Inkulumo, yize phambi kwezithameli ezincane, kuyingcindezi enkulu cishe kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Kodwa-ke, okuthunyelwe okuningi kusho ukukhulumisana nomphakathi, okungaba yisithiyo esiqotho sokukhulisa. Uma kunzima ukulungiselela nokufinyelela emphakathini, sizozama ukukusiza unqobe ukwesaba kwakho.
Zama ukubona ukukhathazeka njengenjabulo emnandi
Imvamisa kakhulu sizothuthukisa i-alamu ngaphambi kokusebenza. Iseluleko sibonakala 'sithatha nje futhi senze "lapha ungasebenzi, ngakho-ke unganciphisa izinga lokukhathazeka ngokwakho, ngaphandle kwamacebo okuzungezile. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo batusa indlela enhle esebenza ngempela, okungukuthi, ukubona i-alamu njengomuzwa omnandi. Noma kungenjalo, zitshele: "Ngizwa injabulo emnandi." Phinda leli binzana imizuzu eyi-10, ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile umuzwa wento engenakugwemeka futhi okubi kakhulu kuzokushiya.
Kufanele uzilungiselele ukuthi akukho lutho olubi okwenzeka kuwe, qaphela ukufinyelela okuzayo ezilalelini njengokuthile, ngemuva kwalokho okuthile empilweni yakho okufanele kuguquke kube ngcono. Ngamanye amagama - okungalungile.
Cabanga ngalokho ofuna ukutshela abantu
Yebo, ukusebenza phambi kwabantu abakubalule kakhulu kochwepheshe - ngasikhathi sinye udumo olukhulu, kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo. Kodwa-ke, akufanelekile ukucabanga ngalokho abantu abazocabanga ngakho.
Okwamanje lapho uqala ukumboza ukwethuka imizuzu embalwa ngaphambi kokungena kubantu, odokotela bezengqondo bancoma ukucabanga ngalokho ofuna ukukudlulisela kubantu. Vele uqonde ukuthi awukwezanga kuwe ukwazisa, futhi ukuze abantu bathole ukuthi yini ongabatshela yona kuphela. Ukutholwa kweqiniso lokuthi uletha inani elikhulu kakhulu ezilalelini zakho, ukuthuthukisa imizwa emangalisayo futhi kunciphisa izinga lokukhathazeka.
Cabanga ngalokho ofuna ukukudlulisela emphakathini
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Ungazami ukuyilawula konke
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bayazethemba ukuthi abantu abahlelwe kakhulu ngama-trifles ekukhulumeni kwabo, uma kwenzeka okungenani ukungqongqoza okuncane, kuqala ukwethuka kunokwejwayelekile. Njengomthetho, kwenzeka lapho ukhumbula ngekhanda inkulumo yakho ngamazwi, uziphoqele ukuze uthuthukise futhi uchaze ezinye izinto ngamazwi akho.
Uma imibono ekukhulumeni kwakho kakhulu, ungazami ukugcina yonke into ekhanda lami, yabela abathathu okubaluleke kakhulu nangokugxila kubo. Ngakho-ke ubuchopho bakho bube lula ukugxila futhi buhluleke ukunqotshwa. Futhi akekho okhansele ukuzincela - "Nginethuba lokusho ukuthi yini ongakwazi ukutshela abanye, okwenza inkulumo yami ibaluleke ngokwayo."
Ukuzivocavoca ngokomzimba kuyadingeka
Uma ungakwazi ukunika amandla umthwalo omzimba ukulungiselela ukusebenza, okungenani ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokukhishwa komphakathi. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bayazethemba ukuthi umsebenzi womzimba uyakwazi ukunciphisa izinga lokuxineka cishe. Enye indlela enhle yokuba izivivinyo zokuphefumula - ukuzijwayeza ngokushesha ngaphambi kokusebenza uqobo.
Baqonde ukuthi abantu bafuna ukukuzwa
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