Ngokwezibalo, ngaphezu kwengxenye yezisulu zodlame lwasekhaya lapho kuvela khona izinga lokuzithoba kwenqabe ukuzitholela okungokoqobo. Kubonakala kumuntu ukuthi isikhathi esingesihle empilweni yabo sizophela, empeleni kuyaqhubeka kuze kube yilapho idinga umlingani-umhlaseli. Ukuthola amandla okuphula ubuhlobo obunonya nobulimazayo kunzima kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma umuntu engabonanga isibonelo sobudlelwano obunempilo ngaphambili. Kepha uyakwazi ukubona umuntu okuzayo okungenzeka ukuthi akwenze ukucindezele, ngisho nangaphambi kokuba uqale ubuhlobo obungathi sína. Ungayenza kanjani? Sizotshela ngalokhu namhlanje futhi sitshele.
Akukho nhlonipho ku-pair yakho
Ngokufanelekile, kukhona inhlonipho, kepha umlingani wakhe uyamdinga, kancane kancane ngasikhathi sikhombisa inhlonipho ngawe. Umbono womlingani wesisulu akakaze abhekwe kuphela ngoba okuvelele akudingekile, umgomo wawo ukudela futhi ucindezele umlingani obuthakathaka. Indoda enjalo iyisithulu emizweni yowesifazane wayo futhi noma yimuphi umlingani ovela kumlingani icindezelwe khona manjalo - ngemuva kwakho konke unelungelo lokuvota kumbhangqwana kuphela.
Ayikho Ingxoxo
Njengoba nje sithi, kunezwi likaTirana kuphela lokuvota, ngenxa yalokho, njengomthetho, azikho izingxoxo eziku-pair. Esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwano, indoda enjalo izama ukusola ukuphaphama komuntu ohlukunyeziwe ongaba khona, uyazivumela ukuba izeluleko, kodwa ekugcineni, usazinqumo ngokwakhe. Lapho usondele kakhulu njengombhangqwana, okunamandla kuncipha "okubi". Ngesinye isikhathi, lona wesifazane uyakuqonda ukuthi uzocindezelwa ngokushesha.
Izisulu azanele ukwephula ubudlelwane obunjalo.
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Lawula yonke indawo
Indoda izama ukusungula amandla Akhe phezu kowesifazane, ihlala kusenesikhathi noma kamuva iqala ukuyilawula. Kubalulekile lapha ukuqonda ukuthi ngisho nokubuka nje, imiyalezo engenacala ekuthumela njalo ngemizuzu engamashumi amabili, lapho uphumula nabangane, izingcingo zokuqala ". Indoda ifundisa ukuthakazela kwakhe empilweni yakho njengendlela yokukuvikela futhi igcine enkingeni. Kepha inhloso yangempela yezinhloso zakhe uzokuqonda kamuva.
Abathandi bePhantom
Umaki wesilisa unesikhwele ngendlela emangalisayo. Noma yimuphi umbono ovela kumuntu wangaphandle umlingani uyisisusa - akabekezeleleki ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi ungashintshela komunye umuntu. Ukuphelelwa amandla kumuntu onjalo - into embi kunazo zonke engenzeka. Kungakho kuthuthukisa umbono okwanele wangempela kanye nokubukeka okusolisayo kakhulu kubo bonke ubudlelwano bakho namanye amadoda. Njengomthetho, indoda eyayihlaselwa indoda iqala ukukhombisa umhawu oqinile ezinyangeni zokuqala zobudlelwano.