Akunandaba ukuthi ucasulwe kangakanani ngumlingani wethu, ukugxekwa okubukhali - into embi kakhulu ongayisebenzisa ecaleni lokuxabana. Kancane kancane, kodwa ngokuqinisekile le ndlela izobhubhisa ngisho nobudlelwano obuqine kakhulu.
Abesifazane bangamadoda amaningi ngokomzwelo, ngaphezu kwalokho, bazi ngokuphelele ukuthi bangawusebenzisa kanjani umlingani ukuthola okufisayo, kepha abahlinzeki ngenketho yokubhubhisa lobu budlelwano obunjalo ngenxa yokunganaki imizwa yendoda. Sizokwabelana ngezincomo, ukuthi singakugwema kanjani ukuxabana futhi sicindezele isifiso sokwenza indoda.
Awukwazi ukuguqula umuntu
Amaningi iZhkkchchina afuna 'ukukhulisa' umuntu wawo ukuze ahlangabezane nokulindelwe futhi akwenze noma yimuphi umuntu. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi owesilisa ubuntu obuhleliwe ongadingi imizamo yakho yokuyishintsha yona.
Kumuntu akukho lutho olubi ukwedlula ukwethuka ngokuziqhenya, uyovele azonda owesifazane ocindezele ukuzethemba kwakhe. Lapho umuntu wesifazane ehlala "sawd" womlingani, athembele emkhathini ofudumele ekhaya nangokuvumelana ebudlelwaneni akusekho nzima, ngoba indoda ngesikhathi esisodwa esifanele ngeke ihambe, i-charter ibekezelela imizamo yakho yokuba " Hlala naye ngaphansi kwakhe ngokuhlanjalazwa nokugxekwa.
Amadoda azwela kakhulu
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Bukela amagama
Vumela abesifazane futhi babhekwa njengobuthakathaka, amadoda afana nalowo asabele ekugxekeni nasekubuzeni ngokungangabazeki kwabesilisa. Kodwa-ke, lokhu akusho ukuthi abagxeki kufanele bagwenywe. Ngokumangazayo, iqiniso: Indoda eyayavuma ukuthi umlingani avuma ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi kukho konke, iqala ukuphuthelwa, ubudlelwano bulahlekelwa ukunambitheka kwangaphambilini nobukhali kuye - owesifazane akadonseli noma ngubani ngaphandle kwemibono yakhe. Ngakho-ke, zama ukugxeka umlingani empeleni, hhayi ukuhlambalaza hhayi ukuthuka, futhi nangaphezulu ngakho ngaphandle kokukugxeka kubantu. Ukugxekwa okulula kuzokunyakazisa indoda enesithukuthezi.
Akunakujwayelekile
"Nonke niyakuthi!", "Yini enye okufanele uyilindele kuwe!" - Imishwana ezothatha ngisho nendoda ezolile kakhulu. Ngokufanayo, ukuhlambalaza komuntu siqu kubonakala kuthi: "Awukwazi ...", "kufanele ..." Izingxabano ngemuva kwalawa magama angeke agwenywe. Indoda izoqala ukuzwa ukungakuthandi, ngoba uyazi ukuthi uyakuthanda ukubamba imishwana ye-maryaide elimaza ukuziqhenya kwayo. Njengoba sishilo phambilini, sigxeka kuphela ecaleni futhi ngaphandle kokujwayelekile.
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Njengomthetho, abesifazane baqala ukukhohlisa, benqabela ubulili, lapho ezinye izingxabano zingahlali: "Uma ungithanda, ngabe sengizokwenza ...". Ngaphandle kokuthola okufisayo, owesifazane angaya ezindleleni ezedlulele - ukuqala ukugxeka amathuba ezocansi umlingani. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukucindezelwa nokuhlambalaza uzothola umuntu oyingozi ozongena ezifisweni zakho futhi ekugcineni akhuleke ngokuba khona kwakho, noma uzongena lapho, lapho kungekho khona ingcindezi enjalo.
Gwema Ukuthuka
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Khumbula ukuthi izinsinyi kwesinye isikhathi zizwela kakhulu kunabesifazane, ngakho-ke kufanele uzikhiphe zonke izinkulumo ezihlaselayo kusuka ekugxekeni kwakho kwe-lexicon nokugxeka kwethamo kuye endodeni yakho. Kulesi simo kuphela kungenzeka ukusungula inkhulumomphendvulwano futhi uqhubeke nokwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile.