Ososayensi baseMelika bacabanga ukuthi kungani abantu ngakolunye uhlangothi balinde ukuqashelwa othandweni abavela kumlingani wabo, futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi bayasaba. Kuze kube yilapho amagama aphathelene nemizwa emnene angadala ama-hysterics noma ulaka kubantu.
Abamele inhlangano yase-American Glendon Association, esebenza ngokukhethekile ekufundweni kwe-Psychology Yomuntu, yenze umjikelezo wokutadisha wonke.
Into yokuqala abakwazile ukuthola ukuthi izihloko azihlale zikuqaphele ukusabela okungekuhle okunzima ekubonakaliseni kothando ekhelini labo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bona ngokwabo abakwazanga ukuchaza ukwanda okusheshayo kwemizwa. Kwabonakala kubo ukuthi, kunalokho, babelinde ukuthi la mazwi avela esithandwani sawo.
Ososayensi baphetha ngokuthi le yinqubo engazi lutho. Ukuqashelwa othandweni kuphoqa abantu ngandlela thile, kuguqula izimpilo zabo, okungukuthi, kukhombisa indawo evamile yenduduzo. Kungumzuzu obangela ukucasuka.
Indoda yake yathola okuhlangenwe nakho okungaphumelelanga: uthando olungafanelekile, ukukhaphela, isehlukaniso, akufuni ukuphindaphinda. I-psyche igcina inkumbulo: "Ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjalo, kwakubuhlungu." Futhi umuntu ngokuzithoba uqala ukuzivikela ekusondeni okungokomzwelo nokunamathiselwe, uzama ukuthatha umhlalaphansi kakhulu kumlingani wakhe.