Abantu abathandanayo kanye nezazi zezengqondo ezifuna ukubona ukuthi bazuze kahle, bakholelwa ukuthi ubulili obusezingeni elishadile buyindlela yokuzwakala komunye nomunye futhi usondele. Yiluphi uhlobo lokusondela nokuxhumana okuphezulu, hhayi kuphela ngokomzimba, futhi nangokomzwelo.
Kodwa-ke, uma ubheka ngokucophelela, ungathola ukuthi ubulili abuhlali njalo ukuba ndawonye. Kwenzeka ukuthi le yindlela yokuhlukana. Ukulala amaphupho ethu kuyisibonelo esihle kakhulu.
Ngaphambi kokulala, ngalala nginomuzwa wokuthi ngithanda ubulili. Kepha umyeni wayematasa. Ngakho-ke walala, futhi iphupho liphupha kanjena: Mina nomyeni wami. Sineveni naye, i-la gazelle minibus. I-van imi emgwaqweni wedolobha, ifana kakhulu nedolobha lami lobuntwana, kodwa angikwazi ukukhomba ngokuqinisekile. Mina nomyeni wami sengiya ocansini kuleveni. Sindawonye ndawonye. Ngingenhla. Akukho ukwaneliseka. Inqubo nje.
Kwesinye isikhathi ubonakala eduzane ... futhi sengivele nginocansi. Strange ... umuzwa wokunganeliseki ngenqubo. "
Leli khetho leli liphupha kanjani! Kucace bha kubonisa kanjani umqondo wokusondela ku-pair. Owesifazane ulale nomyeni wakhe, ehlukaniswa ngokuphelele nalokho okwenzeka kuye. Ihlelwe kuye nomuzwa wayo wokungagculiseki. Ake sithi kuyiphupho, kepha iphupho elinjalo, eliveza okuningi. Cabanga nje ukuthi uhlangabezana nomunye umlingani lapho ebona ukuthi ubulili nabo buyinqubo yenqubo yenqubo nokudumazeka okwengeziwe kunokuthokoza. Ungubani ngalesi sikhathi ngokwakhe? Ngokusemandleni afuna ukusondela okunjalo, lapho kuwumsebenzi owengeziwe, futhi ungapheli? Ngokuqinisekile bekufanele ukhathazeke ngokuthile okufana nolunye usuku, lapho, naphezu kokusondela kobulili, wayazi ukuthi umlingani engqondweni yami wawukude kuwe futhi esebenzisa kuphela ukuxhumana nawe kwemizwa ethile. Kuyini ukuzizwa kusetshenziswe noma kusetshenziswe?
Ubudlelwane bocansi ku-pair - lokhu kuyingxenye ye-lacmus emincane yokuzidela kwasekuqaleni
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Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uhlale umakali wakho kuphela nokwaneliseka kwawo ngenqubo, hhayi nhlobo. Okushiwo isigaba esingenhla akusingenzi umuzwa wecala, kodwa ukunaka, njengoba kwesinye isikhathi inqubo yokuthola "ukusondela" kube yindlela yangempela yebanga eliphakeme ukusuka kumlingani.
Kepha ukubonwa okwengeziwe ngokwengeziwe kuba yiphupho umvuthwandaba wakhe lapho umyeni eduzane. Leli phupho libonisa iphupho, njengoba nje umyeni wakhe enesimo sengqondo sokufana maqondana nokuthi waneliseke kangakanani ngokwawo, impilo futhi, njengengxenye yalokhu kuphila, ubudlelwano naye.
Ubudlelwano bezocansi ku-pair - lokhu kuyingxenye ye-lactium emcibishele yesikhathi sokuqala. Kuyisiko ukusola umlingani ngempilo yocansi engagculisi, empeleni amandla okuthola injabulo, ukuxhumana, i-orgasm, ukunikela futhi ujabulele - noma ngabe umlingani athinta kuphela ngokungaqondile, noma ngabe umthandi onekhono kangakanani. Icala yilona nje indlela imfanelo ehlobene nempilo yobulili ikhona kubantu empilweni yansuku zonke. Kuthiwani ngekhono lokuxhumana? Kuthiwani ngekhono lokujabula futhi ube nomunye umuntu? Yini ikhono lokucwiliswa ngokuphelele kwinqubo? Ngokuqondene nabantu banelisekile ngempela kubani, futhi bangafuni amathuba okuzethemba ukuzethemba kwabo ngokulahlekelwa kothile? Ucansi luyinqubo yokuqinisekisa Lowo abantu abazibona ngamehlo abo: abalahleki badumala ngokuphila, okuphazamisayo futhi bacindezelekile, bakhohlise futhi bakwazile, bazise eshawini ukuthi ayikho indawo kubo kulobu budlelwano. Noma ebalulekile futhi maqondana nokunakekelwa, okunentshisekelo nothando, kusobala, kuthembekile.
Ukuya ocansini ngesikhathi eside kuyisimanga esimangazayo nokuzazi.
Uma iphupho lethu liyincazelo emphefumulweni, ungajula esihlokweni sokukhungatheka okwenziwe nguwe, uzizwe empilweni, njengenqubo "yenqubo yenqubo" yempilo engenayo.
Hhayi-ke, ubheka umlingani wakho kanye nawe eceleni kwakhe. Yini ozokutshela yona impilo yocansi namaphupho ngaye?
Izibonelo zamaphupho akho Thumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Indlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli obaluleke kakhulu uzobhalela izimo zokuphila ezandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke - imizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka Kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin