Amantombazane anesizotha adala amacala emadodeni, okuphambene noPawuli afuna ukuzungeza intombazane enjalo ngokunakekela nokuvikela enkingeni, kodwa uma umuntu uqobo unamahloni, isimo sihluke ngokuphelele. Indoda okunzima ukukhombisa ukuthi isinyathelo futhi ayibandakanyeki maqondana nobudlelwano futhi imvamisa umsunguli ungumqalisi. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukuthi indoda enamahloni idinga ukucishwa: umlingani onesizotha uyakwazi imizwa ejulile futhi, njengomthetho, uzinikele esigamu sakhe, udinga nje ukwazi ukuthi ungasondela kanjani.
Ungakusungula kanjani oxhumana naye?
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungayihambisi le ndoda, futhi uma uwedwa intombazane enamandla, ucindezele inkambo ye-LEAME ilula kunokulula. Imvamisa, abafana abanamahloni banweba abesifazane abanezimfanelo zobuholi obumemezelwe, njengokwakha ubudlelwano lapho bobabili abalingani bengahambisani khona, bese nijabula. Futhi, amadoda alalelayo akhetha abesifazane okunzima ukulawula izigaxa zomhawu, yingakho umuntu odlayo ngeke afune ukufika ohlangothini - Inketho ephelele.
Ngakho-ke, imithetho esemqoka yokuxhumana nomuntu obucayi:
Indoda enjalo izungeza wena uyakhathalela
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Awekho amathoni abukhali
Uma nje uqala ukuhlangana, inhloso yakho eyinhloko ukufezekisa ukwethembana kwakhe, ngakho-ke zama ukugwema ukubonwa ngezigaba ne-notch ngezwi lami: indoda imane ivale futhi ingaqala ukukugwema. Futhi udinga ukuthi ivulwe ngokuphelele.
Ungajabuli phezu kwayo
Khumbula ukuthi akekho umuntu ozelwe enamahloni, lonke amaphutha ezimo ezithile esikhathini esidlule, ngakho-ke ukugconwa kwakho ngokuziphatha noma ukuvela komuntu kungenza umuntu aguqule umbono ngawe, futhi akufanele ukubale ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunye. Yiba yinto ebalulekile.
Mnike "ukuphefumula"
Amantombazane, athambekele kukho konke ukulawula futhi agcine isandla ekushayweni, angakwazi nje "ukugwaza" ngokunakekela kwawo futhi womile ukuthola ukuthi isikhathi sozakwethu sisikeke nini manje. Indoda akuyona impahla yakho, kufanele ibe nelungelo lokunquma ukuthi ufuna ukuchitha kanjani isikhathi - nawe noma nabangane.
Mnikeze ithuba
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Ungabi namhlambi ngokweqile
Yebo, amadoda athokozisa ukukhuluma nezindikimba ezisondelene, kepha konke kuncike kumuntu othize. Uma uyazi ukuthi ukungabikho kwakho kulula ukudida, awudingi ukubeka endaweni engenasisekelo, uma ufuna ukukwenza, ukukwenza ngokucophelela nangempela akukho okubi kakhulu kunokubeka indoda enesizotha esikhundleni sabantu abangenasisekelo kubantu.