"Ngisendaweni ethile enkulu esuswe ephathini. Kunabantu abaningi abahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi okunye engikujwayele. Ngithuthela kuleli qembu egumbini eliya egumbini: kwenye indawo ngiphuza, endaweni ethile ngixhumana, kwenye indawo imilutha, kwenye indawo. Kula makamelo engikhona, kepha angizizwa ngiyingxenye yalokhu kumnandi. Kwamanye amakamelo, ngiyesaba, kepha angishiyi, ngilinde isithandwa sami sangaphambili. Khumbula umuzwa wokulinda. Kamuva savutha kanyekanye kuleli qembu, kuqala ukukhanya. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, uyanyamalala ebusweni, ngiyamfuna, khona-ke ngithola abanye abantu engijwayelene, ekugcineni ngisongetheka ngaye kuleliphathi eliphelayo. Ngemuva kwalokho ekuseni, ngaphambi kokwehla kwezitebhisi eziphakathi nendawo, ngibona owayethandwa kakhulu, ehleli epanini. Uhlala, azingazi ngezandla zakhe futhi ehlise ikhanda phansi. Ngiyaqonda ukuthi kubi. Ngiya kuye, zama ukuhola nami. Uzoqala ukungangiboni, khona-ke uxosha futhi athi ngeke ahambe nomaphi kimi. "
Kwakuyiphupho elinjalo ukuthi othile wangitshela. Isibonelo esihle kakhulu nesibonakalayo!
Ukulala kukhombisa amaphupho ethu, lokho abona abesilisa: abandayo, abangafinyeleleki noma abalahlekile kwaphakade.
Lesi siqephu sitshela umfundi wethu, yiziphi iziphetho ezingenzile ezazenza ngabantu kanye.
Mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuhlangenwe nakho kwaso okwedlule kokuxhumana namadoda amakhulu, akazange ahluleke kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kokwenqatshwa noma ukudumazeka. Mhlawumbe wazama ukunqoba umuntu isikhathi eside, njengoba indoda esephusheni lakhe ayitholakali kuye, ayikwazi ukulondoloza ukuxhumana naye: khona-ke kufanele ilindile, khona-ke iyalila.
Abesifazane abanokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo kwentukuthelo eqoqiwe, ukwenyanya noma ukudumazeka, indoda akulula ukudala ubudlelwano obuthembekile nobuthembekile.
Ngenxa yokuqiniseka kwayo okungazi ukuthi amadoda anjalo - angafinyeleleki, abanda, ancibilikayo, athembekile, abesifazane ababoni ukuthi banweba kuphela emadodeni anjalo. Abanye ababambisene nabo babonisa isithakazelo, ukunakwa, ukunakekelwa, kubonakala benesidina futhi siqine. Njengamabhothi ebusuku andiza emaphikweni akhanyayo futhi aphazile amaphiko, abesifazane abanjalo abakuboni lokho kanyekanye kwenzeke kanye namadoda angawahleki, afezeke isimo sawo sengqondo sabo.
Mhlawumbe iphupho litshela iphupho lethu ngesimo sangempela sezinto. Iqiniso lokuthi kwakufanele lisinde eduze komuntu, nokuthi empeleni ungowabo manje. Kulokhu, lapho uzama ukudala ubudlelwano obusha, okuhlangenwe nakho kokudumazeka kwangaphambilini, ukwenyanya kanye nobunzima akuhambi ndawo. Ifihliwe kahle noma isikhashana ikhohliwe, kodwa ngethuba lokuqala, isilonda esidala sembula futhi.
Isikhathi sokucabanga kabusha kwesimo sakho sengqondo madoda, siphulukise amanxeba amadala eshawini ukuthi ngokwaso kungaba yinqubo enzima nengakaze ibonwe.
Kodwa-ke, kungahle kube kubalulekile uma ephupha ngobuhlobo obugcwele nobunothando. Kubalulekile ukuqeda okudala, okuqongelelwe ukulungiselela ukuxhumana okuthe xaxa, okuqondile nokuphelele nendoda okungafanele inqotshwe, ilawulwe noma ihlole ukumelana ebudlelwaneni. Ungakujabulela ukusondelana nenjabulo.
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UMaria Zemmskova, udokotela wezengqondo, udokotela wokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kwesikhungo sokukhulisa sokukhula kukaMarika Khazina