Okokuqala, Cabanga ngomcimbi omubi kakhulu wokuthuthukiswa kwemicimbi, bese kubi, kuyini, ngokombono wakho, kungabeka umzamo wokukhuluma ngocansi. Impela, lokhu "okubi" kuzoba ukungaqondakali okuphelele ngawe ngengxenye yakho, okungaphezu kokubonga okuyisiphepho - kungekudala kuzoholela ekuphumeni kobudlelwano obuphelele. Kodwa-ke, uma ingxoxo ngezihloko ezisondelene empeleni izoholela ekuhlukaniseni - ke mhlawumbe kwakungeyona nje umuntu wakho? Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuthanda ngempela nokuzinikezela kuwe ngeke kukushiye kahle ngenxa yokwesaba okulula kwengxoxo kunoma yiziphi izihloko. Uma ukuxhumana kwezihloko zezocansi kusaba ngakuqala konke kungathandeki, bese uzama ukubona ngengxenye yakho ethile enhle yefilimu ehlelekile (makube ekuthuleni kokuthula). Kulokhu, umdwebo onjalo we-classic, njengo "Tango yokugcina eParis", "9 nohhafu amasonto" noma "imvelo enkulu" izofanele. Ingxoxo "engenacala" yesakhiwo sazo esizothinta kahle izigcawu zombhede nakanjani, futhi lokhu kungenxa yezingxoxo zocansi ezizohumusha kalula esiteshini sobudlelwano bakho. Futhi manje bengizobonakala ngisuswe!
Kunenye indlela yokubhubhisa ukwesaba ukuxhumana ngezihloko zobulili - lokhu ukushintshaniswa kwezindima. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukunquma ezingxoxweni ezinjalo, kodwa njalo ubusa ubuhlobo ebudlelwaneni, zama ukunika "ama-brozy of board" kumlingani wakho - mhlawumbe uzokwazi ukwenza engingakwazi ukukuphawula, kalula futhi kunganakwa, okuzozuzisa kuphela ubuhlobo bakho. By the way, uvame ukubheja engxoxweni "ngalokhu" - umphumela wohlobo lwe-stereotype, ngokusho ukuthi akudingekile ukukhuluma ngocansi ngomgomo - kudingeka ngenze kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ukuxhumana ngezihloko zezocansi kuwukuzenzakalelayo okuthile okungalungile - nokho, ngobudlelwano ngokwesimiso akukho lutho olungalungile! Bayinkambu engapheli yokwazi omunye komunye, futhi eminye imikhawulo lapha ayinalutho nje ukuyenza.
Okokugcina, ake sithi izingxoxo "ezinqatshelwe" kuwe ngocansi ziwuhlobo lokuhlola okumnandi. Awesabi ukwenza uthando ntambama, hhayi ebusuku? Awukwethuli umbono wokuhamba ndawonye nomlingani onombhede etafuleni noma ekhaphethini? Ngemuva kwalokho ungesabi futhi uthi "ngakho" - ngemuva kwakho konke, engcupheni, into esemqoka ukuthi "inqubo" ngokwayo iletha zonke izimbambo zakhe ezingenakubambiswa kubo bobabili abalingani, futhi noma yiluphi ucwaningo luhambe lapha kuphela ukuthandwa.