Konke kwaqala ngengxoxo emfushane ekhuphukeni nomngane. Wabuza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani, futhi ngaphendula ngomkhuba kangangokuba ngangihamba kahle njengakuhlala njalo. "Kwenzeka kuphela kubantu abayiziphukuphuku kakhulu," kwakuyimpendulo yakhe, okuyinto, ngokuvamile, futhi yasebenza njengomfutho wokuzindla.
Uma uvuma ngokweqiniso, imizwa engeyinhle, ukungaqiniseki kusasa kanye nesimo sokwethuka kokukhanya yilokho esibhekene nakho nsuku zonke. Kodwa-ke, akekho umuntu ofuna ukuzivuma kuye, futhi ngokwengeziwe abanye ukuthi okuthile empilweni akukukhulu kangako. Yebo, khombisa othile onenjabulo futhi echaza ngombala ukwehluleka nezinkinga zakho lapho bekhuluma kuphela ngezinto ezifinyelelwe? Kwakungaba lula ukukhononda, kepha ngaphandle kombukiso, "impilo enhle" enjalo ngekhulu lama-21 ngekhulu lama-21 alikwazanga ukukwenza. Futhi ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuhle, ngoba kumnandi ukubona ukuthi uzungezwe abantu abajabulayo, futhi ungasebenzi ezinkingeni zontanga. Kepha yinto engafuni ukuthatha isimo sayo samanje sikhuphukela ezinkingeni ezinkulu kakhulu.
Uqaphele ukuthi kunezindatshana eziningi ngesihloko esithi "Ungasusa Kanjani Isimo Esibi", "Nquma ukudabuka", njll. Ngasikhathi sinye, angizange ngikwenze okuqukethwe, lapho bekungakucebisa khona ukuthi uthathe okwenzeka ngaphakathi Izinqubo bese uzinikeza ithuba lokuphumula kusuka ekulweni nalo. Kunoma ikuphi, angibizi ukucindezelwa futhi ngiyijabulele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngenxa yethemba laso lemvelo, mina uqobo nami uqobo ngivuma imicabango emibi, kepha akungivimbeli ekubekeni okuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi. Uthukulule ukulawula kwakho futhi uvumele ukuzwa lokho okufunayo umzimba wakho, hhayi lokho okusolakala ukuthi kuzolunga. Isibonelo, ebuntwaneni, asizange sihleke lapho sifuna ukukhala?
UVladislav Makarchuk ukholelwa ukuthi udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungasithatha kanjani isimo sakho esibi - khona-ke kuzothuthuka ngokushesha
Umzimba ulungile futhi utholakala kakhulu. Uma sizocindezela imizwa ethile isikhathi eside, khona-ke ngokuzayo kuzozinikela ngokuzwakalayo, futhi futhi uphonsa igagasi lomuntu oqhumayo. Cabanga nje ukuthi ufuna ngempela ucezu oluncane lwekhekhe, kepha lokhu kudla kuthi ufulawa uyisitha esinobuqili. Ake sithi, ezinsukwini ezimbalwa noma amasonto anenkani ukugwema ngenkani uConfectionery, kepha ngasikhathi sinye 'ungavuka' konke okukhekhe futhi ungaqondi ukuthi bayidla kanjani ngokuphelele. Futhi manje ake ungitshele okungcono: ukukhokhela ucezu lobumnandi noma ufe ngemuva kokuwudla ngokuphelele? Ngiholela eqinisweni lokuthi uma ufuna ukukhala, ukumemeza abanye, ngokwemvelo; ngesizungu esiqhoshayo, ngesihloko esiphikisayo, ngokwesibonelo), khona-ke ngokucophelela, ngicela Ungesabi imizwa nemizwa yakho, funda ukuthi ungawathatha kanjani, khona-ke uzoqonda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nabo.
Umuntu kufanele avume kuye ukuthi unomumo omubi noma usuku olungaphumeleli. Kufanele afunde ukuthatha iqiniso lokuthi akakwazi ukuba bushelelezi njalo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ngezikhathi lapho ukweqisa kwenzeka, kulula kakhulu ukusinda kubo. Kungemva kokuthi "ukwamukelwa" kwenkinga, ubuchopho bethu buqala ukubheka izindlela zokuyixazulula. Uma kwenzeka uzophika "isimo esibi", akunakwenzeka ukuthi le mbuso izoshintsha.
Angiphakamisi ukukhononda kwabanye, shayela phakathi kobusuku kubangani kanye nezindaba ezinesicefe. Ngizama ukukukholisa ukuthi udinga ukufunda ukuzwa imizwa yakho. Omunye uzwakala elula, yebo? Ngikholwe, ngiyazi ukuthi kubi kangakanani ukuthatha imicabango yami. Vumela ukuzwa lokho engikufunayo ngalomzuzu - okuthokozisayo, kepha kwezinye izindawo okuheha kakhulu. Wehlisa amandla okulawulwa kwemizwa, nakanjani uzozwa ushintsho oluncane kakhulu esimeni futhi ekugcineni uqonde ukuthi akunjalo "okuyingozi." Ngikholwa ukuthi ukwenza sengathi akuholeli kunoma yini enhle futhi akusenzi kube ngcono / kunamandla / kuyadeleleka emehlweni abanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhohliswa emizweni yabo yonke impilo yabo yonke, ngeke usebenze noma kunjalo (lokhu akunakwenzeka ukuthi kube yinselele!) Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukuqala ukulalela isimo sakho sangaphakathi.