso, ngo-60 - amaphupho ayiqiniso, ngo-60 - amaphupho angempela kokuthi umuntu uphile impilo yakhe kahle. Ungakubona lokhu ezinganeni ngesimo sezinzwa, futhi kubantu abadala - emzameni wokushintsha isimo, umlingani, umsebenzi noma yini, ukubalekela nje, ngoba noma iyiphi inkinga ingumonakalo wokuzethemba kwethu kanye nendlela ejwayelekile yempilo.
Okufanele ukwenze uma usondelene nenhlekelele
"Bengikufuna kube ngcono, kepha kwenzeka njalo njalonjalo," Le nkulumo ingabonisa ukukhathazeka kwezihlobo nemizamo yokusiza umuntu oshayisana nenkinga ekhona. Uma ubona ukuthi umngani wakho, umyeni, ingane ibuzwa futhi izama ukuchitha isikhathi yedwa yedwa, mnikeze leli thuba. Siza ezindabeni zasekhaya futhi umyeke adlule amathemba angagcwaliseki. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma ebuza, ungakha uhlelo olusha lwesenzo ndawonye bese unquma ukuthi yiziphi izinyathelo ezidingekayo ukuze uzuze izinhloso.
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Kufanelekile ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo
Sihlala sibona ukuthi uthintana nodokotela. Isazi sezengqondo siyadingeka kuwo wonke umuntu, ngoba noma yimuphi umuntu uzoba nokulimala kwezingane, okuhlangenwe nakho kobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo noma abahlangene phakathi kwesimo sabo sangaphakathi nangaphandle. Kulezi zikhathi, ukubonisana kuzokusiza ubheke inkinga yamehlo abanye abantu, bese unquma ukudlula indawo yokunethezeka bese uzama okuthile okusha. Njengalesi sigaba, ubalulekile ukufaka ukusekelwa kwabathandekayo futhi ubachazele ukuthi manje udlula esigabeni senguquko.