Imvamisa, amantombazane nabesifazane bafuna ukuthola ingxenye yabo, bashada abanikela ngenhliziyo yakhe futhi bazinikele futhi bamphathe umthwalo wemfanelo ngenxa yezimpilo zabo nenkululeko,
Ufuna ukungaphili impilo yakho, kepha impilo yomuntu noma umyeni. Esikhundleni salokho, unokukhohlisa ukuthi manje usuthole umlingani, impilo yakho ekugcineni iphelele. Wena ngokwakho uzizwa "ephelele" eduze "naye kuphela."
"Impilo yakhe" ibalulekile futhi iyathakazelisa, futhi yayo, njengokungathi ayigugu kangako, futhi ingesinye. "Umbono wakhe" uhlala eyiqiniso, futhi noma ngabe awuvumelani emphefumulweni, acasukile futhi athukuthele, akunakwenzeka ukukuveza. Isimo sakhe kanye nesimo sakhe osibamba ngaleso sikhathi, sigelezela kuwe, kube sengathi umbhangqwana wakho ungumkhumbi wokubika. Unqatshelwe, "yena" ngeke agculisekile noma athukuthele. Ngokushesha ubathusa kakhulu, futhi uzizwa kabi futhi unecala.
Ngalezo zinhlonipho, umlingani ubonakala eyisibalo esinamandla onke, esingenza sikwazi ukwenza elinye lobukhona noma uthando, kodwa futhi lungancishiswa kalula le njabulo, ngculiswe ekulangazelweni lapho kugula noma kuthukuthele.
Ulinde umlingani wento efanayo nezidingo zengane, osanda kuza kulomhlaba. Uthando, imfudumalo, ukwamukela, ukuze aqagele futhi enza izifiso zakho, azinikele isikhathi sami namandla. Ingxenye ethile ngaphakathi awuzange ukhule. Ulambile ngaphambi kothando futhi uludinga ngempela ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa. Mhlawumbe uzizwa ulungele ukunikeza uthando olufanayo olukhulu kumlingani, ngokuba umama wakhe. Wena kuphela nawe, futhi akekho omunye okudingayo.
Kepha kungekudala noma kamuva uthola ukuthi awutholi kokuthandayo lokho esikulindile. Awunakunakwa okuncane, amazwi akhe asetshenziswa ndawonye, umvumela ukuba amphathe ngesihluku futhi acabangele leso simo esifanelwe, ngoba sasikuthukuthelisa. Emphefumulweni, ubuhlungu nokuhlambalaza, ukudumazeka nentukuthelo. Kunamanxeba amaningi kokungaqondi nokwenqatshwa. Kepha osemusha wakho ngeke akwazi ukuphulukisa la manxeba, noma ngabe ufunwa kangakanani ngempela, njengoba avele emphefumulweni wakho kudala futhi wabangela ukuthi ufake ukuxhumana okunjalo.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ubudlelwane buba buhlungu futhi bunganeliseki ukuthi bafuna ukugqashuka kubo. Kepha isizungu siyesabeka kakhulu kunobuhlungu eduze komlingani. Kubukeka sengathi uzithola ushintshana kakhulu. Lapho-ke ubhekene nenjabulo eduze kwesithandwa sakho, uthethelela futhi ukhohlwe zonke izinhlamba, mbumbulu komunye wobukhona bakhe. Lapho-ke uzwa ukukhululeka futhi ngokungadingekile, uthukuthele futhi uyakuzonda, wena kanye nokukhanya okumhlophe okumhlophe, kugula ngokoqobo kusuka ekulangazelweni nasekuphelelwe yithemba. Futhi bakulungele ukunika konke emhlabeni ukuthola "umthamo" wothando olusha futhi, oluzosusa futhi lube nobuhlungu obuhlungu.
Phuma kunoma yikuphi ukuncika, kufaka phakathi othandweni, akulula. Ukuzimisela kwakho kanye nesifiso sokushintsha isimo sobudlelwano osisebenzisa empilweni yakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Futhi nesifiso sokushintsha umbhalo wakho wangaphakathi.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga yokuncika kothando. Awucabangi impilo ngaphandle kwalo muntu futhi awukwazi ukuhlukana naye, noma ngabe iqiniso lokuthi ubudlelwano bungakwenelisi kakhulu. Nalokhu udinga ukwenza okuthile, inkinga ngokwayo ngeke ikhiphe, kepha iye yanda kuphela.
Kubalulekile ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho. Ungadinga usizo lochwepheshe. Kepha udinga ukwamukela nokuzwa iqiniso lokuthi muhle futhi ubalulekile ngoba beza kulomhlaba. Awusimbi futhi awukho ngcono kunabanye abantu. Ubalulekile ngobunye bakho kanye neqiniso lobukhona bakho, njengawo wonke umuntu. Ukuze uzizwe ujabule futhi ugcwele, awumdingi omunye umuntu, kufanele wazi kangcono.
Kubalulekile ukwenza ikhono lokuqamba nokuvikela imingcele yakho, uthi "cha" uma ungafuni okuthile, noma okuthile okutholakalayo. Imvamisa ekwesabeni ukunqatshwa nokushiywa, intombazane ayixazululwa ngisho nokubiza leligaga lomlingo "Cha", ngaleyo ndlela likuvumela ukuba unyathele futhi uthele imizwa yakho. Ngasikhathi sinye uzizwa engajabulisi futhi akaqondakali.
Kubalulekile ukuxhumana nemizwa yakho. Funda ukulalela okwenzekayo kuwe. Hhayi kulokho okwenzeka kumlingani wakho nakulokho akufunayo, kodwa imizwa yakhe, imizwa kanye nezifundazwe. Ungumuntu ohlukile, unezifiso zakho, imizwa nemicabango. Bakuvumelanisa nalokho okudingayo noma okukubi kuwe. Uma ufunda ukubona lezi zimpawu, ungazizwa ujabule futhi ujabule futhi ugcwalise. Uzodinga okuncane ukubheka ukwesekwa kwenye.