Izibalo zesehlukaniso zikhula ngokungazelelwe. Uma emashumi eminyaka ambalwa edlule, kwakuyisinyathelo esibucayi, esatshelwa ngokuthi "iphutha" lomndeni, lapho isikhathi eside singakwazi ukunquma okungenani ukucatshangelwa ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo, manje isimo senhlalo siyashintsha. Abesifazane bathola amadoda amancane abuyela kubasebenzi abasebenza kahle kwabahlengikazi. Ungabi ndawonye ngenxa yezingane, imali nayo ayinakunamathisela ubuhlobo. Yilolo mboleko yemalimboleko ... izimo zasekhaya nezenhlalo zihlala zinjalo, naphezu komshado noma ohlukanisile.
Isehlukaniso siyancipha, bekungabonakala, kwaba lula. Kepha bekungekho lapho. Umndeni, mhlawumbe, umthombo ocebile wesipiliyoni: ukuhlala ngokuhlangene, ukunqoba ubunzima, izinkinga nokukhula, kwesinye isikhathi, ngisho nokusinda. Akunjalo, vele unikeze umlingani ohamba eduze kwakho ngendlela efanayo. Ikakhulukazi lapho kunobudlelwano. Futhi badlula ngokusebenza komphakathi noma ubuzali.
Ngizonikeza isibonelo sokusesha kwangaphakathi kwamaphupho ethu. Kusuka emaphusheni athile athile empilweni yakhe ayaqondakala, kepha nokho i-biography emfushane. Uneminyaka engama-40 ubudala, sekuyisikhathi eside eshadile, kukhona ingane. Manje wahamba wayofunda ngodokotela wezengqondo. Futhi izinyanga ezimbalwa zibandakanyekile ekufuneni impendulo: noma ngabe uhlale nomyeni wakhe. Futhi kanjani, uma kungeke kungenzeka. Futhi uma ungahlali, ungaba kanjani?
Nakhu oku-2 ukulala ngomehluko ngesonto. Imiyalezo yabo futhi upende ukuxabana okuyinhloko kwenkinga yakhe.
1. "Ngikhetha ifulethi elisha ngihambe nobaba, ngibheka. Endaweni engaziwa ngokuphelele, indawo enkulu kanye nombhoshongo ophakeme kakhulu. Uhhafu ogcwele. Ngibabuka futhi ngicabanga ukuthi uma kungekhozakhamizi ezingazi lutho endaweni engafanele, khona-ke noma yimuphi umbhoshongo owakhiwe. Scary njalo. Lokhu ngokuvamile i-phobia yami. Ukuthi uphahla lungawa.
I-Realtor ikhombisa ifulethi, futhi uhhafu wonyaka waphila kulo, nekati. Ngithukuthelela kakhulu ukuthi wena, ngangokunokwenzeka, umyeni wami une-allergies, akufanele kube namakati, futhi ngokujwayelekile angibheki nenketho umuntu ayehlala efulethini. Ngisebenzela indawo entsha kuphela.
Ngicabanga ukuthi uma ngigeza umyeni wami ukuba ahlakaze. Kungani ngikhetha indlu yokufundisa? "
2. "Ngize eqenjini lezokwelapha, sinokuningi, lonke ihholo, umuntu 30 uthisha ukhuluma ngothando. Uthi konke, nalokho okukhona emndenini kuhlangane nakho, uletha eqenjini. Kuyizinkinga zakho nokunye, lapha, eqenjini kuzotholakala. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uma kunezinkinga emndenini, khona-ke eqenjini, mhlawumbe othile uzophotha umuntu othile. Uthi, Yebo, uzothandana, futhi uveze izimvemvane esiswini, nakho konke lokho. Sihlala, lalela. Futhi intombazane eyodwa ibuza, ibamba iqhaza ngenkuthalo, imibono. Futhi kubonakala sengathi akayona eqhamuka eqenjini njengesibukeli. Kukhona okushiwo bese kubika ukuthi uneminyaka engama-25 ubudala. Futhi ngibheka umuntu afunda naye. Futhi sikhuluma naye ngezwi elilodwa: "Futhi kubukeka sengathi konke kungamashumi amane. Yini lapho 25 ". Ngiyaqonda ukuthi konke lokhu kungu-25 enhliziyweni yami, ngakho-ke ngaphandle konyaka wamashumi amane. Futhi, izimvemvane, empeleni, ngifuna ukuthandwa. "
Yebo, nansi ukwethulwa kwengxabano. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ephusheni lokuqala, amaphupho ethu abona ukuthi "izakhiwo ezintsha" zakhe ezingakubona kanjani. Bonke bakubo futhi abangathembekile. Futhi waphila nomuntu. Ikhaya elisha, okungukuthi, impilo entsha, esayinamandla kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ephusheni athi: "Cha, nginecebo lokuphila nomyeni wami, ngokungezwani kwakhe ngamakati. Futhi akukhosahluko. "
Iphupho lesibili libonisa elinye uhlangothi lwendondo. Uthandana ukuze uzitshele: "Ngineminyaka engu-25 futhi, ngisemncane, ngiyangithanda, khetha, ngiyabonga. Ngiphinde ngiphinde ngijabule kakhulu. Angifuni ukuthinta iqiniso lokuthi ngingu-40, khona-ke kuzoba nama-45-50. " Lowo mnuka usuvele unolunye uhlobo lokuthi izindlela ezijwayelekile zokuphunyuka ekuvuthweni zazo azisezodwa.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ephusheni, kuzinikela imvume yokuzama zonke izinketho zesipiliyoni. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ekubeni ngikhulume nawe: "Cha-cha, kodwa ngishadile! Awukwazi ukuwela othandweni! "Umphumela uzobuyiselwa emuva, ngisho nokuqiniswa okuqinisile. Ngendlela, ubona leli phupho mayelana neqembu, okungukuthi, okwaziyo ukuthi le nkinga ayifani neyingqayizivele, eyodwa kuphela enikezwe ukuyixazulula.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akuzona zonke izinkanuko empilweni ezingatholwa ngohlamvu lwemali oluhlanzekile. Kwesinye isikhathi yi-hoax kuphela, inkohliso yokumboza izihloko ezinzima kakhulu. Okunjalo, njengezinkinga ezidume kakhulu zeminyaka engama-40. Impilo Emaphakathi. Ukuqwashisa ukuthi amabutho amancane ayengawudla. Manje zizwa okuningi, okunenjongo, kepha izibopho ezihluke ngokuphelele. Futhi akusaphelanga kangako, ukuqothulwa kobuhle bemvelo, ezempilo, ubusha. Manje konke lokhu kuzoba umphumela wokukhathazeka ngawe, kwabasebenzi kanye nediphozi.
Amahle, amaphupho akhombisa amaphupho ethu. Vele, akekho ongamtshela ukuthi ungaba kanjani. Isinqumo sale ngxabano ngemuva kwaso, futhi, kubonakala sengathi, wazizungeza iqembu lokusekelwa okulungile kule ndlela.
Futhi amaphupho akho?
Izibonelo zamaphupho akho athumela ngeposi: [email protected]. Ngendlela, amaphupho kulula kakhulu ukuwaveza uma encwadini eya kumhleli uzobhala izimo zokuphila okwandulelayo, kepha okubaluleke kakhulu - imizwa nemizwa ngesikhathi sokuvuka kuleli phupho.
UMaria Dyachkova, isazi sezengqondo, udokotela wezokwelapha umndeni kanye nokuqeqeshwa okuholayo kweSikhungo Sokukhulisa Ukukhula KwaMarika Khazin